The Dos And Don'ts For Ridiculously Sensitive People

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I know you’re out there, you ridiculously incredibly sensitive people, and oh dear am I one myself, I sure am. Even if you aren’t a ridiculously sensitive person, I can almost guarantee you have those specific moments where your sensitivity levels reach a dangerous high. So I’ve lived on this earth as an extreme sensitive for long enough to know what will feel nice to my sensitive nerves, and I’ve learned the hard way just what to stay away from. Let’s see if you agree with me on this list of dos and don’ts or if you have completely different ones. Should we start with the don’ts? Okay.

I talk about:
- overscheduling
- stop watching news
- draining relationships
- the problems with alcohol
- cynicism
- accepting that you’re sensitive
- taking breaks
- being silent
- veganism
- having a calm partner

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[nadia.lewis.]

I don't have a David; I have a Socrates: a 190 cm blond teddy bear of a man with a deep, calming voice. Never been mad at me once in seven years. Best human ever!

[AM-bmxw]

Every time Jenny talks I feel like it gives me permission to be myself. Thanks 😊

[star.gazer]

I used to be a social media doom scroller, true crime consumer, and avid drinker. I’ve since cut that all out of my life in the last three years. It’s helped my mental health immensely! I feel lighter and more clear-headed most days. Honoring my sensitivity has been crucial in my healing and self-improvement.

[maroulio]

I am 84 and still maintain a child-like joy seeing plants grow, hugging my favourite tree, and being an environmentally aware vegan in general. I am very sensitive to many things you describe. I can't be in large crowds, noisy or not. I get stressed easily but I am learning to stay in the moment and be aware of my breath, which I find very calming in all situations. I do have my husband of 10 years who is like an older David type- he is great at handling all the annoying mundane things like bills and as a bonus, he always washes the dishes, pots and pans. We rarely eat out as I like cooking all organic food. We don't have a dishwasher so he gets double hugs.

[janette]

Caffeine- and alcohol-free options are a lifesaver. And headphones on public transport. No music, just to dampen the noise. Emails/ messages over phone calls. HSP survival tactics.👍

[NatashaYoung]

I relate 1000% about having boundaries about the news. It's so toxic, and the way people consume news today has little to do with 'being informed'.

[taniasauma]

I'm extremely sensitive so I son't watch the news, I listen to them on the radio, it's been a total game changer

[cathyjoy]

Oh thank you so very much for this video. 'Sensitivity' is something that has only recently been talked about actually. I'm in my 60s and if something made you feel 'frightened' or you 'felt it deeply' you were told that you were just being 'over the top'. But this is now something that is more accepting of people. I certainly relate to this video.

[ametaphorfor]

I loved what you said about silence being about an absence of words or ideas and the consumption of them. I've thought about this before and I feel like if I spend too much time consumption ideas and concepts, even visuals (I'm looking at you Pinterest.), that I start to feel out of balance. I feel like I can't have my own thoughts because I keep stuffing myself full of other people's ideas. The input and stimulus of the world must be balanced by creativity and preferably making things with my own hands, like painting or even just cooking a meal or tidying my home.

[alittlebitlaura]

I couldn’t agree more. I love my soft side and recently said goodbye to all the toxic relationships in my life. Life is too short. Long live the soft and gentle folk! ❤

[bodilrummelhoff]

Yes, being vegan is also one of my best decisions in life! It gives me peace knowing I'm aligning my action with my morals, treating all animals (as well as humans) kindly and respectful. ❤

[elissweet]

This is pretty refreshing view on sensitivity. I never liked to consume violence for example, not in the news, not in tv shows or movie... I could read about it only in books and only when it wasn't too much of it. Maybe the reason is like you said, because it's a fiction and it's handled with care, not as an entertainment. Another reason could be, that I could close the book whenever I wanted and returned to it when I felt I am okay to read more.
Usually, when I tell people I don't want to see a movie because there will be too much violence, I get a bit of odd looks. It makes me feel that it's weird to not want to consume media with too much violence. You're a breath of fresh air, I never really considered looking at sensitivity in a positive light in this regard.

[elfriedeschmidt]

Thank you thank you for speaking to the nature of a sensitive person. I’ve so often been told I’m too sensitive; I need to toughen up. I always felt deflated and confounded by those comments. Now, I see it as my strength. I want to offer the opportunity to explore this trait by reading the book titled The Highly Sensitive Person (How to thrive when the world overwhelms you) by Elaine N. Aron Ph.D. She has also written a book for The Highly Sensitive Child…so needed by parents not understanding how these children see and move through the world. Anyway, I very much appreciate your openness to share your own experiences as a sensitive person and yes, the world needs such people to balance out the darkness that exists around us. Namaste 🙏

[Nina-mdvo]

I think you are very normal, so to speak. Many people are sensitive in that way, but they don’t listen to themselves as you do. They see the News anyway, they drink and have a lots of meetings in their schedule anyway. I think your way is the new way of beeing. To listen to yourself and to your body. We need to take care of ourselves. And we are the only one who can do it 🤗✌️

[lzlzlz]

My mum thought I was ‘hypersensitive’ as a kid, which is a bit of a pseudoscientific term. But I got diagnosed ADD as an adult. And I very much identity as a sensitive person. So in a way she was right.

[ellie]

I definitely have a more harsh and cynical personality, but I really wish I was more sensitive. I don't know if I'll ever change, but this video is good for helping me understand my more sensitive friends.

[mrsmw]

I always have a reset day once a week. I work every weekday morning (sometimes from home) and also have a meeting on a Sunday. So Saturdays have to be for me otherwise I don’t cope with the following week. Everyone should have a quiet day to cope. Doing whatever makes you happy.
Lovely episode as always.

[louisah]

I love this "silence" tip! I really struggle with this so hearing you mention it is a good reminder that I need more silence in my days.

[ankeael]

Oh wow, you hit the nail on the head for me with this, Jenny! <3 Just at the beginning of the year, when I reflected on 2023 and was setting up my word for 2024, I chose "Softness" - after years if not decades of constantly pushing myself over my own boundaries.

Why it is time:
Throughout the past 2 years, I changed my whole group of friends (now they're all soft beans like me and I've never felt more validated and understood) PLUS I think I finally found my version of a David! 😍😍Still kind of tough for me to understand and accept all this support and unconditional love from this and these person(s) sometimes, but I feel my nervous system is finally(!!) taking a break. Also, I incorporated journalling and LOTS of reading novels towards the end of last year, after years of non-fiction only. Gurl, what a gamechanger.

I'm starting to dip my toes into the waters of my own sensitivity (does that sound weird?) and stopped shoving one of my greatest superpowers away. <3

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Whoever reads this: You got this! Have a great day. <3

[katytallon]

So relatable. I need healthy, hearty, good food - if I've got low blood sugar my sensitivity shoots up. I also have to take at least a day off before and after a holiday (crazy huh!). Love how much I know myself via my sensitivity though and how consciously aware it makes me.