Security Stories 2 - The truth about strip clubs..

If you have ever been to a strip club as a customer or seen them in movies you may have some ideas on how they work. In fact they are not always the way people imagine. I spent 4 years running security in them and it was quite the experience.. My fiends thought I had the dream job but that wasn't quite how things ended up...

[hitmanmonaghan]

Worked at a peep show. First thing the manager warned me about was never trust the dancers. They were like children, constantly testing boundaries.

[ylysergic]

I feel a part of becoming an adult is realizing that casinos and strip clubs aren't the fun places they're made out to be.

[MyNameIsNotCraig]

Man, respect to you for willing to admit that you eventually succumbed to the offer to dance for 500 pound. I think you could have left that bit of the story out and nobody would have thought twice but your willingness to be transparent is admirable.

[mps]

Being a bouncer for 6 years changed me forever . Can't be in crowded venues, can't sit with back to entrances, don't trust humans, always have to find a corner to watch the room, can't get drunk - a part of your brain is always switched on.. to name a few.

[jrossofskb]

One of the things I love about YouTube is that it has given people like yourself the ability to share your stories instead of only having to listen to the talking heads spewing the approved propaganda.

[latentsea]

One time the girl really liked me. We really had a connection. I’ll never forget you Diamond Fantasia! Hardworking college girl studying to be a Doctor.

[billybussey]

I was an Uber driver for a year in Phoenix. I realized after a while that picking up the drunk guys at the strip club at 4 AM was usually the best ride to get. They were just like you described. Very nice, sweet, young innocent men. they would always joke about how much money they just lost. Tell it was just guys who were super awkward with women, but wanted that girlfriend connection. I would also occasionally take the dancers home. They were conceited party girls who didn’t care about anyone who were the opposite of sweet.

[Lurch]

Going to a strip club is like going through the drive thru when you’re starving, paying an exorbitant amount for stale food, only for them to dangle it in front of your face and you drive away still hungry.

[jonathanshaw]

I know this might be a weird compliment but you are a good story teller. You set the scene for an interesting look to an industry not a lot of people see.

[archangel_josh]

I've heard a few stories from friends that strippers were "really into" them and liked them so much that she organised to go on a date with them next week (but they're not allowed to give out their phone number) and when the girl didn't show (surprise, surprise) the guy will mope back to the club looking for her and she'd say "Oh I'm so sorry, I forgot." or "Oh babe I needed the extra shift and had to work tonight. Since you're here, do you want a private dance?" and string the guy along for months until he realises it's just a sales technique.

[marianmoses]

He speaks the truth. Strip clubs in the US operate 98% in the exact same manner. It is a seedy business and it preys upon weak people.

[danielosmon]

I dated a dancer for a year. Had no idea she was one. This sheds alot of light on things i never put together. Thanks for sharing

[Alexanderoftheth]

This is why youtube is so amazing. Id never run into this guy but now i get to hear his extraordinary story. Thanks for sharing!

[melindadurchholz]

When my daughters were young, another mom of their friend had a sewing business making outfits for strippers. She took over for her mom. She enjoyed it, liked the girls but when her husband visited her at a costume fitting in the club once, all the ladies swarmed her husband. She asked them before the visit to back off her man. They totally disregarded her.

[risinbison]

I was a county sheriff for 10 years. We had a strip joint on the edge of an Indian reservation and it was bar none the roughest place I’ve ever had to go into. The girls were all Native, some underage, most on drugs and all were turning tricks. We finally told the owner that no shit will be tolerated anymore so he hired a bunch of goons to keep the peace. It got 10 times worse when they started. He finally went to prison for human trafficking.

[deeolusanya]

I was a bouncer for 16 yrs. Everything he’s saying is correct.

[Sebrof]

