Your Dream Style? Here's how you build it {romanticize your style}

Your dream style is achievable! Whether you're interested in exploring a passing trend or you just want to romanticize your style with a future style goal, this is the deep dive for you.

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[trishtells]

I realized a couple of months ago that as an adolescent I put my fantasies in a box and never looked at them again, because I wanted to fit in. A few months ago I asked myself: what were your fantasies when I was younger and this really helped me with my style. Because I connected to something again that was lost for a while. Sometimes we are overwhelmed by the fantasies of others as adults, so it’s important to free ourselves from all this stuff and get back to the roots 😊

[mirandag]

For FREEEE? You are officially one of my favorite and one of the best and most generous YouTubers of all time!!

[pomegranatejelly]

The intro is such a flex, she can make literally any style suit her and this is why we take her styling advice lol

[Sinthecity]

I think this is the most practical fashion video I’ve ever seen, and I’ve been watching them since 2010

[stargazerbird]

My daughter in law is Indian. As a tall blonde it has been a revelation that I can dress up for Indian occasions in bright colours, flowy chiffon and bling for days and look great. Lived my life in jeans and a t shirt. Life needs more fantasy.

[purrgundy]

Instead of buying new clothes, try on accessories! It's not about the garments, it's about the styling of said garments. And let's not forget hair, makeup, and shoes. They can change the game.
Thank you for this video and the worksheets! Very informative, as usual. I shall invite you over for coffee the day you’ll buy an old French castle in the countryside 😉

[BeaLucile]

❤I started both trauma therapy AND a personal style overhaul around the same time a year ago.❤

The journeys of both interconnect more than I had ever thought they would. I'm literally augmenting my therapy via self discovery in my personal style, & visa versa. For example, as someone who has always acted, dressed, & basically developed an entire persona to become the way that would get acceptance, love, & attention from...my parents at first, then crappy boyfriends next, then bosses I wanted to take notice of me...I realized I had become a real-life version of Julia Roberts in Runaway Bride, mirroring everyone in front of me I was desperate to belong with...not knowing who I was, what * I * actually liked in clothes, music, food, hobbies, etc., outside of all their influences & preferences on me. I've been discovering myself from scratch, and YOUR videos and blog posts have been SO instrumental for me in these challenging times. I can't thank you enough!

[mariasophiafranco]

My number 1 fantasy that only makes sense to me is the gorgeous girl in Agatha Christie books how got randomly married at the end. If you're an Agatha fan you might know what I mean but its a feeling

[seaspiritinme]

I love how you are so confident and good at this but aren't talking down to us or acting as if people are dumb. And you don't tell us we're inauthentic because we have clothes or fantasies that don't fit our reality as it stands, you give us tools to help us bring a bit of it into the wardrobe we'll actually wear. Thank you ❤

[MGraceRae]

I would love to be considered.
Kibbe: Romantic
Essences: Romantic, Ethereal
Color Season: True Summer
Style Statement: Serene Romance
Fantasy Style Goals: "Victoria Magazine; Jane Seymour; English cottage; flower garden; lakeshore."
Outfit ideas to choose from: working from home, lunch with friends, a casual winter coat plus a spectacular winter coat, comfortable shoe ideas, an A+ "I'm retired so I can wear whatever I want!" outfit.

[katymcdonald]

It’s so good to hear someone talk about blending your fantasy with your reality and examining what is resonating about that fantasy. So many influencers tell people to just dress for their reality and forget about their fantasy self (especially more capsule wardrobe/minimalist influencers) but I feel like that robs people of the creative process and the ability to find true individual style.
Great advice!

[atucker]

PLEASE DO MORE personalized fantasy build-outs. I live for your personalized image boards!!

[Alina-dwlg]

What helped me while gathering my aesthetic collage is to put my face in the center of it) sounds slightly narcissistic, but it worked.

