Why do you always need to be right? - Patrick Wanis PhD

What is the real cause of needing to be right?
Do you or someone you know always need to be right?
Here are 7 signs of trying to be right and the real cause of needing to be right.

[minoritymind]

From someone who frequently wants to hash it out over the inconsequential to the monumental, I really feel the desire to be right often stems from a desire to "know." By arguing, debating or whatever one chooses to call it, I feel that I'm becoming a better version of myself by learning when I'm shown to be wrong. I have no problem admitting defeat and adopting the more valid point and appreciate the lesson. I don't believe it has anything to do with receiving validation because I generally don't care what the other person thinks of me. I'm curious to know how you arrived at your deduction and will be reading your article. Thank you for your perspective.

[Pharesm]

Fools know everything, I heard.
I like the spirit in what you say.
Sadly, some people's need to be right is so great, they will not even listen to warnings about inbound dangers.
If those dangers existed, they would 'obviously' already know about them, because they are so right..

[wednesdayschild]

Wanting to be right is ruining my life.

[jessicamadiedo]

I dont think I need to be right to happy but I get really mad fell the need to why I'm right they are always telling me I have to change but I'm not going to let them win an argument if I know I'm right

[doubleemcastillano]

I was upset in my head because I was delivering to a hospital and I was at the correct entrance and I called the customer (who wasn’t the recipient of the order) and she told me her app said I was at the wrong entrance. Not knowing the hospital, I ended up stuck behind some cars and eventually drove around to the other side only to realize that was the incorrect entrance and I was indeed initially at the correct entrance. I tried to explain to the recipient but she misunderstood me and said “Yeah, I know you were at the emergency entrance”. And she walked away before I realized that she misunderstood what I was explaining. I wondered, why did it bother me so much that this customer thought I pulled up to the wrong entrance. I even saw her come out of the door before I drove off to the other side. I just wondered, why this was so important to me. Idk.

[MrJdcirbo]

I have many questions. When is it acceptable to challenge what I view as "incorrect?" Is it ever helpful to "correct" someone? How do I differentiate helpful arguments from toxic ones that are based on my insecurity? Should I practice silence and not challenge statements I have deemed "wrong?" Can I challenge perspectives without being toxic?

[ttaylorify]

Is it not possible. That you are often right?

[gideonamankwah]

A person who wants to be right dismisses facts and logic and will not listen to the truth. A person who wants to be right chooses to stick with their false narratives, invalid opinions, and non-understandable thoughts. For example, let's say I told someone there are seven days in a week(Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, and Saturday). The person disagrees with that and thinks they are to have seven days in a week. That person who disagrees with and denies the fact there are 7 days in a week wants to be right and cant understand that they are wrong based on the facts.

[xelaklement]

But what if I'm ACTUALLY right and people never come up with any arguments? xD they always say "Stop arguing" But all I want is just for them to discuss and even prove me wrong, I'm perfectly fine with being wrong if I can learn something new! Now I just let people spread things that aren't accurate and my life has gotten a lot less stressful... But it still kind of stings 😅 I understand in this video it's more about situations where nobody is right or wrong and not actual facts.

[raziel]

:( I suspected it was insecurity. Now is confirmed... thank you

[homiekeen]

I have this even when I'm just with myself, alone, in a general way.
If I'm wrong, that means:
I'm a stupid idiot, how can I ever trust that anything I did or will ever do is good, how can I have a sense of self if I'm wrong, how can I ever do or say or believe anything ever again I might be wrong again.
It means that the ones who were right (generally speaking not a specific person or people around me) are therefore inherently better than me and that means I'm worthless and pointless, I shouldn't even bother thinking or having an opinion again, I should just be like a dog a pet just following someone/someones.
It means that aha! see! you've always been less than and you've indeed always been just a piece of crap

[brianpacker]

This video is low quality, lacks perspective and integration. In context of the four addictions, (Being Right, Being Safe, Being in control and looking good), being right is the easiest of the 4 to emiliorate. There is a biofeedback response when "being right", the solution to all four is to do the opposite. Choose to be wrong on purpose. Try it out. Experience your experience, stop thinking and feel, be present when wrong by choice. Point? It's not that bad. When in doubt, focus out.