10 Things About You That Can Drive A Narcissist Crazy

Over time you can decide not to go along with a narcissist's many dysfunctions, much to the narcissist's chagrin. Dr. Les Carter highlights 10 distinct responses you can make to a narcissist that can drive them crazy, even as you become more healthy.

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Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, Tx. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder.

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[kellysims]

What really drives a narcissist crazy, is loving yourself and being healthy and independent. Im speaking from my experiences.

[realhealing]

A narcissist hates your individuality because they can't control you. Narcissists are emotional vampires and they will suck the life right out of you.

[NYTim]

1- Your ability to walk away and not fooling yourself anymore that they could ever change
2- Your courage to start from scratch and build yourself up again
2- Being bruised but still being able to be kind and compassionate to others who didn’t hurt you
3- Trusting your own truth
4- Learning again to believe in nobody but yourself
5- Your ability to heal yourself
6- Your self confidence that you started building back peace by peace
7-Your ability to reconnect with others, being social, make friends and bring yourself out of isolation
8- Your ability to thrive and being financially independent that they thought they successfully destroyed
9- Your self awareness and self acceptance
10 - Above all - your ability to be happy

These are the things they hate the most

[CristyMarieMiller]

“If I drive you crazy, maybe it’s because you alrready are” Yes!

[maryenglundmurphy]

Best one yet! Over 45 years as pastors wife, been lied to, cheated on, gas lit, all my fault, of course!! I’m the angry one and he’s sweet, kind, caring, charming. Divorced nearly a year. Can’t afford counseling so your videos really help. Thx!

[tzukhi]

They hate when you are doing great, and also when you ignoring them drives them crazy. They seem weak and down when ignored. A monster without batteries.

[Stardusted]

They hate it when you’re joyful and happy. About anything. I was told he hated my laugh. And my smile. You should have seen me smiling when I divorced him!

[sohinisen]

"Live as a free person." A gem of an advice. Thank you, Dr. Carter.

[angeladefabls]

You cannot give a narcissist a compliment it only makes their ego bigger and they feel more entitled

[tedstephenson]

Narcissists loathe other people's happiness - they graduate from being the child who destroys siblings toys and games into being an adult with the same mind set.

[pkp]

Silence, confidence and independence drive the narcissist crazy. Rejection of them ( without even acknowledging them ) and your personal success kills them.

[annking]

45 years of therapy didn't help me and then along comes Dr. C. 1 year later I have found my place of peace and love. Feels so good.

[aliaskong]

My narc babbles anytime there's silence. It's neverending word salads about nothing.

[inconceivabledark]

In my personal experience the thing my narcissist hates the most is the fact that I don't belong to them. I belong to me.

[loulou]

Your independence and happiness away from the narcissist destroys them.

[univerz]

Powerful message here Les. You are a great mentor to all Narc survivors, I only wished I had found this years ago.

[aquariussista]

Narcissist strategies
1.Shaming (don't cower)
2. Requirements or orders (say no)
3. Accusations (Refuse to prove yourself )
4. He's smarter, he's better, acclaimed (let him think highly of himself ) (have self respect for yourself )
5. Controlling (Just be yourself/be free)
6. Highly Argumentive (don't settle with a childish argument/opt out)
7.Jealous of your friends (live your life and keep your good friends )
8. Like others to take the guilt ( don't feed their ego)
9. Illogical-Irrational-Excuses (see through their excuses and don't settle, set your boundaries)
10. They hate to see you happy and at peace (still find things to make you happy and continue with that )
*Therapy helps if you have been in long term abuse from a Narcissist.

[John-qvjm]

They are very miserable and unhappy people also liars.

[AlwaysStampinVideos]

-normalcy
-self love
-no desire to judge
-positive attitude
-ability to endure
-appreciate for learning
-healthy curiosity
-honesty
-logic
-power to say NO

Looking forward to hear your list, DrC! These are the ones that seem to work for me personally. The bottom line is… just being myself drives the narcissists in my life crazy.

[sage]

Guesses - They dislike your capability, originality, living a values based life, knowing yourself, having an inner light, self care, sociability, extraversion, clarity, focus, committment.