If I stay in my narcissistic relationship, will I be able to heal as much as if I leave?

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[NarcSurvivor]

You will definitely heal more when you leave.

[Ankagrahndin]

From my experience it’s not only best to leave, it’s absolutely neccesary if you truly want to heal your heart after NA ❤️

[morlaisward]

You cannot heal while you are still on the battlefield.

[dianajane]

Huge point, Dr. Ramani: “I always feel sick, exhausted or sad, even after a few minutes with one of these people.” Dr. Ramani, your circumstances sound like mine. I am in good therapy, but when he’s gone, I feel soooo much happier, relaxed, energetic. ❤️ ❤️.

[narcissistskryptonite]

I’ve been 5 months now no contact with my narc father, and to say I feel like a brand new person would be an ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[rebeccaf]

Once you’re out, your healing will occur at LIGHTNING speed compared to the healing that happened while you were still in it. Do whatever you have to do to get out.

[artifundio]

Yes, I know. There is no way to outsmart this problem... just leaving it behind. My hope for 2022 is that all of us that are still living with narcs can find soon a way out 💕

[hemaamudachary]

This community is a blessing for those who have been in a relationship with narcissists. It suddenly doesn't feel lonely anymore. Thanks Dr.Ramani.

[Jane-gtef]

Of course, you heal better when you leave. If you stay, you are constantly on guard. It feels kind of like a tango dance... Once step forward, two back, two forward, one back, shifting, shoveling. That's how I feel.

[diydame]

I tried the approach of staying but using all the skills I learned (grey rock, boundaries, etc) but the more I pulled away and protected myself, the more his issues increased. Subconsciously he realized he was losing control and fought to get it back. The situation literally became insane and unexplainable.

[arianagoddess]

No. Sometimes leaving is about a life/death situation. It's not all about just healing.

[maywoodward]

For anyone else stuck, I am with you on the journey to learn self love, self respect and how to give and receive healthy attention and know safety inside of myself. Sending hugs and love. The struggle to be around people is hard for me. I am naturally friendly and outgoing and have empathy but my “training” makes me feel like I have to harm myself if I receive positive attention. I felt happy yesterday but terrified as I have been controlled in every way. When my Dad is gone I practice self care and it is hard. I have to train into my brain and body that it is safe to move, talk and do things. I am always ready for the sabotage.

[vibehigh]

"Their presence is simply toxic." I agree. Thanks for this video Dr. Ramani!

[coreyrenik]

Yesterday I was fired for speaking my truth. I worked with a toxic person for two days and on the third day requested to work with someone else and it was a good day. I had talked to my sacred circle and they reminded me of qualities that I had forgotten. Being in a toxic marriage for 20 years and getting out two years ago and learning about narcissism has been a blessing.... Dr.Ramani thank you for sharing all of the content and saving so many lives you are a blessing to so many beautiful souls

[sofiesbookishadventures]

I just want to share that I had a talk with my non-narcissistic but very enabling and trauma bonded mother today to tell her that I don't want anymore contact with my father because I need to heal from the trauma. I have told her my boundaries for contact with her (phone calls without my father around, I will not come to their house, but she can visit me without him etc.). It was the most difficult thing I have ever done in my life. She respected my request for no contact with him but also said a lot of enabling things like 'he does love you' or 'it's because of his own upbringing'. I didn't really respond to those comments expect to tell her that it doesn't excuse the way he treated me as a child. I would never have been able to have this conversation with my mother without your videos 🙏❤️

[adelaaldana]

Trying to heal while staying is like trying to improve your health by running, but in a deeply-polluted city. You simply need to cut the source of toxicity to properly heal. Pack your bags and leave as early as you can.

[makaylahollywood]

Distance does not make the heart grow fonder, it makes the heart heal.
Distance, remove number from phone..and, replace these people with JOY, CREATIVITY...and GENUINE KIND LOVING RESPECTFUL HUMANS. 
Treat yourself to the life you deserve.

[iaroslavakornach]

No!!! :) The divorce was the best decision in my life

[kimberlyhangs]

No. You have to leave.
Best thing I ever did.
I smile everyday with JOY!
If I have nothing but him out my life, I am happy!

[antoinettevazquez]

No you can not fully heal in the place you were or are still being abused or around those who had no empathy, respect or concern for you.
I agree Dr. Ramani Thank you!