5 things men SAY and what they ACTUALLY mean....is this true men?!?!?

Hey guys! as always, I hope you enjoy today's episode. Today I get into some common sayings I hear from men. Let's decode some of these common sayings but let's not forget that very clear communication is always the best route when trying to understand your loved ones!

[emilywking]

Does toxic masculinity exist? And how do you define it?? I first learned about toxic masculinity from a popular male podcaster. An example is when men that cry are shamed and told to “man up”…it’s toxic beliefs that actually hurt men. Agree or disagree? This might be another topic for a video…

[skyvipers]

37 y/o male here, the “I’m fine” you hit right on the head of the nail. When I tried being emotional with my girl, she always used it against me down the road or immediately. Then, she complained I wasn’t being emotionally available. It is always a lose-lose scenario.

[BlankManj]

Every time I’ve been vulnerable, it has always blown up in my face.

[dagfizz]

Here's a little insight on #2. I was staring out the kitchen window one day when my girlfriend asked "What are you thinking?" I was suddenly cognizant of my own thoughts and realized that, at the moment she asked, I was pondering the etymology of the world "robot" and I scrolled my brain back to how my train of thought ended up there. There was a squirrel raiding my birdfeeders and I was trying to figure out a way to keep the squirrels away and thought it would be cool to build some sort of robot that would be armed with various anti-rodent weaponry to keep my feeders safe. Then the word "robot" itself seemed like it sounded a little strange and I wondered how someone decided that a mechanical device built to perform some specific job should be called "robot." It seemed like a strange thing to have to explain to her and that the explanation would take a lot more time than it was worth, so I just said, "Nothing." So, in response to #2, when a woman asks a man what they're thinking and the man says, "Nothing, " what he's really thinking is how the word "robot" came into the English language.

[drsingingeagle]

TRANSLATING MAN-TALK

“I’m fine” = I’m fine.
“Nothing” = Nothing.
“No worries” = No worries.
“I’ll figure it out” = I’ll figure it out.

[Sir_Viver]

Don't let the haters get to you. I am impressed that there is even one western woman trying to understand men, but that you do it so well is a bonus!

[daryengreye]

Older guy here. Accurate for the most part. Truthfully, most guys are reluctant to share their feelings later in life because they were ridiculed previously.

[davidhensley]

5a) "I'll figure it out" means "I, myself, not your dad, not a book you throw at me, not your 'support network', will figure it out."

[rflournoy]

You are right on the mark. What frosts me is the "I'll figure it out" thing when she decides to let me figure it out, and then she has a "better" idea. The "better" idea is always hers. Why bother me with a problem when you already have the correct solution. It goes along with this: "Her: What do you want for dinner? Anything choose is fine, as long as I don't have to make the decision. Me: Steak? Her: not tonight. Me: Seafood, Italian, Mexican? Her: No. How about Asian? Me: OK." Why ask me? It wasn't really my decision in the first place.

[legiontepes]

Point 1: a man is "fine" cuz toxic femininity taught us no one gaf and we don't want our weaknesses to be weaponized.
2: it's not that we think about nothing, we thing about silly things that make sense only to us.

[lydgate]

So easy. When asked "what are you thinkng about? Always answer some variation of"what a great wife/cook/lover/person you are" or 'how muchn I love you", 'how lucky I am to have you" etc. She will either love it, or get so bored by it that she stops asking.

[simonteesdale]

On the "Nothing" thing, there are three options. It's by far most likely to be the second one.
1) We've spaced out completely, and were genuinely thinking about nothing
2) We've gone off on a mental tangent about something inane and irrelevant, that we don't think is worth discussing. (Example: Why are they called 'Bayonet' lightbulb fittings, when they're not that sharp, or attached to the end?)
3) We are trying to figure out how/whether to do something, and aren't at the stage where sharing it is going to be productive (Ex: Do I need to replace the brakes on my road bike soon?)

[GodSaveOurTeam]

About 'No worries...'.
In my case it means 'I forgive you' or 'I'm not going to hold it against you.'

[ant]

Men might say they're thinking of nothing but, it could actually be something like '...should I mask off and repaint that paint overspill on the wall over there'....but, we think that would be too boring to impart.

[stilettoheelslover]

Re point 1: Men know that the second we show any emotions or vulnerability, the woman will dump us like a hot potato and move on to her backup guy that she _always_ has waiting as an orbiter.
Re point 2: When men say they are thinking of nothing, it's because we our minds are just wandering aimlessly over several random things of utter triviality that we know, if we were to try and articulate them to a woman, we would just get ridiculed about, or she would go out of her way to start an argument about. So saying "nothing" just keeps the *peace* and it is *peace* that all men want more than pretty much anything else in a relationship.

[JayCross]

When I say "I'm fine" or words to that effect, I mean that I am sufficiently functioning to handle the task or conversation at hand.

[paulsenconsult]

True on all 5 points! Sometimes you wish you could take the freedom to be vulnerable, but it always backfires.

[jonathanbueltel]

"Im fine" = i dont want to talk to you and not be validated. Then have my feelings and emotions minimized and walked on, so you can later use it againsnt me to get your way.

[rolandhansen]

When someone asks what I'm doing I never respond "nothing". I might say "nothing special" and usually continue with what I am actually doing. I'll always say what I am actually doing. "Just chilling", "watching TV". "watching a movie on DVD", "eating/making dinner", "watching youtube videos" etc.

[hektoerdonovan]

1. Women set the rules of relationships. They can't handle vulnerability of their man because it makes them "look weak" in her eyes. Some women take advantage of it when things get toxic. Many other people will too. Men are selected by their ability to tough things out and be impervious BY WOMEN for centuries. Can't complain about the arrangement now.
2. I know this is a meme recently but it's NOT TRUE. Men, again, are providers and protectors and some/many are constantly thinking about how to improve, playing out scenarios in their mind, planning what they'd do in some situation, etc. When wife asks "what'cha thinkin'" you don't lay out the details or go into some long narrative that would unnerve her so you say "nothing". I GUARANTEE when a man is in public watching exits, planning for different horrible scenarios, etc he will just say "nothing".