Nonbinary Does Not Equal Androgynous #nonbinary #shorts

[Starwalker_The_Original]

Gender expression and gender identity are two very different things

[Skip]

I recently came out as enby in my thirties. I’m not super comfortable in androgyny and feel identity in my masculine aesthetic, but not in being “a man”. It sometimes makes me feel like I don’t belong in queer spaces or that I’m “just pretending”, but it’s great to see other people in similar situations. It feels validating. Representation matters! 😊

[evonvielen]

Absolutely! And it also works the other way around: people who look androgynous don't have to identify as non-binary or the gender they weren't assigned at birth. A woman is still a woman when she says so, even if she dresses androgynous and looks like the dudiest dude. Men can wear dresses and still identify as men. People have to stop assuming things about other people from their appearance. It's what they say that matters and what everybody has to respect, end of story.

[arwynna.]

TRUE!! there isn't really any "passing" as nonbinary, since the gender binary is so rooted in how we perceive people, which sucks sometimes but I think one of the wonderful things about nonbinary as an identity is that there are supposed to be no expectations. Like, there aren't social roles or norms for nonbinary people (in some cultures, though others have non-binary genders that do have cultural roles) so nonbinary people should be free to present absolutely however they want!! It makes me sad that people are trying to assign social gender expectations to nonbinary people, that's exactly what they were trying to get away from in the first place :/

[deetlebee]

Waves in non-binary (agender specifically) with a beard

[Tyeewhyee]

As someone who is newly out as nonbinary, I’ve definitely struggled with how I should look in order to be perceived correctly, but I’m trying my
hardest to remember this!

[edifiedermine]

That’s true! Some people are just uninformed 🤷‍♀️ looking a certain way never guarantees your identity

[-RedroseTheoneandonly-]

I feel like I’m being parented by the older, more experienced non-binary. Thank you :)

[j.apenrose]

However, if you are NB, (or any gender really) you're also definitely allowed to present androgynously. You aren't "trying too hard" or "reinforcing a stereotype". 💜

[tallonhunter]

As ace dad advice said: you don't owe anyone androgyny

[Benni]

Thank u so much for this! I came out only to my close relatives, (parents, sibling and grandparent) and when I did, my other younger cousin was there, and when she tried to explain what being non binary means, she equated it with being androgynous and I immediately said THAT IS NOT THAT! It’s been so hard trying to live life like me when I still haven’t “found me” yet, if that makes sense. I also going thru other life transitions as well, so that’s hard enough as it is; but put that with coming out (not fully), and finding out that I’m both aro AND ace in the same year is super challenging for me! Thank u so much again for making the content that you do for baby enby’s like me! 🫶🏻🩶🤍💜🖤💛

[harperrroth]

I feel this. I’m pangender and recently my friend commented on how I’m not exploring that because I mostly dress feminine and that just made me feel so icky. I hate bing told how to represent myself.

[silver]

Thank you ♥️😭♥️
I really appreciate to hear someone say that.

[LMBillingsley]

My dumb brain often struggles with remembering enby pronouns when someone presents more one way or the other, or if i knew someone before they came out as enby, but that's a ME problem, and not up to someone else to present more "conveniently" to social norms. ❤ I'm working on it, but no mistake, I 100% respect other people and their identities, and they are valid.

[the_upright_mouse]

Istg as a bigender person I relate. I love being called fem pronouns but I wanna keep being masc or being a femboy.

[TransCommieFromOuterSpace]

One time my therapist thought I wanted to "dress as both masculine and feminine, " as if i owe people androgyny. I dont know how because I described how it makes me uncomfortable to dress masc. (I describe myself as a nonbinary trans girl) Now im trying to get a new therapist because of that and some related issues.

[ifoundtheflooragain]

this goes for any gender! i'm a trans boy but i dress a sort of hyperfemme, ik my bsf and bf see me as a boy but not so much anyone else but that's ok coz i really don't care that much lol

[aloteda]

im tryna get better with accepting myself as trans/non-binary even though others may have other thoughts on me!

[smolapril]

enbies 👏 don't 👏 owe you 👏 androgyny 👏

I love my bees 🐝💕

[dog.scratch]

Heya!! Younger questioning human here! I have been questioning being non-binary for awhile now, and I have a question(s)


1. Do you need dysphoria to be non-binary?

2. Can you use They/Them if you feel like they are cooler? And fit you?

3. Can you be more comfy with she/her/hers, and they/them/theirs?

4. Is it just a personal journey ?