Dear Black Women: Here are The Top 3 Reasons Why Men Aren’t Marrying You

Dear Black Women: Here are The Top 3 Reasons Why Men Aren’t Marrying You
In this video, I will be discussing a few reasons why men aren’t marrying you.
Black femininity is one of the main reasons that black men stay away. Dating while black seems to be increasingly difficult in today's society. Finding a feminine black woman is just as difficult.
Most of you women have all of the answers so you don’t need to watch.
Don’t need a man...you don’t need to watch..
No need for a seminar..
Men don’t respect you and you are bearing the burden for the black race.
Black women, you are a protected group within the diaspora in America.
Most educated, least married, highest STD rate, and single mothers
Where did this start?
Sense of entitlement.
I understand that you don’t want to be vulnerable.
I don’t want to be hurt. Not Giving yourself to a man for fear of no marriage.
1) Critique or criticize a black woman. She can do it every other race
Won’t admit when you’re wrong and don’t want to be accountable.
Deflect, Defend, and Deter.
Don’t even like to be checked by your own man. No one else has had an issue. It must be YOU. Simps and users will do this as long as he’s getting some ass. Patronizing. If he’s not bringing any of these issues up, he really doesn’t care. If he is then he does care.
When you get a strong man there will be a power struggle.
Mean with attitude and lie. You will lie to yourself
2) Insecure with your beauty and pressing your man or being condescending to him. You know everything except what’s good for you.
If you can’t admit that you wrong, you love yourself more than your man.
“I’m not putting up with nothing from a man. You don’t tell me what to do!”
You must be paying all the bills. The man is just there until he can find something else to do. He’s just tolerating you if he is still with you.
Men will react by either cheat on you or beat on you
3) Uncompromising with High Expectations - You want a man to be a certain way and bring things to the table but you don’t bring anything to the table. Some of you are quite pretentious. You have kids and no assets or resources.
4) If she has kids, she doesn’t want the man to discipline the kids. She wants to discipline the kids. These kids are usually spoiled. No real man will stand for that.
Companionship and Sex
Social media show of relationship
You want the man to be what you want him to be. A male version of yourself. A man does what is in the best interest of the situation.
You want to get the emotions out of a man. You want to get a rise out of a man. You want to talk continuously about and issues and be extra. Washing the dishes or doing a chore. You want to have an extended conversation about it and turn it an emotional sharing session.

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[Larry]

I was with a black woman that just wouldn't homemake for me. She told me to hire a maid and/or cook. I hired a good looking young hispanic woman and because she was obedient, good looking, and a very able homemaker, I would get accused of sleeping with her and I wasn't. I asked my woman why would she think that and she told me "because that bitch does everything you want. You're always telling her how good her cooking is, or how good of a job she does taking care of the house" and so on. After I thought about it more my woman was right. I left her for the maid and I am still with her and very happy.

[redaquarian]

If you are a Simp or a User you're winning...temporarily. The true good man is stuck in the middle between the Simp and the User and his path is one filled with loneliness simply for choosing to live his live based on integrity.

[mlovely]

Im happy i came across your channel. I need a man. My.man appreciate me being feminine and nurturing and i allow him.to.lead. its new for us black woman but we are learning and growing.

[sb]

And these days, a contract is a contract. Love has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO DO WITH IT!! Brothers need to understand THAT! TRUE WORDS Bro!!

[rackcity]

Imagine allowing a woman, with no father, husband or even a boyfriend to tell me what it means to be real man. 😆

[Angie-xdei]

Powerful video! this affirms that I'm on the right path to become a better woman and making right of my wrongs. still learning and growing!

[garysmith]

Good to see you Wiz . You are truly a Journey at our people PROBLEM SOLVING.

[lisamurdock]

Hi JR, I agree, some sisters are not marriage material and some neglect to allow men to be men.
I think in some instances, the rationale is that both sisters and brothers have not been taught how to treat and deal with each other. I think mutual respect trust and knowing when to show humbleness is key to building a healthy relationship, leading to marriage

To me, it is important for us both to bring something to the table. Personally, I don't think we should require something of someone else that we can't require of ourselves.

I am a positive open minded sister with no children. Although I feel no pressure to conceive, I often wonder, what life would be like with children, or just the challenge of having to raise children.

Lets not give-up, because there are plenty of educated confident none controlling humble positive sisters who just want a chance.

Some of us want the flowers and dinner, not the house call. This seems to be one of the challenges.

[darrickbrisco]

Truth u kept it a buck its hard to get thru to these hard headed women

[patriciacoley]

Sheesh! And here we are 4 years later, and this message is STILL relevant!

[alphonsoward]

Thank you! I've experienced all that.

[cathy-pzto]

They love fighting. They even promote it! Add that to the list.

[rhammond]

Most men goes through these issues with women during the relationships, even before the marriage so therefore, four out of five women will never get married anyway.

[mj]

As a white woman, what I have noticed is that today’s black women have an attitude and feel they have a right to say something nasty about white people to their face, but white women aren’t allowed to say anything because that’s when they’re called racist or the attitude comes out. I’m not racist, and because of how younger black women are, I prefer not to try to have a friendship with them. It’s sad because the older black generation were so opposite. However, talking to black males it’s different because they don’t have a chip on their shoulders.

[charwillie]

Excellent points, presentation and video! :)

[obdiane]

Well, I am married. And, I am a black woman.

[shericaknowles]

it because they feel that the white man's woman mean u have made it

[johnesin]

True talk!!! Funny, a long time ago these pieces of advice would only go to Monica. Now it's applicable to all North American women. Thanks to feminism, let's keep living commonsense-free, we're yet to see the worst of women.

My only advice to black American people in general: You have lived your whole life fighting for ideals which are given to you by other race (inconsistent with your heritage). Now you have some freedom, take one trip to Africa (and I don't mean the fancy westernized cities in South Africa nor Egypt), stay at least 2 months, rediscover yourself. You'll come back with a whole new understanding and ability to differentiate between who you really are AND whatever other identities given to you.

Just a thought

[rhondaturner]

No I think it stems from slavery and then the feminist movement and the welfare system contributed to why black women fall into these statistics of being unwed

[ChillWill]

This definitely describes the ex-wives.