IYKYK 👎🏽 #sleepover #parenting

[AllieRue]

My little is 7, and we do fake sleepovers. They come over with PJs, usually make a craft, eat pizza and put sleeping bags and pillows everywhere, and watch a movie with popcorn. Then, everyone goes home to sleep. 😂

[Christ_followerever]

When you're a cousin only sleepover kid:

[peachykreamaki]

Alright, but just saying, i had plenty of sleepovers with friends. The only time i got actual trauma was when i slept at my uncle’s house. Please let that sink in. If you wont let your child stay at friends houses PLEASE dont let them stay with family. Kids are more often abused by family members.

I know it seems like “oh but my family could never!” And thats exactly what i thought. But thats just not how the world works, people can easily be scummy and even easily hide it from people. I never would have expected this from my uncle but here we are. Please keep your kids safe and dont have double standards.

[alexrandom]

Thank you for protecting her mama when i was 6 - 8 almost 9 I had been groomed and touched by my "best friends" dad, his friend (and my moms friend when he and his daughters lived with us which is why no stranger will ever live with me and my children yeah they may be your friend but you never truly know a persons true intentions) and when I thought id be fine staying at my aunts house I was again groomed and touched by my own cousin's I know that once I have kids of my own they wont even be allowed to stay the night at family member homes until their older and understand how to protect and care for themselves at someone elses home I never want my children to go through the things I went through as a child it would break my heart to find out once their older that things happened to them when I thought everything was ok.

[User]

Sleepovers were some of the best parts of my childhood, happy memories I remember the most vividly. It sucks that this is the world we live in now :/

[Crazyyyy]

I’m a teenager and love sleepovers! Only rule tho was my mom had to meet both the parents or one if they had one and know what they did for work.

[shanawirtz]

i remember the fun sleepovers i had when i was about 8 and 9.. maybe older.. those were great.. but things are different these days.. its not worth it.. i wouldn't trust anyone with my daughter overnight

[bigBossy_Mia]

The people in the comments going sooo hard for sleepovers is very weird. Having a sleepover is not that serious and she isn’t missing out on anything, literally kids can have the same interactions during a PLAY DATE. Why does my kid have to sleep over someone’s house to build memories. That’s odd 🥴

[alexisforza]

Yeah will really need to know a family before letting my kid stay there, almost feel safer leaving them with no parents ffs😭 SLEEPOVERS AT MY PLACE ANYTIME THO:)

[StarletOfDavid]

I’ve hosted a million sleepovers for my son and his buddies. He’s an only child. And sleepovers are one thing you still remember and cherish when you’re all grown up.

[Meg-A-Saurus]

Okay, so I do not have children (CF here), but me and my friends and I literally LIVED at each other's houses growing up..they're are some of my most cherished times and memories! There were several close friends of mine where we spent weeks at a time at each other's houses.. one actually moved in with me for a while. I know parents worry about things so much more today..but, if you trust the families, don't deprive your kids of those special memories. I know it's an each to your own type of situation. I can't even imagine my childhood and teen years without being with my friends the way we were and so close! This was the 90s to my senior year, 2006.

[nicoleberliner]

As someone who literally dated, almost married and had a child with a guy whose WHOLE family KNEW he was peddo and DENIED it to my face over and over again when I started finding things on his computer.. I won't trust my daughter OR my son at someone else's house.
I found videos on his computer. It wasn't until 7 YEARS later he acted on his 4 year old niece who he was babysitting that his sister called the cops and he was sent to prison. He used a head engery he got when he was 6 as an excuse. His mother STILL denied anything that happened. Even after 3 of her kids came out after saying he forced THEM into things growing up!!!!
Unfortunately, you just can't do these things anymore. Cub scouts and church sleep ins aren't even safe.. 2 youth pasters from the church I grew up in are currently serving 20 years each.... I want my children to experience what I got to... but the risk of them experiencing things friends and family have is just too high.

[ZDalrymple-pj]

My mom did sleepovers with the parents and the kids so there would be like 18 babysitters and 7 to 9 children. I liked this because I was still sleeping with my mom. And I got to do the full sleepover waking up, but my mommy was still there.

[ricebowlasmr]

weird. as long as i know the family, my daughter is more than welcome to sleepover with her friends if she’d like to

[bathroomsinging]

I was not allowed to go for sleepovers for the same reason but was still sexually assaulted by a relative in my own home. I resented my parents for never giving me permission and felt like I missed out on a lot. I once also pretty much ran away from home to go to a sleepover even though my mother said no. I'm not telling anyone how to parent their children. But sometimes the things we think are protecting them might be doing more harm than good.

[pitterpatterson]

I did sleepovers for years, i understand that some people go through terrible experiences but I had such a great time growing up because of it. I feel bad for kids that don't get this chance but i understand it

[svazquez]

Yeah I realized I had my first even like friends house sleep over when I was 32 and married. Was going to a concert with her so planned to sleep over after for driving safety since I lived in a different city. Spent the day on a Target/Homegoods date with her and another friend and while at Target my hubby calls apoligizing because he thinks he got me in trouble with my mom. Lmao. And yeah, my mom who never let me have sleepovers, not even at families homes, called me to ask if I was breaking up with my husband and I was like WHAT??! Lol and the next day she called to check on me and im like yeah, hubby says hi. And shes like, “where are you??” Im like, “home mom, it was a sleepover. Im back home with my dog and hubby now” lol 32 and married yall!

[hillybear]

i will say my mom never let me have sleepovers with anyone besides our very close family friend who were indeed good people. and even as a teenager she would not let me sleepover houses with men LMFAOOO. i had two best friends without dads. and my bestie fl has an amazing dad with 4 daughters so she was good with that too hehe. LOVE MY MAMA ❤❤❤

[Psalms_]

Brotha I just got mad at my mom because she won’t let me have a sleepover with my friends, then I hop on the phone and see this.😂

[annetadayon]

feel really bad for no sleepover kids. i was a no sleepover kid until my parents got divorced, and there were still rules and i couldn’t sleep over with just anyone, but some of my friends moms were like my mom so i was there a lot- they would also watch me if my dad had to go out of town (he was an employee of a really big company that had really big strikes so they moved him over there until they were able to negotiate). i cherish those memories