Watch this if goal planning gives you anxiety.

Welcome BACK to another video, featuring me ranting about my anxiety and how hard it is setting goals when you have no understanding of the time that you have in a year. I hope this helps someone, even though it was mostly just my process battling through my own fear. Hope ur well ❤

00:29 Process Overview
12:49 My 2023 Goals
16:34 I give a sermon on goal anxiety
19:57 Final Thoughts

[RachelleinTheory]

Thanks everyone who has already watched, commented, and shown your support for this ♥ it means so much. I would love to know: What is YOUR biggest tip for working through anxiety when goal setting? Let's share the love.

[genealotech]

I was revisiting this video and had an ah hah moment. I created the grid on a separate paper like you did, but I changed the Goal in the top left to Identity and wrote my rows as affirmations of those identities.

Ex: instead of declutter the home, I instead wrote “My home is a clean temple.” In other words, a clean home is a vote for temple it can be for me. 😁

[andreav]

This makes me think about the important (but fluid and personally definable) differences between “tasks” and “goals”. I’m in the Common Planner, too, and in looking at Goals section last week, I started thinking about what my goals are versus what are tasks that need to be accomplished apart from or as part of those goals. Your ‘everyday things I need to do to live’ category is what I’d consider to be “Tasks” in a planner, while I’m choosing to define “Goals” as something more big-picture. (Ex: Lose XX Pounds might be a goal, while Log Steps Daily might be a task.) That being said, I wish there were two such sections in the planner, one for a “Goals” overview (work goals, health goals, etc.) and another one for a “Tasks” overview (wash kitchen sink, wash windows, when to put in new water filters, etc.). Since the latter isn’t actually in the Common Planner, I’ve created a separate B6 notebook for tracking those kinds of tasks, as well as lists, ideas, daily routines, etc. It’s into that notebook that I’d actually put the rough work you did on scrap paper since I’ve come to realize that the rough work is something I want to keep given that it documents important things such as how I think, how I grew, how I got from A to B, and so on. I think we absolutely need to embrace the work, DO the work, and then document the work since that’s where our personal and intellectual development lies. Planners shouldn’t be about being pretty (as fun as that can be) but about helping us in some way(s); that being said, it’s often the work behind the final product that matters the most. Thanks for this video and for bringing up some key points while celebrating the importance of drafting, re-doing, reflecting, scrapping, revising, editing, re-starting — things that are becoming more and more scarce but that are invaluable. And sorry for the long comment but the topic got me inspired!

[Elleina]

By far the best thing I've ever heard in regards to goal planning: what do I need to do to function as a human being? I ALWAYS have such lofty goals and ambitions, but I ALWAYS underestimate the time and energy that I will need to invest in them, and I ALWAYS get discouraged and abandon keeping track of them, which of course leads to a severe lack of progress. This has really given me a LOT to think about, and I'm getting excited about goal planning again!

[bbysu]

i have been feeling so. lost. and so unorganised. i just feel like in my brain there’s just furniture floating around and i feel so cluttered and closed in… i just can’t get organised no matter how much i tried to reset my habits and lifestyle this year. i cannot stress how amazingly helpful, clear, inspirational and motivational this video has been for me. as someone who use to always personally take pride in being ‘the organised one’ and the one on top of everything, losing myself and my habits after grief has made me feel like less of a functioning person and like i’ve lost grip of myself. but this video brings me so much comfort, guidance, and much needed structure to my brain which i really, really needed. thank you SO much for this video 🫶🏻

[katebl]

Establishing basic care BEFORE getting into bigger goals is exactly what I needed. Thank you so much!

[lizarcher]

There is nothing magical about January 1st. I agree, take time, and who cares if you set up goals mid Jan, or March, whenever! A fresh start can happen whenever we need it and I really enjoy the drafting process you went through!

[mastandstars]

This is By Far thee best explanation of how to sharpen your focus and clarify the vague desires rolling around in the brain. Goes to show… planners aren’t really for planning. They’re for action plans to follow thru on. THIS… this is how to plan. Excellent!

