THIS May Be WHY You Can Never Focus | Mel Robbins

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At the age of 47, I was diagnosed with ADD and it was life-changing.

**DISCLAIMER: I’m NOT a doctor. I can not diagnose you. Please consult your doctor if you identify with any of these symptoms.**

For 47 years I struggled with the inability to focus, a daydreaming habit that cost me many jobs, and became so critical of myself that I was paralyzed by making the smallest decisions every day. In 2016, an article published about the “Lost Generation of Women” revealed that women in their 40s and 50s had been misdiagnosed for decades with chronic anxiety, when, after receiving testing from medical professionals, it turned out they were struggling with A.D.D.

If you are a woman, or know a woman who is 25+ years old and finds it hard to concentrate, this is an incredibly important video to watch. I unpack everything I have learned in my journey to figure out that the forgetfulness and the inability to complete things was all actually my ADD.
A.D.D. and A.D.H.D. are not anything to be ashamed of. You can be successful and smart, and with the right support, you can live free from the frustration of day-to-day activities that seem so easy for everyone else and so difficult for you ❤️

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[AhmetKaan]

*“You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending...”*
*―C. S. Lewis*

[djdswift]

I’ve noticed these symptoms for YEARS and I’m 27. Exercising had helped tremendously and also meditating and practicing being mindful. It takes a lot of discipline but it’s so worth it. ✨

[meenu]

I can finally leave my heart at peace. I've been blaming myself for not being able to focus. I'm unable to focus no matter how hard I try and how much I want to.
I used to daydream as a child endlessly. Even at this age I can't stop myself from making up stories in my head, when I must ve focusing

[Ikaros]

I recomend looking into " minimalism lifestyle". Reducing clutter and simplifying your lifestyle is going to make things ALOT easyer. The is only so much energi and focus the brain has, and it can`t multitask that good ( not even functional brains with no ADHD).

That is: Less stuff, and less multitasking= More brainpower to complete tasks and to get the overal view of your tasks

[miabednaz]

Last year, at the age of 28, I started working with a psychologist for the first time. And I was diagnosed with ADHD. Exercise and even long walks help a lot. So far I haven’t been taking medications and I don’t need them, but now I understand myself a lot better which helps me better organize my day and activities to be as productive as possible. I seem to have adapted phenomenally as a child and turned all the disadvantages into my strengths, but this video came at the right time! Thank you!

[twinboys]

Wow makes sense. I’m turning 60 this year and thought my memory issues were due to age. I have noticed once I started walking daily, I feel better. Thank you

[tjcerafici]

I was diagnosed at 59 - shortly before everything shut down - I'm still working to understand the best way to recreate my world. 60 years of coping mechanisms need to be stripped away. Exercise is absolutely essential for me to focus. Additionally, I've been learning some great mindfulness strategies, too. I'm still learning to resist the urge to run to then next bright object. Good luck everyone!!

[HG-okjh]

The timing of this video feels like a sign from God. I learned recently that all the things I’ve struggled with my entire life are signs of add. I had no idea! I haven’t gotten much support from the few family members I told, and I can tell they don’t think I have it. I think it’s extremely likely that I do. I’m going to see a doctor very very soon. I’m 29. I’m glad I’m putting these pieces together while I’m still pretty young, but I’m also a little devastated that I struggled for so long for no reason. It has impacted my life in majorly negative ways.

[shannon]

This is soooo me, 53, I’ve had to work through strategies, kind of floundering around on my own. It takes a lot of discipline in keeping up strategies. And yes, fitness does help me.

[cherryflower]

Im 28 and had my diagnosis few months after i watched this video, i have so much empathy for my self who was trying so hard all of this years, although i was very good at school i had rough time in my under and post graduate degree, cant be more thankful for mel because she was the reason why i seek help in this matter

[Astharia]

I have diagnosed myself two years ago with this and got my official diagnosis last year. I can only recommend to research how it affects people in their dayly lives. It's so much more than focus and forgetfulness

[janey]

I was FINALLY was diagnosed with ADHD at age 28. And after being diagnosed and starting treatment I was able to come off all my anxiety meds!

[babsbybend]

"They" knew about ADD in girls back in the 1960's, but it wasn't thought to be a bad thing. Boys being non-compliant got far more attention, but girls with ADD would quietly sit in their chairs and that was what was important to educators. Being "ditzy" was fine--forgetting to do stuff, losing train of thought--and to some extent expected if you were blonde. If you were smart, you got the by rote and routine worksheet done and went back to daydreaming while the teacher wrangled with the rest of the class. I blundered my way through the rest of my life, going from one temp job to another and raising a (fortunately) small family, and still dealing with ADD. I'm in my 60's, and I've wondered what it would be like to be "normal."

[patriciacorrea]

My husband definitely has symptoms and the more I learn about it, the more I wonder if I have it/have had it myself. I have been treated for anxiety/depression throughout my adulthood. I recently told my therapist exercise is not optional for me. It makes a big difference for me as well as doing some form of meditation. Yoga is great if I can get myself to do it. BTW, whatever you’re doing, it’s working. Looking good, girl. Thanks for the video.

[LuciaCasucci]

Going to high school and college with ADHD undiagnosed and having everyone (parents included) yelling at me that 'I should just focus' when it seriously took a village to sit down and study a hour without day dreaming I can totally relate. Still now it is hard every day to get work done but with Mel I made some progress.

[nikkiwilliams]

I went through many years of trying to figure out what I was dealing with; bam! Once I treated my A.D.D. I no longer needed to focus on the other “diagnoses”… thanks for sharing this awareness!!!

[sarahbartunek]

I'm 37 and was just diagnosed with PMDD and ADHD. To finally be able to have something to research and find tips has been absolutely life changing and with a couple meds too.

[lynns]

Oh Mel, thank you for this video. I am crying right now because I have been struggling all my life. In school I was teased for being "flaky." I am in my 60s and I am just done with struggling. I am going to my talk with my therapist and get tested. 💕

[LoLelfy]

I have been suspecting I may have an attention disorder and this video gave me the final sign I needed to go see a doctor. Thank you

[ashassassin]

Executive function is near impossible with adhd. I've struggled my whole life with being able to identify what is the most important thing I should be doing. And also just remembering there was a task I had to do in the first place. Then I actually have to start the thing... it's a shitshow. I was on Concerta for a while but it makes me very emotional, like break downs crying, every day. So, if you feel you mess aren't working, believe it and ask for a change.