how to change the way others perceive you

after I filmed this video I called my dad and we talked about that conversation after months of it actually happening hahah. don't be afraid to communicate and ask for clarification. 9 times out of 10 it'll save a lot of grief. this was a cathartic video for me. if no one even watches this or benefits from this video, I know this was a video I really needed to make for myself. now I can officially let go of all these useless insecurities I was holding onto to. love yourself stay woke.

[IsaacJoshi]

Having a strong sense of self is so important. You really do teach people how to treat you

[matthewsullivan]

yo this made me realise people who just "talk to talk" or to fill the space are the problem when I try and talk to people, especially adults, and I feel like I'm talking to a wall or they aren't really listening or thinking about what I'm saying

[Marcy]

I dont think being intimidating is a bad thing. Machiavelli posed the great question "Is it better to be feared or to be loved?". I find that it's a good balance of both. You want to be intimidating bc it means you arent a doormat but you also want to be loved bc the love we have for ourselves reflects back.

[gracemary]

“You can’t listen to people who are in a bad place already” putting that one in my back pocket for later 🙌🏼

[puppy]

I’m always so curious about people’s perceptions of me as it’s really interesting how different intercept you and perceive you. It’s also interesting how much we let the opinions of others influence our life so much that we actually will stop doing what we love for the sake of them.

[XxssandraxX]

Wow I’ve literally been feeling like this for a while because I am a quiet person and don’t feel the need to talk every 2 seconds so I feel like people perceive me differently than how I see myself. But I couldn’t figure out how to connect who I am vs how I think other people see me. I feel like this video helped me understand that I am who I am, regardless of how others perceive me. And that I need to set boundaries and and just be myself. Like you said it’s up to me 🤯

[davidkonevky]

What I've noticed in my life is that my confidence towards people depends solely on the way they see me. When I meet new people, I'm confident, extroverted, and very talkative. When I'm with people who knew me for a long time and know my past, I become more shy and introverted (except my family, they're cool). The perception others have of me becomes a weight on my back because I let them. And I've been trying so hard to break from that horrible cycle. So thanks for this video, really helpful!

[southchild_]

“I have a general distrust for people which is probably not a good thing but y’know, ✨✌🏽trauma!✌🏽✨”

🤣🤣 felt that!

[carlbrown]

"I yam what I yam and that's all what I yam, " declared the existential philosopher, Popeye the Sailor Man.

[tutsiroll]

It is important to have both external and internal validation. There is this idea that humans should be self sufficient and it's a lot of pressure to put on creatures that are naturally social beings. You need a good balance of both. Not one over the other. Now drink water, tell yourself you are awesome and have a great day🖤.

[Sofia-blcb]

friendly reminder that feedback is different from validation!

[itsjiala]

I often get called intimidating and for soooo long I felt like this made EVERYONE see me in a bad light. But when you said “you cant let other people tell you who you are” I FELT THAT

[shonacrawford]

I love this! Something that took me the longest time to realize (and something I still have to remind myself of) is that people aren't always as objective as we like to them credit for. People have their own things going on and may even have a motive to bring down you/others. Creating a filter and being able to pick through people's opinion and not just digesting them wholesale is SOOOO important.

[aynurg]

your channel is so underrated holy shit

[svtgod]

Finding your channel was the best of February. I can relate with you on a lot of topics. I’m a person who very often gets afraid of how our society is changing couse of what social media show us, and sometimes i feel that I’m the only person who feels that is something wrong with that. It’s an stupid example but all my close friends have tiktok but i find it so toxic and unnecessary, i truly prefer YouTube where you watch what you search.♥️♥️

[Tonii]

Yes! Thank you! It bugs me when people say "you are a lot like that person" (usually on tv) and I don't view myself that way OR I actually dislike the character and makes me wonder how unlikable I apparently must be. (Mostly adults do this as if they hang around you enough to know "you aren't a brat" 🙁, I've also noticed im considered a brat by older people I dislike anyway or wouldn't want to be like.)

[aleessa]

Omg about the talking thing- I’m the same way! If I don’t have anything to say, I’ll just be quiet. I’m just comfortable with silence, which makes some people think I’m shy lol

[Tonii]

I find you intimidating in the way of, I want to be your friend but I feel unworthy (not as smart). I mostly see you as a smart confident and thoughtful woman.

[ThePinkpanda]

You are my new favorite YouTuber! Your videos, especially this one, are very re-affirming in understanding who we are and separating our perception of others. We are not meant to validate others' emotions and whatever energy they project onto you, good or bad. I've personally had people project a lot of bad so my idea of myself was skewed for such a long time and now I'm gradually stepping into myself again. Thank you and I hope to see more reflective videos!!

[harrystyleslovr]

i feel like my first impression of you and why i subscibed and watch ur videos i really like the way you talk and how well informed you are and your persona is really calming to me