the saddest people in the world… #selfimprovement

[justbplz]

Givers have to learn when to stop giving because takers never stop taking...

[timmiemortensen]

Dang girl that is the whole truth and everyone should hear it.

[nessmess]

There's a difference between being "too nice" and actually being a kind person with boundaries. A lot of people mistake being a people pleaser with being nice.

[Tayte]

So true. I didn’t even notice I was being “too nice” until I started seeing the signs, how I was treated, so little I would get back in return.

It really was a wake up call

Respect is the cornerstone of any relationship

[Iquey]

She's right. Being too nice eventually makes you want to be mean.

[alicookofficial]

I’m not a therapist but I imagine people act like this due to ‘parental deprivation’ primarily through their mother.
I.E. they were always trying to please their mum as a child and it never worked. And their mother would demand more and more from them.

[tammystiletto]

I used to show up for my friend anytime she asked but when I would ask her to something she would make excuses like “oh I don’t have the money to shop” I’m not asking you to shop. I’m asking you to go hang out with me. “Oh I can’t be spending money on food right now.” I’m not asking you to spend money on food, we can pack a lunch. Smh. It took me a long time to realize that no amount of being there for others will guarantee that anyone would be there for me.

[skulltaylor]

This is me 😭😭😭😭 no one has ever been there for me like I am for them. It’s made me suicidal, sad and depressed

[Goldiegirl-nn]

HOLLYY SHITTT THIS GIRL IS A FUCKING GENIUS I HAVE LITERALLY BEEN DOING THAT FOR 2YEARS AND I WAS JUST in a huge fight with my best friend for that bc I just kept giving and she just kept talking and I was literally depressed bc of my own life bc the people around me but I still tried to make things good for others bc Ik if someone did that to me I would fs cry bc I love it so much and yeah she’s just so right

[suziandchopstix]

Unfortunately this is true. Took a lot of bad experiences for me to realize not everyone is as human as one can be.

[brianneml]

That was me once. I am still this way toward my kids but in a healthier way if that makes sense. Meaning I don’t control my kids decisions, beliefs, or what they want to do with their life. I will give them the pros and cons as I see them but it’s still their choice and everyone is always saying how good of a mother I am… but they fail to understand that it’s because I don’t control them. My daughters are 16 and 18. I don’t always agree with them but I know my trust and respect towards them is why they are so respectful and trusting towards me. A lot of parents miss this and I will not have my kids feeling small or unappreciated because I have my own things to work on. My kids very much teach me as much as I do them. I know anything they do that triggers me is my own childhood trauma. Doesn’t mean I am never triggered but I can always go back to them and say ok I’m not really mad at you. That was my own pain coming out.

[brittbot]

Don't expect ppl to be as nice as you are. And you won't be disappointed.

[brooke]

The thing is I don’t want anything back. It genuinely makes me feel good to help others. I can also help myself.

[betsy]

This has caused me to experience “no good deed goes unpunished” sighs 😔 over & over 😔. Sigh 😔 . How should we then strike the balance between being good but not being too good that people take advantage of us ?

[Tveit_on_the_Brain]

💯💯💯🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻. Thank you for making me realize this

[stanleyshultz]

Sadness is from a good heart that’s been through ups and downs giving all there strength and life and have nothing more to give your in sight is much appreciated Thank you

[valevais]

Right. There are always two extremes: too bad & too good. The best way it to learn how to stay in the middle and protect yourself

[lovelykim]

being nice is my only option to avoid making them mad. And its such a waste of time to argue with them.

[dotexe]

Helping people, even without returns, is honestly the best thing I ever do. People never did that for me. People like me now because I listen to them. I have an eating disorder and other mental health problems so I come across them, especially people with eating disorders, and they just tell me everything and I'm pretty sure I've actually helped people longer-term just by validating them and reframing things with them.

I'm studying psychology now because, like, what else am I gonna do other than what I already do, but better.

Yeah, I said people are nice, but most people don't care. I'm grateful, though, because I've seen the other side and the bar is set so low.

Please keep helping people. They might not deserve it, but you do.

[abasskhan]

Wow that's awesome observation, thank you for your presence baby I love you and your wisdom 💕. My gratitude 🙏