The Secrets of a Privileged Childhood

When we think of a privileged childhood, we often think of swimming pools, nannies and expensive education. In fact, of course, the only childhoods that properly deserve the word 'privileged' are those in which there was an abundance of love.

FURTHER READING

“It isn’t difficult to imagine a privileged childhood: we associate the term with a swimming pool in the garden, holidays abroad, lavish presents and outsize birthday parties – and maybe someone deferential picking up the clothes from the bedroom floor during school hours. Our ideas are plainly focused on money. The idea has enough truth in it to convince the cynical parts of us, but the number of breakdowns and mental illnesses gnawing at the upper middle classes should be enough to force us to concede that money cannot on its own be the reliable guarantor of ‘privilege’ that it would, in a way, be simpler to imagine it was.”

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[parthgajjar]

This isn't the YouTube any of us signed up for but this is the YouTube all of us need at some point in life.

[pradiptahafid]

"They are loyal to us simply on the basis that we exist." This sentence makes me cry. A satisfying cry. Thank you for touching that part in my heart.

[ronitnayak]

Not from a rich family, but a privileged one. Thank you school of life I'm going to call my parents now and tell them I love them

[hamzasaleem]

My father : How old are you son?
Me : I'm 15 dad
My father : what a slacker, I was 20 when I was your age

[Sitagram]

I've been trying to grieve the lack of emotional support/parenting of my childhood. As I have entered into adulthood, I realize just how much this has an effect on me. My poor childhood self needs a hug.

[TeriHargraveartist]

Privilege to me is having loving parents that are supportive. Something I didn't have but strive to provide.

[justmyopinion]

We would be living in a different kind of world if all parents and caregivers followed the guidelines given here. This world would be filled with kind, empathetic, confident people.

[jess-neqk]

I don't think I realised how truly privileged I am. I use to only look on the negative side, "my life sucks because I didn't get this." Looking back on it, I realise how fortunate I am compared to so so many others.

[romankampelmacher]

The persons that make the animations for this channel are brilliant

[mimimimz]

I had a privileged childhood in a sense that this video describes. I didn't know I was privileged, and got a small inclination that I might be when I started university and had to live in a different city, and began to miss my parents without really knowing why. I was probably in the early twenties when I finally realised that not all parents are like mine; that they are truly exceptional, and that I am privileged and blessed.

[senorpants]

Once my mom told me about a conversation she overheard in a diner. It was a small group of one percenters discussing how miserable they were that the made less than 200k that year. She told me “Imagine if I made that kind of money, we wouldn’t still be miserable.” I thought about how 200k could pay off my student loans and how nice that would be.
Then I thought about my many friends with parents paid, mostly or entirely, for their college. They are all miserable. My rich friend’s parents felt as though they paid for their child’s future, so now they have complete control over it. Attempting to become independent is seen as a betrayal to them. So they can never move to start a new job They are trapped.
I told my mom about my friends and said I wouldn’t change anything about our lives. She said “but common, you know me. I wouldn’t do that to you.” But I just can’t be sure. Money changes people.

[theaxisofinsight]

A privileged childhood is one where your parents prepare you for the hardships of adult life.

[parasol]

I was told every second of my childhood that I was priviliged, and that I didn't deserve to have antyhing that I had. So maybe.... I actually wasn't.

[sizanogreen]

I am happy to experience this type of privilige. It is the greatest luck I have ever experienced in my life otherwise than existence itself.

[chandrikav]

School of life links every thing that is happening in our adulthood to our childhood.. This channel has taught me the importance of healthy childhood with empathetic parents. So it all comes down to the privilege of having some mix of love in our lives be it parents, friends or a partner who accept us the way we are, this I think is a real privilege. Thank you!

[NoZsjustGz]

This can go both ways.. a parent can love their child as much to an extent where they don’t spoil them to teach them how to do things on their own.

[MythJJ]

I thought I came from a priviliged familyhood (and always felt a bit ashamed and guilty for this). Now I am a little bit older and I can see I am no part of the 1% :). To me, that is somewhat stress-relieving, now I can explain my today struggles with a bit more compassion.

[minervaloves]

Some of us come from a poor home and didn't receive love. So at least it would be nice to get something LOL

[michelleyanakis]

What about people who receive too much of that emotional privilege a.k.a people who are coddled? People who were too sheilded from real life struggles that they essentially created their own problems in the long run? The ones who learn late, and poorly at that? I would love to see a video about those people.

[tingwen]

I come from - some would call - a wealthy family. Money maybe nice but it's nothing when you feel like you owe your family more than you can ever repay...I agree that true privilege is love. Something I always feel lacking in my childhood.