When he was young, Zachary would call me ‘mama’ and Chaela ‘mommy’ #3kids #thenvsnow #family #joke

We have 3 kids and they are all different in their own ways. Chaela adores her baby brother when he was born and used to claim that she’s his mommy when they play house. That kinda stuck and I find it so adorable that Zachary calls me ‘mama’ while he calls her ‘mommy’. This video is a joke from it that she raised him.. she’s only 5 years older so which 5 yo can raise a baby? While I know some parents may have forced their older kids to parent their younger siblings, that is not the case in our family.

We were inexperienced when we had Joshua and thought that “boys should be tough”, so I commented that we raised him to be tough. We may not be great parents but we really were just inexperienced. When Chaela was born, she’s the ‘princess’ and so the comment that she was raised with ‘tender loving care’ but I can assure you that we love all of our 3 kids with the same amount of love and care.

Rest assured that we did not rob Chaela of her childhood or abuse any of our kids. We love them and would never harm them in any way. The video was just a joke. If you follow my account and watch my daily vlogs, you can see our family interactions and how we spend time with each other. Thank you for subscribing to our family channel 🫶

[taylorfaulkner]

As the oldest child, I hated that my parents raised me “tough” while my younger brothers got tender love and care.

[mitz_tiang]

Just to clarify 2 things:
1. The 13 year gap refers to when the before pics were vs today (not kids’ age gap)

[faloof]

I love how they just admitted to raising their daughter to be the mother of her brother lmao.

[katt]

I was a 9 year old who was parentified and forced to basically raise my brother. This is not a good thing to do to your children and will lead to resentment. Your child deserves to be a child and have a normal childhood.

[maeeshalt]

You don't raise your kids to be "rough" and another to be kind and loose interest in raising the last one. I hope these kids get a decent paying job because boy is therapy expensive.
Sincerely another raised to be rough kid.

[tiamelancholyjeoncockity]

Being the oldest one is relatable asf, idk why it’s always us who has trouble with expressing our emotions now 😭🗿🔫

[Samantha-ewyn]

Wait, why did your daughter raise your son?

[nawr]

All good points by the other commenters.. I just wanted to add that turning their older kids into babysitters/parents of the younger sibling doesn't damage just them but extends to the grandkids too. My grandma had 12 children of which my mother was the 2nd. She spent her whole life until she was married always raising a new kid while keeping trying to keep the rest in line. And then when she had us, she guilted us for every little thing even though we had a fairly normal childhood. Her mental scars affected me so much I'm still in therapy at 24 and it continues to affect every time I speak to her or spend time with her. The generational trauma is so real and having your own parent be jealous of your childhood will screw you up forever.
If you can raise one kid only, have one kid only.

[giraffierose]

I love how some people are just completely missing the #joke tag 💀

[itsnotkitty]

Their parents raised all of them.

From what I’m getting from this, no one was forced to act motherly to their siblings, it was just the nature of their relationship.

Sometimes people make jokes. This is one of those times.

[nicolakunz]

So your oldest has problems expressing his emotions and your daughter lost her childhood being a second parent.

[kaede]

i can't believe people actually took this seriously and started hating on them, yall really can't enjoy anything 💀

[vivmullan]

i am not familiar with this family so i am not trying to judge them i’m probably wrong but these are more things that might go unrecognized in misogyny. i don’t know the full story i’m sure the family is different than they appear in this video these were just my thoughts.
1. raising your oldest daughter to be the third parent isn’t something to brag about. it comes from a long line of misogyny and teaching women they only exist to take care of others. the sister being called mommy isn’t normal. i understand that older siblings help out a lot for the youngest especially if the parent is working.
2. i feel that raising the some to be “tough” and raising the daughter to be “kind” is not at all what parenting needs to be. you should let your kids figure out what they want to be and the parents should help and support them. a boy doesn’t have to be tough and a girl doesn’t have to be just kind. everyone should be kind.

I AM NOT HATING ON THIS FAMILY OR GOW THEY FUNCTION. every family is different and i respect that. these points may not be accurate for the family these are more showing red flags of misogyny that often go unrecognized if all of this was true. also i made the necessary edits bc i think some ppl didn’t rly understand the message i was trying to get across which is fine.

[messylawnclippings]

imo it’s not a brag to say your daughter had to raise your son, that’s your job

[PearlShivam]

Guys please stop hating on the parents. Im an older sister and i take care of my younger sister too. Chaela takes of her younger brother. Thats normal siblings hood.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[nada__]

As a first child who was raised to be "tough" and had to take care of my younger siblings : I pay 240 dollars/ month for therapy now and I don’t talk to my parents anymore .

[fiki_v]

As a child with an older sister, who has shitty parents i can say that she was the one who raised me and my first word was "Sister". She did a better job raising me for 12 years than my parents ever did.

[SkyWomanAnn]

To all the people screaming in the comments at them: not only is this a joke - even if it wasn’t just because the daughter is good with her little brother and can be seen as a mother figure to him doesn’t mean she was forced into that role. I know a lot of older sisters who mother their younger brother, it’s just instinct, I guess. My cousin being one of them: and it’s not because the parents aren’t involved or anything.

and just because the older one is tough, doesn’t mean he has emotional issues? like tf? He was the first raised of course he is going to be parented differently, and likely more harshly than the rest. You look at literally ANY family at that’s how it goes. Parenting usually mellows out after more kids come along.

[JustMyTake]

The middle child neglect is strong with this one it seems. Specially since she is a girl. I raised my son to be TOUGH and my daughter to be a MOTHER and raise my youngest kid. It's really not something to brag about you know.

[sunnalyn]

“haha, we made our daughter lose her childhood so she could raise our youngest and raised our oldest to feel like he had to be tough! praise us!”