How To Divorce-Proof My Marriage

Andrew calls The Dave Ramsey Show and figure out how to divorce-proof his upcoming marriage.

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[cateyes]

I know several divorced people and based on the reasons for the divorce...don't cheat, don't hide things, don't lie, appreciate your partner. Don't stop working on yourself or your relationship after the wedding day. I also think it's important to actually want marriage. Don't propose or say yes if you're not sure.


If you think divorce is inevitable or being miserable is inevitable...don't get married and let your partner find someone who is excited about marrying him/her.

[Ninja-qmbp]

Even in a family where divorce is very common, all it takes is deciding that YOU will be the one that changes your family tree!!

[sugeymancia]

He's a very smart guy. Asking for help. Many just follow the statistic but he wants to avoid them by informing him self. Great job

[naomimay]

My husband and I have been married for 18 years. Marriage is wonderful and also can be a struggle. Both people have to be committed to the marriage and making it work. It is about your commitment to each other. You will face struggles if you are married. To make it through those struggles, you have to be willing to work through things. You can’t throw in the towel when things get tough or when your spouse doesn’t let you always have your way. It is give and take. Sometimes you have to be willing to give up a little and meet in the middle. Find a compromise that both parties can live with.

[Jane--nk]

It took 5 years for my marriage to end. 5 long years. Why were the years so long? Something started to happen that I never saw coming. He was controlling, verbally abusive and then…physically abusive. I came home one day and he was messing with the cat. I tried to stop him and he grabbed me by the throat and threw me across the room. He then threw the cat against the wall and broke her leg. She went to live with my parents after that. I could've told my parents but I didn't. I don't know why. After that it continued. I was punched, clawed, was constantly being yelled at about how I was fat, stupid, I didn't have a real job (I was a teacher) and so on. He told me that if it were legal he'd kill me. That was it. I kept saying that I wanted to get a divorce. He said he'd take our son if I did. But one day he said “fine, if you want a divorce then get a divorce.” I did, he tried to get back with me but I showed him the door after one night together.
That's the reason I got a divorce. Thankfully it “only” lasted 5 years. No spouse should EVER have to go through that!!

[tripleekitchen...]

Communication, morals, character, understanding, loyalty, etc.

[kay]

We did preengagement and premarital counseling. I recommend it!

[Mexicobeanpole]

After being happily married for 40 years, I believe our success has come from sticking together through thick and thin. Same with all relationships. Parents, siblings, friends. As long as you show love and respect for me as a person, I’m going to be by your side no matter how bad things get.

[MMA-mhuv]

Just know who you are marrying. You have to be on the same page financially and with your life goals. Many people marry hoping things get better or will "work out". I am so red-pilled it's not even funny, however, there are good women out there, they're just rare and hard to find. My wife and I are on the same page across the board.

[mastersfan]

We're missing one key statistic: Andew is in Los Angeles, where 2/3 marriages end in divorce. He maybe has a good plan, but she comes from a culture of divorce where there is no social stigma, Odds are in a few years she will file for divorce citing irreconcilable differences i.e. "I'm not happy"

[Mexicobeanpole]

I’m not a statistic. We’re not a statistic.
We just really respect each other as people first. 40 happy years. Grateful every day.

[skippingalong]

I agree! Marriage takes work. I love being married to my husband.

[NamgyelRangdolPala]

Love each other and get your finances in order

[MrRoshilawrence]

I love being married despite all the work. ALL relationships require work. You will not be HAPPY ALL the time with your mom, dad, children, coworkers, husband, wife, church, etc. You will need to choose to be present in all those relationships and put work in them for them to really be enjoyable. It will not always feel good but growth requires us to be uncomfortable. We are an immediate gratification culture in America and once we tire of something we want to throw it away. Marriage is not necessary to be happy but it worth it for those who choose it.

[bobbydrives]

Just because you don’t get divorced doesn’t mean you’re happy. A lot of married couples sleep in separate beds by age 40

[minervagalvez]

Listen to Your Gut! If you don't feel right DO NOT FORCE IT AND...YOU CAN'T CHANGE ANOTHER'S PERSON'S BEHAVIOR-CAN'T DO IT!!!

[MrJdouble]

People think divorce solves problems, but it just brings new ones.

[bourbonbs]

People think saying “marriage is work” means you have a bad one. That’s not the case. You spend 30-40yrs if your life in your career, and you’d obviously agree *that’s* work. You’re spending your entire life with someone else ... why wouldn’t that also be considered “work”? Work just means effort. Of course you have to put effort into your marriage.

[michaeldickens]

YES!!! Great advise... I'm forwarding this to my grand-daughter who is engaged.

[Debble]

Tbh the conclusion is people that know how to avoid mayor mistakes won't marry the wrong person