Trying to love at arm's length

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#Alone #Relationships #NoFeeling

[wheresarnie]

Talking about "love" right now is like trying to start a conversation about matching napkins for the passengers of a ship while it's sinking.

[mlantieri]

“Love” used to be “for better or worse”, now its love yourself or else. Genuine love between a man and a woman is a myth.

[realnamesnotgiven]

If we can't communicate politely, we can't cooperate at all.

[xxxxz]

My relationship just ended. So love and promises have lost their value to me. She was definitly a taker, which was a red flag as her mother and siblings were too, and it caused their father to kill himself 2 months go.

[antemiksic]

What most guys have a problem with is accepting that NO woman can love you except your mom. I broke up with my first gf month ago. I was into classic red pill bs, always 'gaming' her but after a few months of having to be on point 24/7 i fell for the good old 'you can be vulnerable with me' sphiel. She used all my insecurities in a hissy fit over how i didnt do what she expected (never told) for her birthday. I broke up with her over that because it showed me she wanted to hear my insecurity to use as weapons later on. Went to mgtow channels and realised that i wont have better luck with any other woman because true intimacy was impossible. Told a friend about mgtow and he anwsered with the 'oh youre still hurt, it was the wrong woman, just try again'. I went into why we broke up and he said 'yeah well ofc you cant share your insecurities with a gf'. This guy readily admits marriages is just wage slavery but he has a gf for the intimacy. So i asked 'do you really feel intimate with your gf If you have to hide parts of yourself for it to work', he stood in silence for 5 seconds and said 'wow man you are really hurt still'. This was a long ass story but i think its show how strong the Will to reproduce is. My friend knows all the info in his brain but would Rather go that route than face being alone.

[peterridgway]

I just wish people would smile at one another.
You’ve hit it square on again huMAN

[TimeofDying]

This one hits me deep. This could be your channel trailer.

[ABCKorpi]

Communicating friendly is key. In several companies I've worked with ther was this one grumpy guy nobody got along with. I always made it a point to greet him with a smile and after a month or two he really warmed up to me and was friendly towards me. That resulted in me getting stuff from him when he'd tell everyone else to f*** off.
Sure that doesn't mean to tolerate bullshit from everyone but just being friendly and have people know that you are friendly by choice and not by necessity gets you mighty far.

[shogunofharlem]

I fake nothing, with no one. That is why I no longer have friends or gf. Everyone ends up saying stupid sh*t or bringing politics into the conversation.
There is no enjoying a night out, a date or casual fun. Most everyone I have ever known was never capable of allevating themselves beyond being just like everyone else. The options are and always have been to say nothing at all or to say what leads to not seeing that person any longer. Women, in my experience, have that framed as their default setting.

[threethrushes]

Life is the best teacher.

Life taught me to be wary of strangers. Especially in a work environment.

Thankfully, I left the corporate world behind, and virtually all my interactions with people are backed up contractually. Much, much better relations.

[kubasniak]

Adult realization. There's no love. There was when we were teens or in early 20s before our hearts got broken and our innocence taken. I trust only dogs. Humans are way under them in hierarchy of loyalty, trust and love.

[Kmangod]

Though I agree that you cannot wall yourself up and hide, it is better to be cautious in today's society. I have been burned so many times by people in general as well as my employers. I am now in a position where I do not need to work because I have financially set myself up with minimal needs. Home is paid off and zero debt along with a retirement income at 56. I do not need to involve myself with society and am quite content isolated as much as possible. I still work out every 3 days at a health club and do other things, but I have found that it is better to be happy with just me rather than associate with too many others. My hobbies, video games, and just learning to fix things for myself are all I need to keep me entertained. I like my sociopathic tendencies, though that's not what will help society because I feel society is doomed to eat itself. No thanks, I'm not afraid, I'm just being smart and looking after me now.

[MrBullet]

Your distance reference pretty much spells it out for me. Most everyone is kept at arms length except my family and like 3 friends.
Its not that I dislike people, I just got tired of bullshit and figured that most people have no bearing or effect on my life so why waste time on them.

[craigbetts]

I absolutely really LIKE how your mind works. I find it sooo hard to have these deep conversations with most Women

[being-Lisa]

I felt this so deeply. I relate both to remembering that beautiful cooperative creative dance and to now relating to others from my home on a screen ..lonely and slightly paranoid..sad.

[alaricsoto]

How can a philosopher king relate to a world shaped by PR departments? That's how I interpret this video.

[wysskey]

Up to this point in the history of humans, man has had to adapt to the change in physical environments. Now, man must find ways to adapt to a change in the social environment, All the while combating sociopaths who, using modern understanding of human psychology set the general population against one another. Man against man, man against woman, woman against woman, if this is not solved it will doom humans. The environment of fear we are living in is a deliberate effort to undermine all social interaction between thinking individuals.

[disndat]

For men, building a strong network of other men, along your interests, hobbies and mutual help is so much more important than chasing skirts. So many even do the opposite and even give up on their friends, once a female enters the picture. Big mistake.

[whirlwindmgtow]

Happy thanksgiving, brothers. Hope you’re all enjoying a day off without drama, nagging, or gaslighting. Life is good.

[lorderectus]

Why would you want to love somebody who doesn’t or cannot love you?