Homophobia and Transphobia Hurts Everyone

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This video could not have happened without the 200+ amazing youth who shared their stories and our wonderful partners:

Asian Arts Freedom School
Canadian Federation of Students - Ontario
Native Youth Sexual Health Network
OK2BME, program of K-W Counselling Services
Rainbow Youth Niagara, program of Quest Community Health Centre
Regional HIV/AIDS Connection
Réseau Access Network
Youth Services Bureau of Ottawa

Special thanks to Meld Media who put together this breath-taking video!

CREDITS

Direction: MELD
Creative Direction - Ken Reddick
Producer - Robert E. Garfinkle

Illustration & Animation - Matthew Kalinauskas
Illustration & Animation - Miguel De Lara Flores

Concept Designer & Storyboards - Ivy Ning Gao

Sound Design & Mix - La Hacienda Creative
Brian D'Oliveira
Jeremy Reid

Equipment Sponsor - Vistek

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[twinkletoodledoughs]

It hurts when people say being lgbt's a choice. Like why would I chose to get hateful comments telling me that they didn't care if I died?

[Aurthorcreation]

When people say I can't marry the one I love. It feels like I'm supposed to be supportive of there rights because I'm not as important as they are. When I look around at the crowd smiling and cheering I get an empty sensation when I look beside me and see a nobody there when it comes to getting married. It's like A dream without being able to make that dream a reality. An imaginary wonder that plagues the mind and then the body aches. As I look at my partner I'm forced to disappoint. How is that

[MJYADHUKRISHNA]

As a straight dude, why can't people just mind their own business . Every gender, orientation etc should be treated the same, None wrong, None special either.

[tamekawoodstock]

Hate is the worst Crime . I suffered mentally and so did my kids . I thank God He gave me the strength to endure it, now I’m free to love . I wish this world could start Spreading Love the way they spread Hate . Love conquers ALL ❤️🌈🙏💪

[minxywaters]

Homophobia and transphobia makes you feel these things in the video. Even the person sending the hate, they feel it deep down, and push it away, unlike others who are the victums, and aren't able to hide it as well....

[Aurthorcreation]

Thanks this is very close to how I feel when attacked by homophobes. Feels like a shark ripping away at my flesh piece by piece tearing down what humanity makes me feel like a complete person. Like a bomb going off in my face when someone says something hateful. When there feels like no escape like everywhere you go a cage surrounds me separating me from everyone else. The loneliness in the crowd eats away at me with desire to want to be acknowledged. How good of a description is this?

[kittieismexoxo]

"An alarm that nobody else hears"

They get it

[Little_Bug]

Exactly the reasons why I’m scared to come out, I’m a nonbinary, panromantic, greysexual. And I’ve already been outed by my mom for being pan to my family and her friends. My sister talked to me about how she didn’t agree with it but I guess I could also like girls, completely disregarding how I’m gender blind. She also said and I quote, “just don’t think you’re a guy... I’ll beet you up!” And then laughed like it was some kind of joke, almost my entire family is homophobic and transphobic. I was also told by my mother on my birthday sleepover to “keep my clothes on” “or else *friends dead names* parents will be called and you won’t see them again” I was disgusted she thought I would do that with my friends, I’m sure that being graysexual added to the situation. But what was gonna do? Tall back? No. I just said okay with a little smile on the brink of tears. I’m also not aloud to cuddle my friends (cuddling is how i communicate in a way). My mom has also said, not to me but to my dad “so *dead name* just gets to be gay!?” And “if we stay here she’s going to be a lesbian!” So yeah I don’t have the best relationship with anyone in my family. It actual pains me whenever I hear my dead name ands that’s what I’m called everyday because I don’t know what I even want to be called and even then I could never tell my family. I’m just done with society, I’m facing the facts. It would be better to not come out then deal with everything that comes with it(in my opinion), I’m simply not in the mental state to feel all that from a lot more people directly then I already do.
Sorry this ended up being a rant, take care! Eat something and drink some water if you haven’t, Have a good day! <3 :]
Edit: I think I’m unlabeled in both sexuality and gender

[harasen_haras]

1:02 "Quarantine" A moment of what 2020 looked like and 2021 still has a bit of left.

[jimmyplayscds]

Let's
Get down to
Business
To defeat the Huns

[TheYipedo]

Thank you for this. I'm pretty optimistic here about the future. The younger generations are already less likely to be homophobic than the older ones. Of course, there's still a lot of progress to make, but I can at least see the signs of change in our youth.

[Ka_orellana]

The world would be a much better place if it weren’t for em homophobes and transphobes, plz just let us be and do ya own ass thing! These phobes need to be sued!

[maybemarsz]

as a kid underneath the transgender umbrella (agender) this rlly represents the feeling of it

[escwilde]

How did I only now just get this recommend. Hope the algorithm gives life to this old video too. It deserves way more attention! ❤️🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

[kouprosklou]

It hurts me deeply that when I came out to my mom, she immediately started yelling she wasn't going to refer to me as a girl because "for 18 years she's brought me up as a girl-chasing man and she'll never get used to it". During the same conversation, she suggested me talking to a therapist, but not because I have a hard time focusing on what people are telling me nor because I've experienced trauma that I never healed from, but just because I'm transgender. Then she tries to make a point by saying that trans people have miserable lives, which is actually kinda true, but how the hell will they NOT be miserable if transphobic people intentionally make it miserable? How the hell is her daughter supposed to live a happy life is she won't give her a chance? Stuff like that happens and then my parents wonder why I won't open up about my feelings to them? How can I when they try so hard to seem smart and educated just for them to make illogical conclusions and expect me to agree with them? Ugh...

[ChrisIsEditing]

"Heartache, beating, when you pull the fast ones
Lying, scheming
What kind of life is that one?
What would the world remember you for?
When love gets knocked down, it comes back for more
Hurt people hurt people
They don't know why (they don't know why)
Hurt people hurt people
They don't even try
We all go through things in our lives
That don't make this shit all right
You don't hear me
Listen clearly"

[mackerdoni]

thank you, this message needs to be heard, i get called she daily despite being nonbinary just because im also lesbian so you can imagine the stuff i go through. i will try and spread this message.

[jamie]

Ah yes, allow me to *choose* to become part of the community that got sexually assaulted three times over the time I've attended my high school. I love running the risk of trauma because I wasn’t well received when I entered the men's room with the wrong person. That sounds like so much more fun than being accepted by every person on the face of the earth.

[PaulS]

Thank you so much for making this. I get told that I'm gay for attention. I didnt choose to be gay. I am also trans neutral but most people dont know that. My friend made me a bracelet with the trans flag and the gay flag from scratch. I wish we had more people like this in the world

[joewestley]

sexuality never should be a public affair to be judged upon!!!