Loving Wives — Douglas Wilson | Marriage Seminar

This is the second message in our Discipleship Seminar on Marriage.

[Danc]

This reminds me of a time when I needed help after a camper trailer I was hauling came off the hitch on a lonely country road in Alabama.
A guy stopped. Assessed the problem with me. We discussed a solution. He summoned his two sons for tools and scrap wood from his truck. The four of us quickly had that camper jacked up and hooked back to my truck “properly”. After a few handshakes, we where back on the road.

My wife commented on how nice that man and his boys where to stop and help. I agreed, but said; “He wasn’t doing it to be nice, although it was nice. He stopped because he saw a problem that needed a solution. He saw a teaching moment for his sons also. Sure it was about helping someone, but it was more about how to jack up a detached camper on the side of the road.”

We do think differently. I saw it as an act of respect, in a pragmatic way. She saw it as a act of pure kindness.

[claytoncorley]

I am a 24 year old husband in need of much help regarding these matters. This was a gift of grace. :) Thanks!

[TheCamG]

I’m a 25 year old getting married to a godly young woman in October of ‘24, and I am very thankful for this good word. This is the solid meat of God’s Word that I will be chewing on and nourished by for years to come.

[davidrisselada]

I am going on my 28th year of marriage. Careful observation will show the truth of what is being discussed here. Women are driving on emotion and are seeking that kind of validation when troubles arise. Men look at things as they are, detached from emotional elements. There is a time when a women's perspective is needed and a time when a man's is. The biggest example I can point to from experience is dealing with the adult children. The wife will always be emotionally attached, wanting to fix every problem they go through. The man wants the children to learn and be a problem solver for themselves. There are times when mom is right and times when dad is. The key is recognizing whose perspective is needed.

[wendygold]

Excellent! Well said and in such simple terms.

[alabamahammer]

This is the best I’ve ever heard on the subject

[proverbsone]

This was a direct mirror of my marriage and I'm very grateful for this message .

[Zaloomination]

The comments on serving by leading were great and much appreciative

[Jozek]

Thank you pastor Douglas! 
It's the gospel implemented into the most basic and most important things in whole life. I would love to see more fathers in church who have hearts for teaching young christian fathers and husbands how not only understand the gospel but how to live it out in every aspect and facet of life.

My take aways:

1. Love wife first, than fix problems,
2. Lead, and take responsibility for decisions made on my own and wife's input,
3. Be ready to bleed during service like Christ
4. Teach it christians brothers

[Raybo]

We should learn to speak respect and love more with our practice and action than words as well. Great Segment... Sometimes actions and responses speak so much louder than words, let's as spouses (33yrs June 18) work on those weaknesses and instinctually do what God commends us

[majose]

What about when practical women offer solutions and when more sensitive men desire love? What do we do with these outliers?

[rosagoglia]

Wheww.. well there’s respect the husband, love the wife and love one another is what I read

[Sundayschoolnetwork]

It's important to point out the verse just before the individual instructions to wives and husbands. Ephesians 5:21 says,
"Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ."

[kevintswi]

It’s Quantum physics being taught so that a 3rd grader understands “QF”to the point of be able to apply it’s laws.

So, that is a try at explaining how profoundly this message has impacted me! Knowing that our marriage had wires that were crisscrossed, but befuddled to exacerbation, I had no clue as to turn to the left or to the right on fixing what we all knew was a massive hemorrhage in our marriage!!

[jackjones]

The bible tells husbands to love and cherish their wives, and women to respect and honor their husbands. How about that, God made men and women with different emphasis on how those are prioritized. Now is the time for churches to EQUIP their congregants with God's Truth not the culture's 'truth.' The contrast between us and society should be very stark and perhaps our greatest witness.

[jolookstothestars]

Oh how I struggle with this, we (she) struggles with this. All the past hurts, to be then hurt again is like bending over and pushing the crown of thorns in with my own weight and saying count it all joy. Some things in this Christian walk "seem" impossible. Help Lord!

[miguelbayne]

God give me the strength to one day be attracted to women so I too can find a loving wife.

[dublinirisheyes]

Is this Ron wilson of Idaho or related to Ron wilson

[akyle]

Still confused on a terribly granular level. What does it look like, in specifics, to love a wife in the situation described?

[gwh]

I find it interesting that "Loving Wives" has 1.7 K hits, but "Loving Husbands" has only 1.3K. Are there 400 angry wives?