Every Woman Needs To Ask This Question

When I was considering leaving my marriage, I had a moment where I was daydreaming about the type of woman I would be when I left- so playful, open hearted, nurturing, expressive, flirty, etc.💃🏽

And seconds later my higher self chimed in (as she so often does at the exact perfect time!) and said: why not BE HER NOW? ✨

I had to confront the ugly truth—I wasn’t fully living as the woman I wanted to be- and in fact, was waiting for my husband to change in order for me to then start showing up differently. 👀😳

I realized the woman I had become in the culture of our relationship up until that point was not a woman I necessarily loved. Yes she was awesome in so many ways- but she wasn’t fully expressed, liberated in her love or really even able to enjoy the micro moments of life. That woman was resentful and hardened from a lot of the collective hurt that happened within a decade long relationship—and she honestly didn’t even think it was possible to be the woman she wanted to be in this dynamic. (Ahhhhh the old identity problem🧐)

But true liberation happens when we feel free to be our fullest self despite what is happening EXTERNALLY. In fact, the greatest testing ground for our liberation happens within conditions that we deem challenging.

So I got to work- I started to first connect with the textures of that liberated women within myself- got to know her, welcomed her in, explored her tapestry- and am still integrating these new parts into my relationship.

This was the work of awakening my Muse- the part of myself that had lay dormant for so long- but was begging to be set free. This work has single-handedly transformed who I am as a woman, and how that woman shows up in all my relationships- but especially my marriage.

So ask yourself: is how I show up right now the type of person I want to be? How would I be different? What would need to change?

Fragment from the conversation with @dannymorel - Why Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energy is CRUCIAL | Alexi Panos | The Higher Self #137

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