Humour In Relationships

One of the most vital ingredients to keep a relationship going is a capacity for humour.

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“We know by instinct that humour is pretty important in relationships. But the reasons are often left a little vague. It isn’t that we crudely want entertainment – there are enough comedians on TV. We don’t just want a laugh. We want to find a way to be annoyed with, and criticise one another’s most maddening sides without eliciting a drama, with lightness and a special kind of diplomatic immunity…”

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Ana Tortos

[SquareSquidStudios]

This isn't about humor in a relationship. It is about using humor to criticize people.
Which happens to take part in relationships as well as many other instances.

[Danoriel]

Humour is great, but if you can't criticize someone in a serious tone, there might be a problem there.

[joTheBonas]

humor is also just a sign of comfort and of trust.

I never crack jokes or engage in funny conversations when I am not with people i feel comfortable with

[mfrzmnl]

for me it is very important to be with someone who laughs at my jokes

[Esss]

It doesn't matter how "chirpy" your tone might be; always using humour to diffuse a situation may come across as condescending to your partner and almost as if you're making light of the needs they have projected. Blowing up a situation so that it sounds almost farcical just seems counterintuitive to trying to bring someone to reason.


Most situations just need tact; one must find the middle ground in not getting too upset but also not making it so "comical" that your partner may think that you are not considerate of their feelings and are just trying to gloss over the issue.

[cerebrumexcrement]

People are way too serious. Learn to laugh a little. Sometimes, your date doesn't go as planned, your car broke down, the food wasn't that good, you can't be serious all the time with your significant other. You have to laugh at yourself sometimes. Life is too short to make every little thing a big deal when it doesn't have to be.

[baratbball]

What you just described is sarcasm, and that can rub a lot of people the wrong way. Personally speaking, I only usually get sarcastic when I'm annoyed or irritated so I typically try to avoid it. I've found that most reasonable people can handle criticism as long as you calmly discuss it with them.

[camjo]

A lot of people in the comment section have no sense of humor.

[otter-pro]

This is exactly what I needed to see. Humor works best in my relationship, and serious talk never works. This video is very helpful. Thank you.

[wordxprss]

Letme tell you what's also really important:
learning a little about what kind of jokes the person can take first or you'll end up getting a whack upside the head or having it all backfire.

[sabinainjapan]

When you know that in every joke there is 95% of truth, you will feel criticized anyway. The question is how often such “jokes” come from your partner. If too often - are you willing to have a passive aggressive partner who can’t deal with him/her own self and thus projects self-criticism on the partner, hiding behind the “jokes”?

[ellebelle]

My last partner and I had EVERYTHING in common it was amazing we fit each other like a glove, I felt at home but he couldn't make me laugh much at all it didn't bother me too much because everything was great but it made our personal struggles harder.

Fast forward a few years and my good guy friend who I have almost nothing in common with can make me laugh so hard I cry and we're growing so incredibly close we're almost dating even though neither of us wanted a relationship right now. The humor is getting us through our personal struggles as we have literally been through hell. Even if one of us is nearly in tears about something, we end up laughing together almost every day it's so healing it's beautiful. Laughter is incredible

[anewloveofficial]

It feels great when you have someone to share your laughs with. Humor is really important in every relationship no matter how serious you are as a person because it tells how compatible you are with your partner because you can laugh at each other's joke without getting offended.. If sometimes you get mad to your partner better tell her in a way of joke because jokes are sometimes half meant.

[lomaxturner]

I totally agree with this. Using humor at the right times is essential for any relationship/friendship.

[B.W.Jackson]

If my wife and I didn't know how to laugh our marriage would be a statistic in the rear view mirror. Fantastic advice for any relationship here. Love, friends, family, business... it works everywhere if (and only if) executed correctly.

[JasonHdn]

so passive aggressive is the way to a happy relationship. i must be the only person on earth who is not offended by bluntness especially if its true

[angrybirds]

I personally would like if someone criticised me in a serious tone rather than making a joke about it and laughing maybe its just me

[schroonsjozef]

I love this way of using hyperbole to convey the message non-agressively. People get to offended too quickly when their identity gets attacked of threatened.

[helloikykitty]

I wish to meet someone who understands my humour lol

[gymrachel]

It's vital for couples to have lots of fun and laughter together. If you don't share a love of humour then the future together would be pretty bleak.