What We've Learned From 100 Experts | Being Well Podcast

On the (roughly) 300th episode of Being Well, Dr. @RickHanson and I share what we’ve learned from the many experts in psychology, personal growth, and mental health we’ve talked to on the show. We explore the importance of individual context, the gap between insight and action, self-honesty and acceptance as the catalyst for change, incremental change vs. sudden breakthroughs, and the role of distress tolerance.

Key Topics:
0:00 Introduction and two big themes
2:20 Applying generalized information to your individual context
7:40 The importance of insight and where it falls short
9:15 White light moments and the importance of action
13:30 Wants and needs
24:45 Slow and steady effort
29:10 Going to zero and the scaffolding that leads to sustained change
35:10 Distress tolerance, valuing acceptance, and what you know to be true
41:35 The three mechanisms of change
44:25 Reducing inner friction through mental training, and cultivating trust
48:10 How do you want to use your time?
49:15 Recap

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[araslifejourney]

I've been following your podcast for awhile and I want to say thank you so much for everything. Your work has changed my life truly. I don't know where I would be today if I hadn't found this podcast.

[patsyhubbard]

I am a 70 year old grandma ( sadly estranged from my adult daughter). This wonderful episode has completely allowed me to stop thinking about my issues for a while. And I thank you so much. I love you both and your wonderful relationship. This episode was truly awesome and I will go back to it periodically to listen to this one and the 300 precious podcasts.

[galpalsal]

Outstanding summary of summary. So much insight. So little action. That's me. I believe in the incremental success of change and am currently working on daily mobility and increasing the time minute by minute. You guys are inspirational and entertaining. Keep it up!

[angelacavar]

I appreciated the comment regarding “if someone says there’s only one way to do it, they’re probably trying to send you an online programme”!

[sseabee]

Thanks for all you do! It's so rich. So often, the timing of the topic blows my mind (like this one).

[celinesgomez]

You are an amazing team! Thank you, thank you!

[ginafrancis]

@ 47:44
What a great insight.
Thank you so much for this episode.

[matthew]

phenomenal episode - a great distillation and such very useable knowledge - thanks both.

[charlottech]

Please continue to do a podcast on adult child and parent relationship. How to communicate better with a sensitive adult child. Thank you 💗

[harshpal]

3 mechanism of change
1. make change more enjoyable
2. make it incremental e.g. 1 % at a time
3. make the change pleasurable

3 big idea
1.context is important
2.insight is is a just start not the whole journey, action are critical too
3.if you want to understand why you doing what you are doing think in terms of wants and needs at deeper level

[peacefulisland]

This has been so validating from my side. Both the gradual cultivation, sudden awakening and language around finding the want to act.

That want to act has eluded me most of my life and kept me from defending my boundaries, taking exciting risks and also when I have acted out of extreme pressure and lack of choice, I've left my body. The leaving prevents me from experiencing my strengths and abilities, from retaining the confidence, and puts me right back at square one.

Loss of memory, loss of swaths of life, loss of autonomy.

But the second frog is totally me if I stop and look in the rear view mirror. 😉

[Kieslowski]

very good. your podcast with your dad is in m top 2 besides psychology in seattle. and I think you do come across as more sensitive and emoting than coldly intellectual. you seem very approachable. thanks for all your free work!

[sunnyadams]

Wow!! 300!! How WONDERFUL...
That means I've been exposed to, if not learned, ALOT!
CONGRATULATIONS 🎉 & THANK YOU!!

[kayneich]

Rick says he's thoroughly psych'd! I had to giggle... thanks you two. Always so helpful.

[capngrace]

These are just stunningly dense with good information, but particularly this episode.

[tenielles]

I know that white light moment they were talking about!

I had an eating disorder and woke up one morning and started to eat. It was very mysterious!

[Rose-gmmm]

An excellent episode, brilliantly summarised! Thank you so much for all you do.

[charlottech]

Really such a good podcast. Thank you so much.

[eileenm]

Interesting discussion. Left turns are dangerous, though, which is why UPS generally bans them.

[peacefulisland]

Distress tolerance is almost a lost art.