I worked in strip clubs here in the states for around 22 yrs...after the military. I stopped around 2016 or so. Some were very large 30-40 dancers a night ( on weekends more often ). Others weren’t quite so large. But i always made good money. Which is the exact same reason that it’s hard for dancers to quit! I only worked at two nightclubs that were not stripclubs! One in a college town when I was in the military. And the other was in a large military town after I had gotten out! A gym buddy of mine owned it and they had some pretty big concerts there. So I got to sit at the front on the stage and just watch the crowd and listen to the music until someone came over the barricades! Not a bad gig at all! Got to see and meet Godsmack, Stained, Candlebox, Buckcherry, Bush to name a few. I think it’s proven fact ( at least it is to me, lol ) that you have way more fights in regular nightclubs than stripclubs. Customers run into guys they grew up with and dislike, guys that dated their girl, guys that want to get with their girl, guys that did their sister wrong, played on a different rugby squad etc...To whereas in a stripclub everybody’s there to see the same naked women! Every now and then you’ll get a guy who thinks he’s special and thinks that “ she really loves him and only him” and he’ll get all bent out of shape about it, or some guys get too drunk and try and show off. But most of the problems are jealous boyfriends who haven’t figured out how to deal with their girl being a stripper yet, OR, an ex boyfriend coming in with friends and acting like a fool and making the dancer ( his ex ) feel uncomfortable Or the little punk drug dealers who try to get some ass for some weed! I had dual roles in some clubs, mgr.and security, others just one or the other. Never worked the door ( well, a few times actually) ! Firstly I hated it, lol. Second, I probably would’ve hurt the clubs money, because I didn’t like a lot of nonsense ( code for short tempered ) and to pat down and/or wand someone you always heard a bunch of mouth about it! So, the few times I did on a couple of occasions work the door, I just told problem guys, look if you’re that much problem here at the door, I don’t need you inside the club because we’re gonna have to deal with you then, and it’s just not worth the door fee so just go ahead and leave now! As far as the girls go...we run across ALL TYPES! You’ve got the professional strippers, who do it for a living and don’t care about anything else, they live, eat, sleep and breathe stripping, have a hundred outfits and boots and heels and wigs etc...and will most likely go from that to sex work ( or Walmart, lol ) because they never learned another skill set. These are the girls who hope to meet their future rich husband in the club..Then you have the chicks who are separated from husbands or boyfriends and have a kid (or five, lol) that had to find a way to make money quickly and probably had a friend who talked them into trying it. They don’t really like it but they kind of start to like the attention ( and money ) so they’re still there 5 yrs later talking about quitting, lol !!! Then there’s the very FEW ( I might’ve had 2 at one time in the same club but usually more like just 1 ) who are actually going to college ( like many of them claim to be ) and they’re doing it because it’s damn good money and they can work it around school...these usually pick a club in a larger town within driving distance, but not too close to where they actually live or go to School! Hoping not to be noticed by friends or relatives! I had one of these girls dive off stage one night, right into my arms because she saw her uncle walk in the door! I caught her and she hit the floor running in her 5” heels like a damn track star, 😂! Then there’s the hotel skanks! These are the girls who usually live in a hotel and need to make enough to pay for their rooms and are mostly drunks or addicted to something and usually go eat at a Waffle House every night after work and then go to Walmart and spend every dime they made that night! These girls usually have boyfriends who are more sorry than they are and take them to work ( usually on the girls own car ) then they take some of her money and her car and go buy weed or get drunk somewhere else and cheat on them then come pick them up from work at closing...AND YEP, these are one of our biggest problems. Those idiots come back and get in an argument with their girl, she’ll hit him, or he’ll hit her and WE have to deal with it. Sometimes the money just doesn’t seem worth the BS you deal with! Most, not all, clubs I worked at had a policy of NO boyfriends inside the club or sitting in the parking lot waiting for hours! But contrary to public opinion strippers aren’t all dumb. They don’t all tell us they have a boyfriend! We hear the roommate, brother, gay friend, brother in law BS a lot and we have to decipher the truth from the BS. But there are certainly the good times and upside to the job. Meet A LOT OF PEOPLE from all different walks of life. Date ( sleep with ) MARRY (Ugghhh, what an idiot) some of the best looking women around, that most guys watch porn to see or can only come pay to see naked! We have a lot of time for the gym, not to mention the hookups from friends who are bouncing at other nightclubs ( getting in and drinking free ) when we’d go out. It’s kind of like a fraternity...we all know each other ( our girls know each other, they’re usually all bartenders, waitresses or dancers) where we each work, who’s good at the job, who might get you themselves or someone else hurt! Who can definitely handle themselves, and those who “ Think” they can etc...I never had a bouncer job stay vacant for more than a day! I always knew someone that was either looking for a spot or was ready or thinking about leaving the club they were at currently. I fired a guy one night and called a buddy at another club to ask him if he’d be interested, that crazy fool quit right then and came and finished the night out at our club! LOL...I had some fantastic times that I’ll never forget in the different clubs I worked in...some bad times...aggravating times and some downright scary times! Me and this dude could talk for days about our experiences in the “entertainment industry” as we call it, lol. If I have/had any advice for someone considering going to work security or another spot in a nightclub, it would be this! We all started by having to clean up vomit at some point from a urinal, it can’t all be glitz and glamor, and NO ONE deserves to die in a bar fight! And don’t MARRY the dancers!!! That’s mostly for me to remember! LMFAO

[whoisgtsdk]

Funny how the common lie society wants you to believe is that the dancers are poor helpless victims when in reality that's more often the customers that they prey upon.

[dat]

Probably the same in U.S. strip clubs. I always tell guys that the women do not like you and just want your money but they don't listen. If a stripper agrees to date you it's because she's trying to wring every penny she can out of you. The lives of most strippers are a mess and you don't want to take that on.

[heilerko]

You sound like a good man but were surrounded by self absorbed individuals, thank you for telling honest truth.