3 Key Tips To Make The Dismissive Avoidant - Fearful Avoidant Relationship Work | Thais Gibson

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In this video, I talk about the 3 key tips to make the dismissive avoidant and fearful avoidant relationship work. It is possible!

Have you applied any of these tips in your relationships? If so, share your experience!

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I’m Thais Gibson, welcome to my channel, and thank you for stopping by!

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[Maiden_Warrior_Crone]

You're such an incredible help to me, an FA with a DA boyfriend. You describe both of us perfectly!🤓 PDS has such wonderful content and I really love your courses because they fill in all the blanks in a great format!

[kristidin]

As an FA I don't need anyone to mind read me. I need communication. Clear and concise conversation.

[missqable]

1. Both parties to practice vulnerability
2. Negotiation of the contributions that each party is willing to offer on a regular basis
3. Consistently meeting their own and each other's needs without going into the polarities of codependency vs extreme self-reliance

[Olladar]

I discovered your work about 4 years ago when I first started a DA man and realized how wounded we were. I commented on one of your videos a couple years ago saying we were just about to move in together and now, we’re discussing having property together and marriage. I seriously would not have healed so much without your work!!

[airapotato]

thank you ❤️
I'm FA. my DA ex asks to reconcile and we agreed to create more healthy pattern. your videos really help us to create a safe and secure place for us to connect. it's a bit awkward since we already did some toxic behaviors back then. We also agreed to reset our pattern and evaluate the power struggle stage.. I have to say, my DA is very stubborn, but very patient and willing to be vulnerable with me. I believe relationship only works if both parties accept and take accountability for their own behaviors.

[MsCLAUDIANL]

My relationship ended a year and half ago. I considered my da the love of my life and it's truly a pity not being able to make it work. I had 7 years of heaven and hell but probably I have more bad memories than good. It was not going anywhere but at least I know why now. Thanks a lot and good luck for your home

[libertybelllangdon]

I am a FA & have feelings for a DA I never know where I stand it’s so exhausting but my heart goes out to him after learning about what he went through make him that way. 😢❤

[edgreen]

Emotional phobics. They have to do the work. Vulnerability scares them. It can help to restate what the other person said without trying to win.

[Lady.luxora]

As we make a lot of efforts to work on the relationship, us FAs seem to be more present in the comments as well, this brings me to my main concern which is, DAs will generally dismiss the issues, they don’t see the problem. I (as a FA) self reflect a lot, my Da boyfriend doesn’t. How do we get a DA partner to even just realize in the first place that there’s work to be done and that we can’t dismiss all our issues? I want him to work with me on making things better but I am the only one watching these videos and trying to make efforts, i wish I knew how to get him to understand that work is needed on both ends

[tammy]

Always up for a challenge against the odds. Time to make more growth and change.

[csstudio]

Your info is really helping me navigate my Secure/FA and DA relationship! Thanks so much! Best wishes on your return to a normal life after Hurricane Fiona.

[notoriousmf]

Thais you mention in some of your videos that all insecure attachment styles have blindspots that they’re probably unaware of (unknown unknowns). Could you do a video of what each attachment styles blindspots are please?

[MuzikAficionado]

Appreciate your concise videos. Wish more men do introspective work on their shadow self to positively contribute towards their own self and partner's emotionl wellbeing.

[darlenemontgomery]

Practice feeling statements.... it feels really good when you stay in touch. I really love staying connected with you.

[chasingclouds]

I wonder why vulnerability is so hard in some relationships and not others while been the same person involved in them, it seems all comes down to what combo of attachment styles are at play. Thank you

[emd]

Being a DA does not categorize "them" as not having feelings or a "bad" person, it can quite be everyone thinks they are "normal ".

[SalmaRouyett]

Thank you very much Thais. Would love to see one on AP and DA. Lots of love🤍

[gogohappygirl]

Thank you for doing what you do! This describes myself and my partner perfectly. I would love to see a video about texting to resolve conflict. With both of us having an avoidant side and being conflict avoidant, as an FA, I tend to text my DA partner When things are bothering me so I can more clearly formulate my thoughts. I also find that we get further along into the discussion by texting than we do when we try to verbally discuss things that are pain points, probably due to both our nervous system‘s being on high alert when a conflict is face-to-face, because we just end up going in circles. I realize ideally we would be communicating about conflicts face-to-face, but what are your thoughts about communicating by text over such things. Surely any kind of communication is better than none at all?

[lifecoachingtoronto]

To help the FAs & DAs here, I think they would be surprised if they communicate their needs and what they're feeling with the right people. What do you think?

[roshalllambert]

I loved the points about vulnerability and communication!