Object Permanence Issues with ADHD #shorts #adhd

[I.m-Me]

For me it combines with the time sense issues: There is only the Now.

[laylawinterhawk]

Wow I have never felt more validated in my life. U have absolutely opened my 36 year old eyes to what my problem has been my whole life I have watch all ur other vids in the last few mins and I finally see myself

[bearhug]

All my friends know that they have to be the ones to start the engagements( texting, calling, starting a convo in person) because if they don't, and I don't actually see them, the thought of them will barely cross my mind. Its not because I don't care about them( because I love my friends), it's just not something that crosses my mind very often. I do make myself immediately text whoever I'm thinking about, as soon as I think of them, so I don't forget to do it later.

[lillybilly]

I deal with this all the time!! My therapist suggested putting up a photo wall of all my friends and loved ones as a physical reminder that they exist. I still haven't gotten around to doing it yet hahaha but I think it's a great idea!

[scathannagoodman]

I totally do this :/
My best friend moved away more than a year ago, and even though we text almost every day, sometimes I'll just have a hard time thinking of a reply and then completely avoid talking to her for a week. It's so hard when someone isn't there, cause I have no idea what to say, but not saying anything is ignoring them, and I don't wanna do that!

[patchofmawce]

I HAVE THIS TOO!!! But it’s mainly with people rather than objects. I had a conversation about it with my sibling that had started with us talking about when people say stuff like “I’ve been thinking about you” and I said “I kinda forget people exist if I don’t see them. Like I know they exist, I just forgot.” And she was like “wow that’s rude” in a joking way but I feel like I didn’t explain it well enough for her to understand right. My friends all kind of had similar reactions when I explained it to them too. A few of them said me too

[jmgirard]

Wow. Explains why I "lost" a lot of friends over the years. Thank you for this.

[erinturner]

Thank you for putting a name to these issues that people don’t understand about my ADHD! It makes it so much easier to explain it to them without them taking it personally! Kudos and thanks!!!

[andreamarshall]

If I don’t see a photo of them I forget about them

[desslou]

It's even worse when 2 people with this issue are friends because not only do we forget the other exists, but rejection sensitivity makes us think the other hates us when we do remember

[naomidoesalot]

Just need you to know that I love you and your content so much! You’ve helped me understand myself. For 37 years I thought I was just broken. Thank you keep ‘em coming!!!

[nikkitaylor]

Dude this hits so hard for me, I had a friend before literally end our friendship because of this! I’m like I’m sorry I didn’t hit you up this summer I just forgot and she just couldn’t grasp that for me if I don’t see her every day or she doesn’t reach out to me that I will not reach out. I try don’t get me wrong and when I thought of her I did text but that summer I was super busy with work and home drama that I barely talked to anyone except my boyfriend and my best guy friend who would text me. I even told her that if my guy friend didn’t text me I wouldn’t have even talked with him or hung out that summer because that’s how bad it is. If I don’t see people all the time I forget to message them unless it pops up in my brain or I am talking about something that reminds me of them. She was so mad and called me a horrible friend and just kept going on and on about how I should have texted her no matter how I explained it. I tried making it up to her by hanging out but then she kept finding things to get mad at me over so it just ended. I told her that she should tell me everything she’s mad at me about so we can address it and move on but she still kept going on about something we already talked about and harping on it and after I said that she said well I guess we can’t be friends then and our friendship ended. We were friends for about a year and hung out really often during the school year but during summer I switch to summer brain that is just work and chilling at home and that’s it

[stevenwebster]

This! My gf always gets upset if I forget to message her when I’m away and goes on about the fact she’s “clearly never on my mind and I don’t care about her”. Glad I can send her this so she can finally get it!

[SiimplyGiggles]

THIS IS ME. Every summer I come back to school and my brain expects the same relationships…. Sometimes people don’t come back, but sometimes they do!

[神死-ze]

I just need to say thank you because your channel has helped me so much in realizing how serious ADHD is and that this is the reason for so many of my issues. I feel like it's trivialized compared to other mental illnesses so I really appreciate you bringing light to it love u 💖💖💖

[piroshird]

I really wish that we (neurodivergent folks) didn't feel like we have to say "but I'm working on it". If people are thinking of me they should just talk to me. "But if everyone had bad object permanence nobody would ever talk to eachother!" it's literally fine. Me and my best friend both have it and we haven't talked in months, but every time we run into eachother we can pick up like nothing ever happened. It's fine.

[twit]

Holy shit I didnt realize this is the issue why I have a hard time contacting/staying in contact with/messaging people.

You are teaching me new things about my ADHD thay I didnt knoe about pretty much every time Ive seen your videos!

[the_booper]

This explains as to why i don't talk to people over text a whole lot

[reignwithbrains]

Too much honesty for some 💯Thanks for sharing this maybe some people will finally understand ❤️

[Tatacali]

This makes so much sense now that I think back to my summer vacations 😞