[amandamacabre]

My version of the Bardot problem is Zoe Deschanel. She was such a major style icon for me for years and then one day I looked in the mirror and felt like I was playing dressup 😂

[cvonsutphen]

*Yay, she's back* . Another fabulously done video. I'm more into home aesthetics than fashion, but there are certainly cross-overs for me. I've applied your methodology into my home. I'm an INFJ personality type, soft natural, love a muted earthy color palette, casual yet stylish, leaning into masculine elements yet also appreciating soft vintage lace doilies. I love mid-tone woods with curves and simple details, a bit of industrial. Vintage books, landscape art and pottery are a vibe. I know how to cook, can and garden. Indie folk music plays in the background as we sit lakeside around a campfire. The bedroom diffuser emits lavender and vanilla in Spring/Summer, cedarwood/patchouli/vetiver in Autumn/Winter. There's a Labrador Retriever nearby always. Money is needed, status is not. Hours long deep dives into subjects are fabulous. Stand-up comedy is the best wind down, George Carlin. Flannel lounge pants, t-shirt and suede fleece lines slippers are perfect evening attire. Wavy hair, just long enough to put up on hot days, a great skincare routine, and natural make-up. Dark roast coffee, cream no sugar, 2 cups..good for the day. Lunch at 11 a.m., a home cooked meal by 6 for supper, chocolate and nuts for a bedtime snack. My fashion fantasy is comfortable footwear for a dressy occasion. I'm an Artic Muck boot, Teva sandal, clog kinda gal. Looking forward to this series Gaby, you rock!

[ardentgailla]

I appreciate the time you take to explain how this works. It is a lot to take in and figure out, but I no longer feel like there is a rush to get to where I want to be. That takes a lot of pressure (that I put there) off myself and gives me a chance to think about what speaks to me. This video has come at a time where I'm evaluating my purpose (something I had never really put any thought into) as I consider a career change. I know you're not here to give life advice but this journey into figuring out my personal style has really helped me to start mapping other aspects of my life. Thank you so much for your time and attention!

[AlexLouiseWest]

I love the sea witch section! I moved to the sea 5 years ago after a long time working towards it, and I’m much happier.

[shanathelittle]

I struggle when I need functional clothing, lounging in the house with cats and a kitten especially in home office (with video calls), gardening, running errands etc.
I'm happy with my style in an urban office setting but not so much at home walking around the countryside and when I work from home as a pet owner, especially in a colder climate. If you could incorporate some factors such as cold temperature/ seasonally appropriate dressing and pet-proof home office sets that would be super helpful!
If further info is useful my parameters are Soft Classic, Soft Autumn with classic, ingenue, natural essences. I adore feminine, girly styles with classic silhouettes and a touch of effortless relaxed feel.

[naomivandenbroek]

ooohhh pick me!
Kibbe: Dramatic / FN
Kitchener: Dramatic with a touch of natural
Colour season: bright winter
Fantasy style goals: Tilda Swinton + Iris Apfel with a touch of Stanford Blatch - working artist, trend avoider, bold and colourful. Urban but not city, art galleries not nightclubs, beaches not bars.
Style statement: Striking Creative
Outfit ideas: weekend catchup with friends, working at a creative office, going out to an orchestral concert or play, weekend errand run, art gallery trip.

[Wisco.ro]

You are by far my favorite style YouTube channel, and I have consumed an embarrassing amount of YT style content!

I have used a similar process that you described and call them "style personas" instead of fantasies but they are born from the fantasies I love. They are inspired by me but it helps me to think of them in the third person. I have named them all Rocky like my handle, which is not my real name, and have a general mood board for each, a "scentspiration" mood board for fragrances for each, and an interior design mood board for each. I have also written mini bios, defined the foods/flavors they like to enjoy, the types of music they listen to, the types of activities they are found doing, etc. I do not buy items unless they fit my style parameters (body, color, lifestyle, etc) and then ask which of my style personas would wear or use this item and how? And if the answer is none, I realize there is something about the item I likely appreciate and find beauty in but that does not work for me and therefore is not a wise purchase. The best pieces and outfits I put together are when I know more than one of my style personas would be happy to rock the outfit. I am currently working on designing a Canva stylebook and printing it for myself to have a nondigital copy of my inspirations and guidelines.

