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Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world.

#feminism #relationship #dating

[vgoxhei]

The other problem is that 35 years of being a boss babe means she will be a worse partner and a riskier choice for a man with any sense.

[sircefiro]

Only flaw in that plan these days is if she marries young she's convinced to hot girl summer and leave by 35 40 anyway

[typhlosionmaster]

They don’t want to have to depend on a single partner. The money an employer gives them is perceived as more stable than what a partner could.

[palnagok]

Best idea is to marry a reliable guy, have kids and build a family biz with skills for all to learn in the family. The kids will not grow up useless, have real world knowledge and the family is a cohesive unit.

[lovelylibra-mvjv]

It’s harder but it’s not impossible. It’s wise for both men a women to go into marriage and having kids with skills and have worked on their character/personal development when you’re in your early 20’s you don’t know much about life. Kids need to be trained and taught the fundamentals of everything that takes experience and skills to do so. Most ppl just have kids and leave it up to the janky school system to raise them.

[monikasolymos]

You are absolutely right Orion, everyone must sacrifice.
We started young, we did it right. I only wanted to do my job well in balance with being a mother and a wife. The position was offered to me, I never planed to be a boss, and it made my life easier, after working in a hospital for long. But it was already too late for my marriage.
Now I see, that I didn't succeed in all. I succeed in my job, I succeed being a mother, but I slowly and slowly gave up on being a good wife, I was just too tired already.
My husband also worked a lot. His excuse for not being a good husband was: "three kids were just too much for me". He wanted three, but he couldn't handle it. I think, it is not true, he worked like a dog, this was the problem. He also blames me: "Why did you want so big house?". Of course because of the big family. But I never wanted luxury, only space in the house.
How should have we done it better? With a smaller house? Without children? Of course not! With not blaiming each other for the hardships of life!
If you give life to three children, two decades of your life will be very meaningful and happy with them, but also very exhausting. But they are the future, so if we had to choose, I say, we did it right. We did it right. We sacrificed ourselves, our own needs, our own connection, but we gave the maximum for them. Three is more than two, so the population grows too. Welldone. Welldone.
Now we have a bit of a rest. The children are grown up. We must put ourselves together, and make a good plan for the rest of our lives.
Unfortunately it just happens to not work together anymore. We still blame each other. We still. We are still tired of life, but want to live. So we will, with the grace of God.

[elainer]

The problem is also that most men that age don't want to get married. A twenty something woman usually has a boyfriend the same age. They usually like men the same age, not 10, 15, 20 years older. Men like Dr. Taraban are an exception. He can be with much younger women because he is handsome and intelligent in a level most men aren't. And he looks a lot younger too. He worked very hard to develop his mind to a high level. I think all men should do the same.

[charthers]

Wanting to have everything is the best sign of a woman who has nothing - walk away

[sxwrtr]

I and several I know didn't choose to marry til early-/mid-30's. Have our careers/separate investments, etc., spouses, good lives, interests, etc. Its just not that hard to do. You have to be organized and focused, know how to prioritize. Hubby and I never had the slightest interest in having kids, so life looks a bit different for us. Couple cousins married in 30's and do just fine. 2 had a kid, 2 opted not to. Mom married at 34 in the late 1960's, self-employed/own bisiness, 2 kids, cool spouse, big social life. Both parents highly independent and bright. Mom was smart, strong, and as close to doing it all as I've known. One of her best friends, a doctor, married in mid-30's and had s kid st 41. Guess it depends on the person.

[nataliadtut]

There is a huge problem with this idea. If all 20-25 year old women started looking for a family and making kids, the only men they can do it with would be 35+ because of the finances. Young men cannot afford to start a family. What do you do with men who are 20-35? Our whole society and its economic structure is messed up.

[tomislav]

Although this make sense, a women has to give up her financial stability and become, more or less dependent on a man/career partner. I wouldn't like that if I was a woman.

[YuhuanXie]

Why do the shorts link to the latest video instead of the video they came from?

[DizzyRock]

Love has been a rough battle for me . I almost got married once in my late 20’s but the relationship took a turn for the worst in the last 6 months before marriage a lot of lies came out 😅 so then I took time to heal and just focus on my work . Been open to love but haven’t found the right one yet and yeah now I’m on my mid 30s and it def feels more difficult. I also don’t want to have kids and a lot of men I meet want kids if they don’t already have some . Then I get tired of putting effort into trying to find someone and I’m thinking on just refocusing again on my career . Feels like an endless cycle of hardship . I try to keep the faith and let god guide me and teach me . Work has been more easy to understand than love relationships have . I sometimes feel like I’m trying to learn a different language and can’t seem to nail it 😅❤

[vaaaaaas]

Choices have consequences. I love watching consequences play out.

[darkvalkyrie]

it's better to have money and a calm secure life in peace instead of having kids and a man. I love my childfree life and I'm not young, I just look young, because I'm not stressed by men and kids and I have more ressources for myself. I love my life and my peace too much to share it with a man or to have kids.

[kinleyjackson]

Yep! I was raised career first and relationship and kids later. Now I am with no kids but thankfully in a good relationship. Feminism destroyed my instinctual need for what I really wanted and could of had. Money and career can come later.

[FreedomTalkMedia]

I've been saying that women should have their kids first and a career second. A 20 to 25-year-old woman could get with a 30-year-old man who already has a career.

[tonynugget]

That assumes that they don't want to get their holes filled for 10 years..

[jonathanisernhagen]

I don't think it's either/or. A young woman should focus on her career while remaining alert to great potential partners, and if God drops one in her lap, allow him to complicate her timeline.

[snorkus]

When they trade kindness and compassion for a make up trowel, social media, clicks and views, they’re no longer the same people.