Canceling cancel culture with compassion | Betty Hart | TEDxCherryCreekWomen

Cancel culture generally refers to celebrities, but what about the people in our inner circle we are cancelling due to ideological differences? What if instead of removing people from our lives, we extended compassion to them? In this moving talk, Betty Hart shares a poignant story of her father and the unlikely friendship of Ruth Bader Ginsberg and Antonin Scalia. Betty advocates for curiosity, diversity, empathy, and valuing the whole of a person rather than individual aspects.

Betty Hart is an actor, director, facilitator and woman of faith whose mission is to help create space for necessary, and sometimes challenging, conversations. Betty is a theatre artist whose mission is to help create space for necessary conversations. These dialogues can center around who we are as individuals, who we desire to be as a community, or how we can change long standing behavior to become more than we ever imagined. Through acting, directing and facilitating, Betty strives to be a change agent and a force for positivity, creativity, and collaboration.
Betty is both an actor who is a member of the Actor's Equity Association, the union for professional actors, and a director. This year Betty directed The Scottsboro Boys for Vintage Theatre, one of the few shows produced in 2020, due to the Pandemic. In 2019, she directed Hooded: or being black for dummies at the Aurora Fox Arts Center, which became the third best seller in the history of the theatre.

[stevenarvizu]

Came to find out what’s wrong with society, found out what’s wrong with me. Touché, Betty.

[sakthimaxwell]

compassion is the most beautiful thing in the world

[michellewebb]

I am concerned about cancel culture, but am also aware of confusion around unhealthy abusive, relationships where people stay connected because they believe it is compassionate. Brene Brown talks about the importance of boundaries in remaining compassionate. The relationships Betty describes are founded in mutual respect. I want to make the distinction between cancelling somone and distancing from toxicity, as the latter is self compassion.

[KarineAlourde]

This was so eloquent!! If we can change than we need to extend the same grace towards others and understand that they can change too

[binhonz]

It is noble that someone has the courage to be reasonable about the issue with the canceling culture, risking herself being cancelled in the process. Kudos to you! We desperately need more people like you. =)

[create_with_meredith]

Compassion Culture. Not an easy path to take, but really there is no easy path when it comes to relationships. The path of compassion is one that can increase our chances that we will thrive as individuals and as a community. Thank you, Betty.

[nurm]

god ive been saying this to friends for the longest time, only to be met with hesitation or absolute rejection. love and compassion should always come first.

[alnthevalley]

Nothing is a teachable moment for either if you cancel

[christybaggett]

I have always thought Betty was a rockstar, and this solidified it for me. Find common ground, agree to disagree, but still hold true to your beliefs. I do it every damn day. Love you, Betty! Thank you.

[ERICPJ]

Your dad was right you are beautiful and that beauty is way more than skin deep. You made me cry you gave me hope and encouraged me to share this incredibly wise message with my friends.

[brendansimon]

Thank you for sharing this. It's so easy for us to forget that there's a human being on the other side of our righteousness, who deserves to be heard and seen too.

[D_Tuned]

Agreeing to disagree and moving on can work wonders. Suffering sounds so self absorbed. The idea that you can be wrong about most anything, can bring down many walls.

Putting up boundaries with abusive people is one thing, but jumping ship for minor infractions is another. The bridgebuilders are the true saints in this world.

Is it worth taking that hill? I've found the vast majority of the time it's not. We all have problems and giving each other grace for being human relieves a lot of stress.

[stephenbenner]

There was a couple at my Church where the husband was a conservative Republican and the wife was a liberal Democrat, yet they not only managed to live together, but they raised four children to adulthood and still lived each other. Sadly the wife passed away from cancer last year, but it just goes to show that political differences may not be as important as the things you share in common.

[VN_]

This is so powerful and so much needed now days. Got me emotional 😢

[AmandaMaHlophe]

Your voice! ❤️😍 the way she delivers this! My word!!! I could listen to an audiobook with your voice.

[ThoSta]

Well, i also disagre with my grandpa on fundamental things, but if i lived in his time and had his expiriences, i would probably think the same way.

[empressp.]

What an amazing speech! Thank you 🙏🏽 I do not believe in cancel culture and I think it itself should be CANCELED! I like compassion culture way better 💯

[jay_jimin]

Yes, today we need this culture instead of cancel relationships. I'm crying when she talked about her father and started a new journey.❤️❤️❤️🌹 Much regards 🙏

[theclavers]

Generosity and love are the best CULTURE. We do it sharing with others love🙏🏿🙏🏿

[ericaz]

God we need more people like this woman. She actually has so e intellect and sees where she went wrong