I love the prompt and can wait to watch the videos! Here are my answers to your prompt:

1. Kibbe: soft gamine
2. Kitchener: gamine, ingenue, natural (in that order I am pretty certain)
3. Season: warm autumn (I sometimes use the whole autumn palette and borrow from the softer warm spring colors when I want brighter colors, basically I prioritize warmth when it comes to color)
4. Style Tagline (I don't have a tagline but I have 4 main buzz words that I defined with 3 other words to illustrate further what they mean to me, like a style buzz word thesaurus lol): Adventurous (playful, bold, exploring), Effortless (carefree, sensible, cozy), radiant (warm, charming, luminous), creative (artistic, whimsical, dreamy).
5. Style Roots (inspirations from nature that inform my style aesthetics): Sun, Flower, Earth
6. Style Personas (which are basically my core fantasies but I'll try to marry them into one): Rocky - The Whimsical Wildflower, Rocky - The Vintage Storybook Heroine, Rocky - The Mid Century Jetsetter, Rocky - The Cozy Cabin Dweller, Just Mom: The Minimalist Maven
7. My style signatures and things I am known for: color and pattern play, hats, scarves, statement glasses and shoes, and dresses and skirts. I wear some pants but rarely, mostly to lounge at home. I have hiked ten 10 miles on a mountain trail in a dress if that tells you anything about my commitment to them. They obviously were made from pragmatic materials. I didn't hike in a ball gown lol.
8. Style memories: the first photo I saw of Iris Apfel in the green brocade blazer with layers of bangles and giant round tortoise shell glasses, fashion spreads of twiggy, a mid summer's night dream with Michell Pfeiffer, Mary Kate and Ashley boho era of the late 90s and early 00s.
9. The outfits: if possible I would love to see spring, summer, fall, and winter versions of outfits for the following scenarios: lounging at home, work from home, work at the office, errands, brunch with friends, and outdoors activities. If you have to pick a season because that would be 24 outfits ;-), please choose spring or summer as they are my favorite seasons.
10. The Fantasy (not fully realistic to achieve but what I wished existed and want to incorporate into my style): A Day In The Life of a Vintage, Retro-Futuristic, Urban, Seaside, Forest, Flower, Nymph and Artisan - The setting takes places in a quaint seaside city that is a bit Amalfi Coast and a bit like the island of Kauai. My home sits in the middle of a very small cove on a little rocky island just big enough for a home and some green space. My little island is connected to a pristine beach by a small walkable sand bar path. The water is vibrant turquoise and we are surrounded by lush mountains with waterfalls and forested bluffs. My home is not isolated. I live in a walkable beachside neighborhood full of small shops and cafes. The houses draw from both English and French countryside inspirations with lush gardens and winding paths and roads, and while my neighborhood seems to draw more from 13th century inspiration, in the distance you see the city and cultural center skyline full of solarpunk-like small skyscraper-esque buildings. I make my living as an artist and artisan selling a unique mix of oil and mixed media paintings, ceramic and earthen wares, crochet, knit and embroidered goods. I spend my mornings reading by the seaside as the sun rises, drinking coffee. I work on my latest commissioned piece in my lush garden until around 10:30 am. Then I head to a local seaside café for brunch with my family. After brunch I head back home to gather my hand-made artisan goods and then head to the local park to sell my goods. After talking with customers and tourists and selling out of my product I head back home to meet friends for an afternoon casual tea and charcuterie on my front porch. After my friends leave, I tidy up around my home and tend to all my plants, before showering and getting dressed. I choose an above the knee flared knit skirt with a mix of colors, patterns, and full of floral appliques. I choose a slightly relaxed linen peasant top with bishop sleeves and embroidery all over. I can''t decide between a straw boater hat or newsie hat with silk flowers but end up wearing a silk bandana with butterflies instead. I grab my crossbody satchel and leather fisherman sandals and head outside. I walk alongside the beach and seaside bluffs to the city center passing all my favorite theaters, museums, and restaurants. I meet a friend at a local university for an evening lecture on the influence of solarpunk philosophies in modern architecture. After the lecture, we heading to an outdoor beer garden to have a drink, appetizers, and discuss the ideas in the lecture. I head home grateful for the evening summer breeze and the moon light dancing on the sea waves. I wind down with one of my favorite shows and head to bed to get plenty of sleep because tomorrow is Monday (my weekend), and my daughter and I are going hiking, waterfall hunting, and kayaking in a nearby tropical mountain park.

I put some prompts related to my fantasy in chat gpt and it made me a series of images! It matches fairly closely to something I imagined and I just made a mini mood board collage with them. If end up choosing my prompts for a video, I can happily send you the mood board if that is helpful! 🙂