Should etiquette be taught in schools? #Etiquette #Schools #WilliamHanson #BBCNews

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[aleeka]

Parents should teach their kids for sure. Some people have no manners

[Battle_Beard]

There is also a difference between basic decency and knowing what fork goes to which course. One is essential, one is pretense.

[vernelledouglas]

Nothing dirty about it. It is a life skill based on respect, cordiality and confidence. Etiquette is as important as learning to cook or knowing how to do laundry. I will use it in actual living.

[PhillipMoore-vjcc]

I'm a black middle class bababy boomer. We were taught manners and etiquette at home. This teaching culminated in a Cotillion, where the coming og age young men, use their own money to rent a tuxedo, buy a corsage, and take a coming of age young lady to a formal ball. We took this extremely seriously, practicing our etiquette, and dancing (waltz). But, we also had tons of fun. Knowing manners and etiquette gives you the confidence to handle any situation. Moreover, it doesn't take away from who you are. You can still goof around with you friends, but know how to handle yourself in mixed company. Unfortunately, manners and etiquette have gone the way of the way of the Dodo. No more Cotillions and Tom Thumb Weddings. No more "formal" occasions. People today just do their own thing. I for one, think that society in general would be greatly improved if citizenship, manners and etiquette were taught in school, because many parents today don't know or don't care. Sorry, if I sound like an "old fogey". We had an expression growing up, "Never trust anybody over 30." But, here I am, over 70. LOL

[funcisco]

As someone with math and engineering degrees, I wholeheartedly agree. Knowing etiquette is more useful and makes you a better person towards your fellow citizens than knowing trigonometry. Many STEM people lack etiquette, and that's why they are a nightmare to be around sometimes.

[koda]

🧐If etiquette were taught in schools, young people would have many tools at their disposal in how to deal with uncomfortable situations, and would feel more confident in themselves and their ability to handle the world as it is presented to them. 🤔

[HanaRoad]

I agree that manners are crucial. I still think STEM and ARTs are crucial too. How can people unite and work effectively as a Team without good manners?

[elioamedeo]

I'm a secondary school teacher in London. Honestly, I wish etiquette was actually taught in schools, it would make my job more enjoyable, efficient and less stressful.

[CagedInSilence]

I support this message, plus international etiquette should be taught in college for those planning global careers.

[petermatthews]

I totally agree. It's very sad that people no longer care .

[erinodonnell]

People tend to dismiss etiquette as “which fork goes with what” and dismiss it as trivial, pretentious nonsense. The reason the fork thing matters, at all, is so that when a host is setting a table, they lay out settings so it’s obvious and less stressful or confusing for their guests (start from the outside and work your way in). That’s what that is for. So their guests can have a more pleasant experience.

He showed people how to cut cheese in one of those wired videos and that, to me, demonstrated the over-arching logic of what etiquette is for and how it can really make a big impact in social settings. If you have a wedge of cheese cut out of a wheel, you don’t take all of the best part of the cheese for yourself (the center of the wedge), you cut so that you get a little triangle that has the outside and the inside, so that everyone can enjoy a bit of the best part. You are being courteous. You are thinking of others when you behave in a public setting, with both small and large things.

That overarching logic, to think of everyone around you and not just yourself, will get you 99% of the way to having good etiquette and making a positive impression in social situations.

[marycerullo]

Societal’s standard is boorish behaviour. We have elevated poor manners and a bad attitude as something to strive for and any sign of reserve, sensitivity and respect as a weaknesses. I love it when someone holds the door for another or acknowledges if someone is being passed over at a shop and brings it to the attention the clerk. It brings order and a kind of flow to society, instead of the constant drag against the grain. Life is better when we live in harmony. Too bad we don’t acknowledge it.

[Eirileat]

Confidence without arrogance lovely combination

[glenbateman]

Etiquette is a way of showing respect for the other people your around you, and making them feel welcome and at ease.

[Battle_Beard]

I love that he picked Trigonometry, arguably the most useful math for a common person to have a basic grasp of.

[raymondwalker]

It’s so loaded it identifies upper class from working class, yet interestingly prewar working class on film always showed them holding a knife and fork as the upper class “Dixon of Dock Green” etc.

[BlakeMerriam]

I love this man and want to have a deeper discussion with him

[mjhay]

As a teacher for 20 years, I’ve seen a change in etiquette. It’s not just for the ‘posh’ (speaking as a biracial woman brought up in a working class home), it’s just good manners and that’s what’s being lost. 😢

[RachelLWolfe]

What if I told you that etiquette can be taught in school, along with world history, trigonometry, etc? My junior high and high schools did so successfully, without sacrificing other things kids need to learn. We were also required to take two years of economics, in high school. That's pretty much unheard of these days. I had to teach these things to my own children to supplement what passes for an education in many states in the U.S.

[Linda_AUS]

Etiquette is not just for the upper class. My family are all working class and our parents instilled Etiquette and Manners into all of us.
I can have a bbq with the guys, and I can host a full formal dinner party for friends.
I like it if a gentleman opens a door for me and I say thank you. I have opened a door for others. Etc.
I believe Etiquette and Manners instil both respect for others and self respect but then I'm old. 😊