The 3 Things EVERY Human Wants with Esther Perel | The Oprah Podcast

In this episode of The Oprah Podcast, presented by Ulta Beauty, world renowned relationship therapist Esther Perel offers her profound insight on modern romance, and what we can do to feel more alive in all our relationships – not just the romantic ones.

With wisdom gained as a therapist and from her hit podcast, "Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel," Esther offers frank sexual advice along with her thoughts on dealing with betrayal, life transitions, and relational burn out. Couples and individuals will join via Zoom to hear Esther do what she does best: reveal the hidden truth beyond the stories we tell. She’ll also discuss her ingenious conversation-starter card game, “Where Should We Begin? A Game of Stories by Esther Perel.”

00:00:00 - Welcome Esther Perel
00:04:00 - What Esther and Oprah wish they had been told as a child
00:05:45 - Why Esther started the podcast “Where Should We Begin”
00:06:58 - How modern romance is changing
00:10:44 - How to feel less lonely
00:12:09 - The three most common things couples fight about
00:15:40 - Welcome married parents Christina and Stephon
00:19:58 - This is when foreplay starts
00:23:50 - Why it’s hard to talk about sex in relationships
00:25:20 - How to not feel pressured by sex in your relationship
00:28:15 - Welcome Jen, a married mom
00:29:13 - How to let go of control
00:35:42 - Welcome Erica who is questioning her marriage
00:36:39 - How caretakers can take care of themselves
00:41:08 - Welcome Barbara who was married to a narcissist
00:42:30 - How to trust again after leaving a narcissist
00:46:35 - The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives
00:49:10 - The basis for a well-lived life

“Where Should We Begin? A Game of Stories by Esther Perel” is available on her website,

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