I think my dad might be on to something #shorts

[Demnslayer_fan]

“And I can psychologically analyse them within two minutes” girl- same😂

[trinaq]

Your dad seems like a wise man. He can really make you question your entire thought process, and prove him right.

[midna]

Only one my "stepfather" taught me was "Cut out the people who only give you grief". Being fatherless is aight.

[kristinaavetisyan]

No your dad is very wise. Would you rather be right or happy is a very good saying. It’s not that you’re objectively wrong it’s just that if you constantly keep having to rip yourself apart to argue with someone on how youre right, you then realize that in the grand scheme of things, none of it really ever mattered. Just find your peace. If you’re wrong, whatever. If you’re right, whatever. Prioritize your happiness and your mental health.

I’m 21 so I’m trying to really soak in what my elders say to me as they’ve lived on this planet longer than I have. Of course, not all of them are worth listening to, you just have to cautiously pick and choose who.

[CSC_]

As someone raising young women--I want them to have your confidence and conviction so much❤ We choose kindness...but also are NOT afraid to know when we are right 🫶

[rochelleroy]

Gabs-"In my mind, I'm happy because I'm right. And I'm usually right."
Just a few seconds later-
"I'm happy when I'm right. And I'm always right. But I'm not happy"
"And I can psychologically analyse them within two minutes. Potentially could damage them but we choose kindness. Girl- same 🙌🏻

[scadoodle]

Girl, same. But then I learned a new saying "Do I need to be right about this right now?"

Because if you're right, you will objectively be right. And if you're right, the other person will come to learn that through the natural order of cause and effect. And then if you're not right, you will learn that, too.

[Sabrii-]

My brain is confused but also agreeing at the same time 😭

[Bre-]

My dad has and still says to me, "Is there anything you can do about it right now?" If my answer is yes, he says, "Then do something about it." If I say no, then he says, "Then why are you worrying about it?"
It really changes my perspective on any situation every single time.

[mysoulcalledlife]

Story of my life: people saying to me after getting to know me.. “You are way different from who I thought you were at first.” Implying that I’m actually the shit but they judged me negatively at first. Because I come off as kind of confusing initially. I’m an introvert with social anxiety but I’m also incredibly loving and joyful and I have a great sense of humor which comes out more when I get to know somebody. So if I’m quiet and then boisterous, people think I’m two-faced. And if I’m joyful and friendly but then get really quiet and awkward, they think I’m a snob. But when people actually get to know me, I’m the kind of person they feel safe around. And I was bullied a lot in school by the cool girls because I never fit in but I still got along with everybody at the same time. It was a really weird dynamic. And later in life I had two separate people from high school say that they were intimidated by me?? Which is super weird because I was afraid of everybody and a people pleaser.😂 anyway. My point being, you really don’t know somebody until you know somebody. And people might be more complicated than you initially think they are.

[purrrrrrrple]

I had the same issue until i got it - let people be wrong! Yes, you're right but you don't have to prove it to anyone. I used to be so confrontational about everything, I'm just not anymore. As long as it isn't affecting me (or actively other people), it's no my buisness to prove anyone wrong!! 😊❤

[adrov]

You and me are EXACTLY the same when it comes to analysing people, understanding their point of view but then articulating my argument better

[sxt]

Ooh girl I relate to this TOO much 😂 I finally realized what that meant though and I’ve come to the conclusion that even though we are probably right or at least have a clearer view of what’s going on, that other person may need to go through their own journey to figure that out for themselves. Letting people be wrong and make mistakes is difficult because you don’t want them to fall, but if we never let them fall, they’ll never learn how to get back up on their own!

[gemrad]

“Mine is clearer, ” > “I’m always right.”

Woman, you nailed it. Thank you for describing it in the most perfect way. 💖

[quinn_collins]

My dad's favourite saying (that he made up) which later became the family motto was "Be less dumb". That's it. That's literally all he would say.

[garfarf]

My dad still alwyas says “learn how to be your own friend, that way your never truly alone” i love this one bc me and my dad where kinda lonely growing up n stuff. He also said not to waste your tears on people that make you sad. I love this one and to be honest, when im sitting in a room about to burst, this us usually what stops me from crying

[phylter]

My grandfather used to say, “Do you want to be right or have your way?”

[itriponair]

My pops became my best friend. I got to be his hospice aide as well. One day, he said "hurry up and take your time. " now my boys are grown i understand.

[amanda]

The way she said, “I need to call my dad” 😂

[TheEthericAlchemist]

There are times when we are “right, ” but others cannot and often times flat out refuse to see our perspective on certain situations; in this case, we’d be sacrificing happiness explaining to a wall just how “right we are” instead of living and being satisfied with our own intrinsic knowing of our truth of the situation and letting others live with whatever idea they have for themselves. It can stem from the “need” to feel heard and understood. With that said, it is also important to be open to the possibility that we aren’t always as “right” as we thought we were.