‘Father’ or ‘Donor’??? #shorts

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[jessicaoutofthecloset]

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[ilovegod]

I’m adopted and when people ask me about my “real” parents I talk about my adoptive parents. When they say, no I meant your “real” parents again, I’ll correct them and say, my bio parents.

[lidu]

Maybe if we managed to get this right, some people would learn that providing genetic material is not just _not enough_ to become a parent, it actually has no part in it.
Maybe more people would get parenting right, and it would less often result in child abuse and using genetical heritage as justification for mistreatment.

[unclenought]

Does he get that from his dad?

No, Becky, he gets it from his ✨biological sponsor✨

[artslady]

I feel like doner is the best phrasing for the DNA of a child born to a person or couple via sperm donation. It's insulting to the non-biological parent to give the doner more affiliation with the child than the people actively caring for and living the child.

[cliff_hange]

Here in my country the rate of fathers who abandon their children is very high, so it's common to be raised by solo mom's, grandmas, uncles, stepfathers, etc and calling the men who raised you "dad", because the normal belief here is: Father is the one who raised you.

[cb-akp]

giving birth is not the only way one can become a mother. families come in endless shapes and sizes.

[kcsprout]

I have two mums! everyone always calls him the ‘dad’ so it’s so nice to see someone talk about this, especially a youtuber i look up to so much :D

[MSBdropout]

My paternal grandmother would get so heated when later in life I started referring to my dad as a "sire" or "sperm donor" because he was a terrible father. Referring to my equally terrible mother as my "incubator" or "egg donor" was fine tho. Yes my grandmother had custody of me and my full brother because they were unfit parents, both parents had other kids they had nothing to do with but my brother and I would see our dad a lot when we were younger. As I got older, the terrible and illegal things he was doing came to light, he became a crappier father and wasn't a great one to begin with, and I realized that this man was not my "father" at all. He didn't raise me or any of his kids, he visited inconsistently, broke almost every promise he made, and I do not see him as my father. My mother has passed but I told her before she did that I don't see her as my mother. I'm tired of the old fashioned "thats still your mom/dad." ... okay, and?

[peach]

My ex is adopted and prefers the term "birth pod" for his biological mom

[nikkid]

As someone with two moms I really appreciate the work you do to educate people about families like mine🥰

[Otakutori]

Birthing a child or providing the sperm is not enough to actually earn the title of parent. A parent is the one that raises and care for you, whether they biologically had you or not.

[ixDanime]

I'd start calling him the sire like he's a horse.

[gnostic]

I have some previous understanding of this because my ex-husband and his current wife have two boys via a sperm donor. However, since my ex and I have three children that he was an absentee "father" due to substance abuse issues, my now adult kids refer to him as their "donor". They haven't interacted with him for years so the parent is the person who is actually present in the child's life.

[SammieJ]

Agreed, the indirect slurs are the worst because they think they go unnoticed. Correcting them 20 times in a row is certainly called for.

[amiegamble]

My ex left when my teen was 3 months old. Found out he was into some bad things I would not have liked or been interested in. She has no recollection of him. I call him her "biological father", because he's never been a dad to her.

[melima_]

On a completely unrelated note: I'm obsessed with your hair! If you ever do a tutorial on it, I would be thrilled!

[angeecelinova]

I feel like that after some time the older people should realize that we don't have to spend time with them, we want to. And they should make us want to spend time with them. But maybe I'm too judgy right now

[Yorea]

I haven't watched the video yet, but I never thought of this! Will definitely keep that in mind if I ever encounter a similar situation, having to repeat this constantly is not okay :(

[nelly]

It sounds weird that people bring up the father, when that person should know they will never meet.