06 Phrases smart people don’t say – Improve communication skills, business etiquette & be confident.

06 Phrases smart people don’t say – Improve your communication skills, be confident and learn business etiquette.

In this Skillopedia session by Niharika we are going to look at certain English phrases that you need to drop out of your vocabulary immediately. There are certain phrases that smart people do not use because you never know how people would interpret them and showcase your negative attitude. So it's important for you to use similar phrases that would make you sound confident, however in other ways and that's what we are going to help you with in today's session. So which are these career killers phrases that you need to drop out of your vocabulary, watch the video at Skillopedia – the place for good communication skills and personality development.

It’s not fair

Of course life is not fair. We do want our life to be just perfect, but that's not reality. Life is never fair but you can't really use this phrase in front of people because when you end up using this phrase people would think that you are absolutely immature or naive. It's important for you to stay constructive. So stop using the phrase, that's not fair.

This is it how it works always

Are you really very lazy? Now, if you end up telling people, your boss, your colleagues or your clients that “hey this is how it works always”. Well it shows that you are way too lazy and you don't want to improve on things. All you need to work on yourself, you need to bring in new things in order to improve your work. So stop using this of a phrase and look forward to changing your work style.

I am going to ask you a silly question

Another commonly used phrase which is sure shot a career killer is, I'm going to ask you a very silly question. Well no question is silly, no question is stupid. Many people tend to do that. I know this is a very silly or a very stupid question. Well this means that you are not confident about yourself. Do not judge yourself, do not be your worst critic. You need to come out confidently. If you have a question, if you have any kind of information or any idea that you would like to share with your team members, with your clients or with your boss, just go ahead. Be confident about it.

He is such a jerk/incompetent/lazy

The next common phrase that people use is, that he is such a jerk, he is absolutely incompetent. He is so lazy. You need to stop doing that. You cannot really go ahead and start announcing or form opinions about others. By doing so, it just shows that how insecure you are about yourself. Now if you don't have the power to improve them or if you don't have the power to fire them, then what's the point of announcing or broadcasting them as lazy, incompetent or jerks. That's not going to help you. So, it's important for you to just understand that there are times that we do live with difficult people, we do work with lazy, incompetent jerks. But there's no point by announcing them as one of these lazy, jerk people.

It’s not my fault

The next phrase that people end up using is - it's not my fault. Yes there are people who love to play the blame game. It’s not my fault, it's coz of him. It's because of her that this just went wrong. Well stop doing that, it just shows that you lack accountability. There are people who are going to build this negative image about you, you start pointing out fingers. People are going to really avoid working with you. If it is your fault have the courage to admit it. If it is someone else's fault well let your boss or your colleague figure that out. You don't have to be the one to point out fingers and by saying that hey it's not my fault.

I hate this job

The most important phrase that you need to drop from your vocabulary is, I hate, I hate, I hate. There are people around you, who end up using this phrase way too much. They love to crib and complain about everything. I hate my boss, I hate my job, I’m so stressed. I hate my colleagues, I hate everything. Yes, if you hate your life or your job or your boss so much, it's time to quit. Stop spoiling the work environment. There are people around you who want to feel motivated and encouraged. End up being so negative, you are spoiling the work environment. Try to work on things that would improve your life. Try to do something that you would really want to and like to.

So this brings us to the end of this session today. Do follow us on Skillopedia, the place for good communication skills and personality development.

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[thinkforyourselfjohn]

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[grizzlygrizzle]

On the "silly question" issue, this phrase is often used as a disarming rhetorical flourish to lead into a question about fundamental assumptions. Perhaps it's better put as, "This may seem like a silly question." This can be a gentle and polite way of introducing some doubt about the conventional wisdom of the people in a particular subculture. (Introducing outside-the-box thinking can require some mental work from one's audience, and some tact is sometimes required.)
Done disingenuously, the "silly question" thing can be a sarcastic attack, like a false posture of humility done by an arrogant person who wants to make someone else look stupid. At any rate, it's not always a sign of a lack of confidence.

[alejandrolemus]

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[nanci_sousa]

Very useful tips! Not only for business environment but also for our daily life!

[rajeevkumar-phlt]

learnt a lot. will apply in my own professional life for sure.thanks

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[alejandrovaladez]

Thanks Niharika for your advice, I put in my mind this advice and I'll never thing in these phrases if i want to improve my skills, my life and my environment

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[hanifahmed]

Hey lovely make a video on the topic of ''HOW TO CONCENTRATE ON STUDY & KILL THE OTHER THOUGHTS WHILE WE ARE DOING SOMETHING AT ONE TIME"

[nishanalimuhammadi]

Helo, dear. u r making a great job by providing authentic and even free of cost knowledge.God bless u.. "Sister Niharika is great teacher"❤
I have an inferior request that is about a word (preposition) "To" I know its use only in two ways.1st for direction and 2nd for Infinitive..
"Dear sister Neharika"can u please serve a lecture about the "To" with its complete explanation.?as soon as possible.I will thankful to u for such kindness...

[maneeshkumar]

Thank you mam for the lesson you taught.I will keep this thing in my mind.Your way of teaching is very nice.

[KnightofChristJesus]

Just be Yourself... Involve, Enjoy and do the Work Cheerfully, Soulfully... Be a Perfectionist...
There are Two kinds of People in this World....
I) The One who gets the Best of You and
2) The Other who gets the Worst of You...
Like Jesus says, 'Rejoice and be Glad.'... Just do that...

[myothersoul]

1. A smart person may very well point out "this deal *is not fair* to us, we shouldn't take it" Or "*It's not fair* to treat female employees different from males."

2. A perfectly intelligent person might say "Let me show you how use the copier, ... and *that's the way it works* ..."

3. People at work often preface technical questions they ask me with "I am going to ask a silly question" or something very similar and I never think the less of them. Such self depreciation often releases tension in social situations. Questions often seem silly in retrospect there is nothing wrong with acknowledging that.

4. Yes, don't spend time pointing out your co-workers faults.

4b. Smart people are unlikely to use the phrase "pointing out fingers" but I'm sure you can come up with counter example if you really try.

5. Yes, shifting blame or avoiding responsibility is not a good thing to do but if it really is not your fault, why shouldn't you point that out. It's not my fault the clocks need to be adjusted because of day light savings time.

6. I hate it when company isn't doing well. I hate it when innocent people are hurt. I hate bee stings.

It's not about the phrases you use it's about the ideas they convey.