Marriage Isn't About Happiness | Jordan Peterson

Jordan Peterson on marriage.

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Jordan Peterson is a renowned Canadian psychologist, author, and professor, widely acclaimed for his profound insights into the human psyche and his contributions to the field of psychology. With an illustrious career spanning several decades, Peterson has earned a remarkable reputation for his thought-provoking ideas and transformative teachings.

Peterson's academic achievements are truly exceptional. He holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology from the University of Alberta and has served as a professor at the University of Toronto. Throughout his career, he has published numerous influential papers and articles, making significant contributions to the field. Notably, his work on personality psychology and the psychology of religious and ideological belief systems has garnered widespread recognition.

One of the striking indicators of Peterson's impact is his exceptional citation count on Google Scholar of over 20,000 citations. His research has been cited by scholars and researchers worldwide, highlighting the significance and relevance of his ideas. This recognition reflects the profound influence he has had on the academic community and the intellectual discourse surrounding psychology.

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[tonyflores]

99.9% of people won’t have conversations down to this level. But those that do will be the happiest.

[sunflower]

Marriage Preparation Class before marriage is a Must.

[tiffanycools]

Crazy thing is.. I had this talk for three days straight before we decided to get married. All my expectations and his. Who would clean, cook, mow the yard. What work would look like, goals, aspirations for the future. How we would raise our kids. What we agreed upon and did not agree upon.
It doesn't matter at all. I became the sole provider and caretaker of everything. All he wanted was a maid, therapist, chofer, nanny, provider, and a personal chef. ECT ECT
Negotiating and talking it out doesn't make the other person accountable. They're going to do what they want to regardless. The question is... What will you personally tolerate and for how long because you "love" them.

[annettewestermann]

Totally agree. Marriage is not JUST about happiness. Or at least not about individual happiness. It's about commitment to each other and working through the hard times. That's how you grow together and become happier together.

[chantellelucas]

This is absolutely true My husband and I have four children and obviously we love each other but At the moment it's all about our children and working as a team!❤️

[carolynbrightfield]

Married 50 years. My hb and I have had many rocky times. But that vow to stay married for life was strong in our upbringing. My parents married 48 years (departure on the death of the spouse). His parents 66 years. And yes, their paths were rocky. Not much instant gratification / happiness. Some good times. Some great times. Some awful times. But now we are happy - our lives have meaning. That's worth working towards.

[leigheverett]

When my wife and I got married 24 years ago this is exactly the type of things we discussed beforehand. Also not mentioned in this video - Do you want children and if so, how many ?

This is quite common that once people are married one of the two mentions that they don’t want children. Difficult to accept for the one who does and will probably lead to divorce.
If you discuss things beforehand and you can’t agree then you should go your separate ways no matter how much you love each other because it will inevitably lead to disputes and divorce.

[brendaleverick]

I agree that couple counseling is essential prior to marriage.

[nextupafrica]

My 39 yr ex husband ran off & married a 21 yr old for ‘ happiness’. Accused me of not putting him as the center of attention because I focused on our 2 little kids .. youngest was 2. Blamed me for making him unhappy. I was devastated and still healing & appreciating the blessings of my kids

[cynthiahafner]

Our marriage has changed a lot in 42 years. Some positive and some negative. Gotta adapt to the changes to survive.

[lillianpilto]

Pretty much what my husband and I said on our wedding day. Of course there’s love and we’re happy, but it’s not about constantly exhausting yourself for someone’s happiness.

[joyceort]

People get married and dont ever even talk about whether they want children much less day to day stuff. Small stuff can break you down. I agree wuth him.

[redbullwiseman]

That’s funny because that’s what my church does when you’re about to get married there’s a process and also you save yourself until marriage, what a concept to actually care about the family you’re starting

[fabienhaddad]

So Sheldon Cooper’s relationship agreement in a nutshell

[lorihuntley]

Too often when a couple makes it about their happiness the children suffer for it. I’m seeing children being left with babysitters and grandparents far too often.

[tah]

He def should be a policymaker. Let’s turn this thing around 💪. Truth that resonates even when we don’t know the truth

[susannaCdonovan]

It used to be that the woman's role was nurturing, because she conceives and bears the children, so she takes care of the household, cooking, cleaning, dusting, sweeping. Husband can do Outdoor work such as cutting lawn, trimming bushes, weeding, and maintaining the property. He can wash outside windows, hose down house, clean patio, and do Outdoor grilling. He can paint and do repairs. Wife and Husband can maintain a budget. It's not hard to do if you're focused on the fact you need a nest egg. Cooking at home can save you a lot of money. Prepared foods are off the charts too expensive. You could cook three to four meals with what you spend eating out nowadays, and the food isn't necessarily healthy, especially fast food.

[sarahlantto]

This is great. I took a class in college where I was basically thinkingbTHIS EXACTLY. I remember hearing a guy say, well, I don't mind vacuuming, so I will do that job (in a marriage, household...) and I was like, WAIT a minute...guys, you know that job is like a WEEKLY chore, right? I mean, some people maybe think it's a daily thing, but honey, what about feeding everyone? That happens 3 times a DAY!!! And not the mention the clean-up??? Like, especially if you have kids, it is ALL the time. Marriage and kids is not for the faint of heart. We millennial got to step up!

[MrWorstNews]

My people, if you have severe issues in your marriage; seek counseling together. Counseling helped my wife and I realize we're not each other's enemies and the "Issues" we had are more than workable. You may have a "Silly wall" that seems HUGE to you or your spouse but is the most miniscule thing. You got married for a reason, give it one more go; huh?

[chumdog]

End the fed/fix the banking system so people can afford to live ideally on 1 income so children are raised by their parents instead of the state