Overcoming Judgment | How to Handle when Someone Judges You

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[mmommo]

"if someone uses your vulnerabilities against you, they gotta go." loved that.

[mileenasgift]

Sometimes people judge you just to make themselves feel better about but at the same time they have no idea the stuff in life that you've been going through

[paulagonzalez]

When someone judges me, I see it as a blessing in disguise. It's the perfect opportunity to look into the relationship and see if this is a relationship worth having. To me, it's the first sign that maybe this person isnt someone that can understand my essence as a human being.

[unleashingpotential-psycho]

We must understand that people’s judgments of us does not determine who we are.

[sophiadavenport]

For so many years of my life I was terrified of sharing my experience with depression and overcoming it because I always believed that people would harsly judge me the same way my mother has. I understand a person's behavior and action is an inward perception of how they see themselves and the world, I no longer feel ashamed to tell people I struggled with depression for six years after losing my father . Sharing my experience has helped me gain a strong sense of pride/strength within myself.

[lauragadille]

I've learned the hard way, never ever share anything at work. They can use that against you and fire you. Always trust a very close friend and that's it.

[bobhunley]

Awesome! When one judges. They don't define the person being judged. The one judging is defining themselves as ones who need to judge.

[mayraorozco]

So many friends I have lost because of this. Now it's hard for me to open up and make friends. This video helped a lot. ❤️

[LittleBird]

Thank you. I needed this. As an outcast whose been covered in bad lies from some evil hurtful people because so many people judge me for being an artist, being able to come up with unique ideas, having high intelligence, being under 5ft, being petite, been shafted for my real name being Karen, being pretty, having triple curves Scoliosis having unique life experiences, my mental health history and being misdiagnosed and mistreated and being an abuse survivor. Even in my family. But I’ve learned through being outcasted and bullied so much and attacked with other people’s jealousy to love myself and embrace my unique life. Rejection is Gods protection.

[traceychapman]

This is great. I had the opposite problem where I would trust too easily and same issue- it can lead to vulnerability and judgment. I recently ended a long term friendship because my friend would judge me and call me things like damaged.

[PeterKaitlyn]

I had someone who mentored me, though I never met him in real life. It was the Sci Fi writer Robert Heinlein. In one of his books he had a notebook of things he'd learned. A kind of rule-book. It's called the Notebook of Lazarus Long... One of the things I learned from his was what you are saying in this video.

So, basically I trust until someone gives me a reason not to. Once someone abuses my trust I stop trusting them. They can gain it back, but that takes time in is conditional. The whole reason I mention this is that the basis of this rule is to be open to other people. By giving them the benefit of trusting them first, you can get to know them and then they will either be someone that honors your relationship or not. But knowing that is only possible if you interact with them to begin with.

[isar.]

Well said!! There is nothing to fear because the right people will respect you. You’ll get to KNOW who has the best intentions for you. Thank you Steph. 💛

[ankushdhawale]

you are the most comprehensible and sensible person to have given such an advice that have completely removed all doubts and what if, questions plus a lovely person too.

[jamieb]

This was so helpful. You’re brilliant in your simplicity.

[rsaug]

What a blessed soul you are Steph! You are a life savior to many silent spectators like me 🤗 Have wasted half my life just getting carried away with other's judgments, overthinking, re-rewinding the past over & over, and getting anxious again & again due to those experiences. My asian family, friends, myself included occasionally are so judgmental.

[fatmabahri]

6:55 got me into tears. That's exactly what happened. I am on my journey of healing now thanks to you, Stephanie <3

[hienienguyen]

Yeah that is so true. you will be okay, for sure. ppl are always freaking out when someone leaves you behind. i am fine without abusive ppl

[aarenlynn]

Thanks so much for this. Something I really struggle with is accepting that I can’t deeply connect with everyone and “categorizing” my relationships. I’ve gotten much better as I’ve gotten older and learned more about myself. It’s hard when you are an empath type person to accept this! Lol

[orlandocabrera]

Sad part is that a lot people think we are judging them. How about when we are just telling them the truth . Telling it them how it is. I always appreciated when someone is HONEST with me. I might not like what I hear but I want a friend who tells me the truth and not let me live in lalaland .
Is not judging. Is a wake up call. Be responsible for your actions. I don't gain anything from telling you the truth. As a friend I care about someone. I rather tell it how it is because is breaks my heart seeing them hurt or upset because the decisions they keep making. I want you to quit making dumb choices so you can be at peace. A true friend will tell you how things are.

Is not always "judging "

[Toyz]

Sipping my coffee in the AM and listening to this makes me feel soooo much better ☕️❤