[nadegerichard]

I never realized I was struggling with anxiety to set and write down my goals for 2023 until this video. For the past month, I was inspired by other videos to start thinking about my goals but that's all I've done- think about them. This video made me realize that I am afraid/anxious to write them down. I will try to..no, I will write them out on a draft paper with pencil. I don't have to have everything figured out. They don' t have to be clear, concise, and specific on my draft. Just start by putting them down on paper! Thank you Rachelle!

[AkillesFortuna]

“Anxiety wants you to set things up so that you can fail at them, so you can be more anxious” 💡💡 that explains A LOT! I haven’t understood that I have anxiety until lately, but this makes so much sense! No wonder I always fail at any goal I set, or make sure I can’t reach them 😅. I’m not setting up goals this year, I’m gonna set up “wants” instead. Goals has become so negatively loaded for me 😅 so trying a new approach this year. I like your method of using different styles to find your priorities! Definitely gonna use that!

[okinawabebe]

I am thrilled to have found this, I was feeling quite overwhelmed with goals/tasks and how to even begin to develop a plan for 2023, the last week of 2022 ... So helpful!I would say my BIGGEST tip for working through stress/anxiety when setting goals is finding people here, such as yourself, who deal with similar challenges. It's so satisfying to observe and listen and take in great info which is meant to help! Thank You for this!

[tammystroup]

This was so helpful. I realized one of the reasons I had goal anxiety is because it is too much. I narrowed it down to 3 areas and it feels so much better 🙏🏻 thank you!

[BerryTerry]

I dunno how you make this so calming to listen to but it works! Whenever I’m planning I write a bunch of stuff on post-it notes just to get it off my brain then I rearrange them and group similar ones together. If I find I’m repeating some or find a lot of them are grouped together then I realize I’m more excited or passionate about one thing

[AliciaMartinez-jihu]

This was actually very helpful...I have such a hard time finding a system that will work for me. The challenging part for me though, I could still write the things I want to accomplish, do and reestablish back into my life and it will still look like gibberish. It's breaking them down into daily, weekly, monthly, quarterly tasks/goals and how often I need to do those things can also be frustrating and time consuming.

[Nicole-ongw]

LOVED this whole process!!! I feel like I set the same exact goals every year and I wonder why I never accomplish any of them 😭 Maybe this will help!

1. The dream goals if you had infinite time
2. Rating your life, finding out your priorities
3. The reality of your life, what you have to do to function, how much time you are already using
4. What can you actually use in your free time, what dream goals can you fit in and how much of it

✍️ Putting this in my notes rn!

[acaratbee]

It was great to see a really well thought out and described version of what I do. I set “intentions” in the new year, and commit to my “goals”only around Chinese New Year i.e. a few weeks into the year. This helps me because I still have the buzz to start something new along with everyone else, but also to put things into practice before I make a strong commitment to myself .. I started doing this because it aligns better with my work calendar..but even after switching jobs, I’m planning to continue the ritual

[agnese.salamcreative]

I have avoided goal setting like the plague for years. I know there are areas of my life I am scared to tackle. I guess my 2023 goal should be: rethink goal setting! This video was surely helpful :)

[yasmineelmasry]

Thank you SO much for this! Other than the amazing transparency which is awesome on its own, I feel like this is so reassuring. I have struggled so much with goal-setting before, and always had the same "perfect" vision for a life that is full of these amazing (and so very numerous) goals, but never actually got any closer to achieving them. This breakdown and revisiting is definitely something I'll try. Thank you! Also the idea of starting from a place where you ACTUALLY are and your life that you're already living – golden!

[deesykes]

Thank you for speaking about daily tasks that need attention each day ( like meal planning & showering, etc) and then adding goals after reviewing the amount of time available to commit to any goal. I appreciate you sharing your process.

[michellederoche-johnson]

Excellent job at walking us through your thought process! It ABSOLUTELY should take a week, or more....just think of how much time you're planning on giving to these priorities! 🙂