Elite Level Confidence: How To Make People Respect You

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Tommy Shelby is stone cold confident and seemingly fearless.

So in this video we're going to break down what you can learn from him to be confident in high pressure situations in your own life.

 
⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰ 

0:00 - Intro
0:18 - #1: Don't overreact in situations of extreme pressure
1:13 - Exposure therapy
1:51 - #2: Use state breaking questions
3:57 - #3: Align your needs with the other person's
4:25 - #4: View the world from their perspective
5:54 - #5: Give both the carrot and the stick
7:42 - #6: Turn trash into resources
9:19 - Ask yourself this question
9:30 - How do I build social power quickly?

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[stevenhudson]

Success is not built on success. It's built on failure, It's built on fraustration. it's built on fear that you have to overcome. I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life

[emiebex]

Keeping a straight face in any stressful situation definitely helps you exude Confidence.

[Sebbir]

Another fun thing Tommy does is always knowing the names and whereabouts of the love ones of people he is talking to. So if the conversation goes south he can always bring it up to lighten the mood. It’s very effective

[Adora-ble.]

You want to know what's better than looking confident?
BEING confident! 😎

[noahhradek]

The ability to turn a difficult situation into a resource is difficult itself but very helpful.

[StormClaws]

I've been binging a lot of Charisma on Command videos and then after a while I sort of realized, maybe we've been doing it wrong; just copying their behaviors don't result in the confidence portrayed by the exemplified characters -- they are the way they are because of the situations they were put in. I was about to critique it in the older version of this video and then you put the first point addressing exactly that. Bravo!

[SeanLunny]

I always take a deep breath and respond - I think that’s the difference - respond vs react.

[WilliamJonesChess]

Key Moments
[square brackets= own thoughts]

00:20 He does not overreact. [Wow. It shows that he has leverage. You need him more than he needs you.]

1:19 Exposure Therapy

2:00 Ask a question you know you are in charge of. What is your dog’s name? [ Tom shows that he does not care what you have to say. He has leverage.]

7:40 Turn a bad situation into a great one. Tommy makes a bad situation better than if it never happened in the first place.

9:12 How can the thing I least want be valuable to another goal?

[jayceazar]

"He who remains calm in the face of adversity, while all others fall apart....is truly in control"

[twentydixoncider]

Fear is a perfectly normal to feel sometimes, it's what you do with that fear that can make you great

[timaf]

Tommy Shelby suffers from shell shock, or what is known today as PTSD. A lot of people who suffer from that have that cold look in their eyes, it’s not confidence it’s feeling dead inside. I’ve had it and I know people who have it too. It’s nothing to romanticize, don’t try to be a fictional character, they will never live up to the potential of reality. Better a life well-lived with love then trying to cultivate respect through alienating behaviors. Trauma isn’t sexy.

[johnvarnadoe]

How to be confident : always hold you’re pinky out when drinking anything. -Patrick star

[INSANESUICIDE]

The character suffers severe PTSD and has some serious issues with repressed emotion. There are many cases of people surviving war finding out it is over, they sit down and lower their guard and is overcome and straight up die from repressed stress or just have mental breaks. There is a time and a place to put your emotions to the side, but you always have to sort it out sooner rather then later, stress has a significantly higher interest rate than the bill you missed a payment on. Stay safe folks.

[AshleyMWilliams]

I'm so glad you used Peaky Blinders, they are perfect demonstrations for this video. Tommy and Alfie are my favorite characters of any show ever, love seeing them featured here❤

[TaHrPa]

Step number 1:
Be a fictional character played by a professional actor with 20 experts writing your every line, movement, thought and facial expression.

[LASMONN]

Sometimes not doing anything is the most reasonable thing to do.

[sable]

Charlie! You have a way of speakin man. Thank you for the words.

[piuli]

Were so anxious to look weak so we avoid mistakes and slow our trial and error learning process.

[TheRealYou-suqw]

You have the ability to survive anything that is why despite all the storm made of pain, loss and chaos that you've had to endure, you are still alive and going strong.

Gone were those days when a problem shared was a problem half solved, but today, a problem shared is a topic for gossip and discussion.

I know you keep a lot of things to yourself b'cos it's difficult to have a friend who understands.

Lighten up, laugh more, and don't get so worked up about things. There is so much inside you, and you have what it takes to make the most out of life

[KristaPerera]

This is true.thomas is so confident that even it says in his eyes