finally reading THAT tiktok book 📖 a reading vlog & essay | It Ends With Us by Colleen Hoover

Welcome to another reading vlog! In today's video, I am finally reading THAT tiktok book -- It Ends with Us by Colleen Hoover! I have been asked to review It Ends With Us / read Colleen Hoover so so many times. So, here I am, finally reading this tiktok book. This is another reading vlog & essay. I love making these vlogs with a little bit more of an analytical approach (plus all the cozy nice bits of a regular reading vlog). Please let me know what you thought of it!

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[christy-anne-jones]

Hope you all enjoy this vlog and essay!~ Just another warning: there's a LOT of spoilers in this video, so if you haven't read the book yet and you want to avoid spoilers, it would be wise to skip this one. Take care everyone 💛💛

[spalanai]

coho fans being the reason z-library got down makes sense.

[in-betweendays]

it’s so weird how this book is marketed as romance when it’s mostly about a toxic relationship instead

[bookoffholicbookwart]

Tiktok popularizing and romanticizing this book and ugly love made me question everything about mass media. I completely agree that it has it's pros like rejuvenating the love for reading in so many but the most popular books have something problematic about them. There are so many amazing books with legit writing and plot being neglected. I'm afraid that the book community might end up becoming something it shouldn't be.

[hkostelnik]

As a small business owner that is a florist, her startup and how ‘easy’ everything was made me unnaturally upset more than most things in this book 😅

[happyreadingwatching]

I have avoided all her books because I've heard the love interests are walking red flags 🚩

[muhlenstedt]

Thank you for being honest and for having the courage of expressing an opinion that goes against the mass market. I have found the book horrible, but I can understand that it could reach people that are new to reading.

[r.r]

As someone who was abused for 17 years, ive avoided this book and any discussion about it . But you made even this comforting. Thank you! I had a very hard day and your videos are like a warm hug. You handled this topic so well too!

Also, just wanted to add one small thing, its not necessary that an abuser has been traumatised. Sometimes, there is no trauma, but thats just who they are. Often seen in narcissistic sociopaths.

[saralowes]

There is a book called "Was It Even Abuse" by Emma Rose Byham and it helped me stop victim blaming myself for my abusive relationship. It is so validating of the experience of victims of covert (emotional and psychological) abuse.

[anetherealpursuit]

It’s so interesting to see someone express almost word for word the same opinions I had about this book as I was reading it. I thought Ryle was a massive walking red flag from the beginning and my experience with marketing also made me question Lily’s career stage for her age. The wish fulfilment aspects made it hard for me to take the book seriously.
However, it was exactly the book I needed to read when I read it. I was in an abusive relationship at the time and I didn’t fully accept the reality of that until I read this book, romanticising the person and rationalising the incidents. This book opened my eyes, made me forgive myself for being in such a situation (having never imagined it could happen to strong independent me 😅), and make the difficult and heartbreaking decision to get out of there. So even though it’s not my favourite book in the world, it was a huge catalyst for change in my life and I’m now out, in a new place, healing and growing. It’s funny to realise that even books you don’t even really like that much can wake you up and change the course of your life. Books are amazing!!

[Nephele_Tempest]

I think part of the disconnect with this book is that people keep talking about it as a contemporary romance novel, but simply having a romance within the story doesn't put it in the romance genre. Romance novels have happy endings. This is simply contemporary fiction. The marketing of it as a romance leads to confusion for a lot of readers who start reading and bump into those very serious topics you've discussed that don't lead to the happy, romantic ending that one expects from a genre romance.

[melliemac]

I tried reading Verity after all the hype. I couldn’t even force myself to finish. I’ve never even touched another one of her books and I never will. 🥰

[lostinthesupermarket]

'people should just be able to have fun and enjoy whatever forms of art and entertainment they like because we're all just silly blobs of flesh on a floating rock anyway, it doesn't matter' literally one of my new favorite quotes. Loved the video thank you as always ~~

[bookishcreature]

I understand why you don’t like to give negative reviews, but this was great. It was thoughtful, with nuance and with very good arguments, I hope you make more videos like this ☺️

[tempest]

I really appreciated what you said at the end about romances being historically looked down upon due to misogyny and classism. You're quite fair minded to point this out even though romance isn't your favorite category. I started reading romances as a graduate creative writing student when a professor wanted me to learn about plot, and though I held my nose at first, I found many amazing romance authors. Their writing is on par with the best writers of any other genre.

[lexylewis]

I just finished reading It Ends with Us and personally i'd give it 1/5
here are my reasons why
(first off i have much respect for Lily and anyone else who has experienced this first hand and i appreicate the effort in which the author used her book to bring light on abuse)
1. Romantized abuse - i feel like the tone and the cover along with the blurb innappropriately romantized this book it should not be a romance but rather a horror
2. trigger warnings - trigger warnings are needed, i don't care if it spoils the book, victims of domestic abuse could have been hurt by the lack of warning
3. the cliché of abusive men - being tormented by his demons. I feel that the author use of saying there's no such thing as bad people only people who make bad decisions is not ryle case at all he planned his last attack and it is not an example of a poor totured soul
4. romantizes toxic traits which is anti- feminist
5. Lily's protection and divorce for her child's saftey is a basic parental minium/ plus the co-parenting was unrealistic ryle could have been a danger to the baby she put her in an unsafe environment and the fact she doesn't press charges is unrealistic

[niamhspeirs]

Ryle was like a walking red flag from the beginning but also I feel like the author gave too much credit to Atlas for being a decent human being ?? Also book club drinking game - take a shot every time Ryle says he is a neurosurgeon 😂😂

[mxmissy]

So I learnt about this while researching Fanfiction for an essay I wrote in defence of it back in like 2019. But a lot of books are priced the way they are because of their genre, and by gender too. A lot of romance novels are going to be cheaper because they're written by women and marginalised groups. Whereas books like Sci-Fi for example (even though it was invented by a woman) are more expensive because they attract men more often. It's why YA is also cheaper because it predominantly attracts marginalised groups. Romance is cheaper because they're not seen as "good enough" literature compared to novels in Fantasy or Sci-Fi genres.

(If you want to know why I learned about this because of Fanfiction, a lot of men will put their nose up towards Fanfiction because it's free. They don't understand why most people (from marginalised groups) would write something for free when they could be paid for it.)

[zolapetrova]

I found this book educational ahaha if that makes sense. My mother was in this kind of abusive relationship and never tried to leave my stepfather which was the abuser. I always blamed her for being weak, but after reading this book at least I understood how it feels when you're the one who's getting abused. I still didn't forgive her for choosing him over me but I stopped blaming her.

[sarahjordanwrites]

Ack I will continue to avoid Colleen Hoover - for really excellent contemporary romance I'd really recommend literally everything by Emily Henry - she's spectacular!