r/IDoWorkHereLady - I AM THE BOSS' SON

I was the Boss's son, had an entitled employee on my crew make a mistake.

A little background. My father owns a telecommunications repair company and before that he worked in the industry for years and since I hated daycare I spent every summer helping him and learning to weld, rig cellphone tower antennaes, shit like that. By the time I was 19 and dropped out of college I decided to go get my certifications and ask my dad for a job.

Well he got a huge contract and hired five brand new guys with myself and another veteran thats been working for him for years as crew leads to run all the repair projects. I end up with this massive dbag who got fired from multiple different physical therapy clinics and is now 40 and unhireable by any other industry, but he has a massive superiority complex cause he has a bachelors and that somehow makes him better than tradesmen.

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[beanernight]

2nd one, dude is the jerk, wife is acting appropriate. I get that maybe there could be more going on like depression. But when he says it's his dream coming true, then at that point it becomes selfish. No matter what is said after, the fact that it would be his dream coming true and he did nothing to contribute is down right entitled.

[brucemaguire]

For the second story, the way I look at it, she earned that money so he should have asked. She brings the money in. So it’s her choice how it should be spent. He should have sat down with her, said his side, explained and come to a decision together. He was wrong for doing that

[nealreiersen]

For the second story, it is ovbious that the husband has been like that for some time, he has perpetually been "not feeling" the work and that added up to the situation that happened where he was willing to fund his own happiness but take the money as soon as it's available

[jedimastayoda]

The husband said "He would let her repair her purse" with her own money? So gracious of him, has there even been a more generous person in the history of man?

[noteansylvan]

If he was making the money I'd understand, but she was, so she should have been allowed to spend her bonus how she pleased. Taking the fruits of *her* labor was an awful thing to do.

The same would be the case if the roles were reversed.

[MoyaneisZen]

the last story. if the sister doing something like that to family that must be in the wedding. she gonna be dissowned instantly by our branch family. thats rude

[jameswilmshurst]

The second story: the husband seems to have a very self absorbed personality (even prior to the pandemic), to me it’s a huge red flag if someone is constantly bouncing between job industries, obviously you need to enjoy or at the very least tolerate your job to do it so much, he could at least look for a part time job job just to help with the bills. But the fact that he was willing to put all the financial burdens on his wife simply cause he wasn’t fulfilled enough screams that he values himself far more than his partner. I think this incident finally highlighted that to OP, she realised how little her feelings matter to her husband and given how hard she works for the both of them, that’s pretty inexcusable

[diagorm]

I hate how people think that just because they're older that means they know better. Also going to college doesn't make you better either.

[lyrablack]

7:52 LET HER REPAIR HER PURSE??? *LET* HER???? Who does this guy think he is????

[thedevilsadvocate]

Story # 1: Keep up the good work, and keep dangerous liabilities away from where they can injure people. Thank you.

Story # 2: ... Sure hope you got some prenups ready. What kind of person considers his partner's income as his to spend? You are gracious enough to feed and shelter him while he's laying around. There are many accounting jobs that now allow working from home, and even if it is not his passion, he should be participating during this hard time. Also; a person that goes to their friends and family to willingly embarrass and shame their partner are not worth time nor love.

Story # 3: Errr... no? The kid has no other option. It's either you or foster care. You are his family and he has done nothing wrong by you, and if you have no reason not to take him in, and are willing to, this is not choosing your brother over her. It's her choosing her over an innocent child, after you gave her the option to opt out, as you have both agreed you did not want kids, and raising your brother goes against that agreement. You are being a good person, buddy.

Story # 4: I was bored, so I wrote the damn essay.
Why do you still want to celebrate with us?
Dear Sister,
I would like to come to your wedding because you have been endearingly insufferable to the very end. I am so glad to know you are getting married and making someone else miserable. I cannot help but glee at the idea that every time he will not do submit to your every whim, you will proceed to get his relatives and friends against him to coerce him into obeying. I cannot wait to see you, so beautiful, walk down the aisle and promise to your husband-to-be that your divorce will be financially straining for years to follow, emotionally shattering and potentially nerve-wracking due to your uncontrollable desire to control and punish those who does not follow you. It will be my pleasure to see you commit yourself to be the mother of children who, although they are not even born, already outsmart you. I pray that your husband never finds out about your numerous affairs, so the moment of the big reveal is both devastating and satisfying. I will raise my glass to toast to your wedding, and make sure to never have any remaining contact whatsoever with you after this horrid affair has been concluded. This will also be the case for whomever takes your side in the matter, for my patience has run thin for your shenanigans and attention-whoring. I ran out of stuff to write in this section, but you have requested two hundred and fifty words, and I'm just barely short, like… right… NOW!

What does attending our wedding mean to you specifically?
I think I have covered much of my opinion in my first answer, but please, allow me to elaborate. Going to this wedding after the pain you put me through just for the privilege to attend, making me write a damn essay to justify my presence and then making me feel like crap because I was comfortable with not attending, will only cement the end of our relationship. I thought of it as both a celebration for your wedding, and the burning of all bridges between you and me. Even if I do not attend; your reaction and lack of concern for my feelings have already shown me what kind of person you are and will be. I do not want to attend to your wedding. I do not want to see you. I do not want to ever get involved with anyone that would use my parents against me, in any goddamn situation. It might be an overreaction, but it is just how frustrating the situation you have put me through is. The very fact that I am angry and failing to find additional words to explain how attending this wedding has already affected me, and my perception of you, is clear indication that asking a two hundred goddamn essay is downright stupid. You were getting married. I was proud of you, I was happy for you, and you managed to turn this happiness into sourness and anger. You goddamn poster child for familial estrangement. That is it. Enjoy.

(I trailed off a lot, but I was playing the annoyed brother tired of anyone's bullshit, and I think I worded it pretty well :D)

[MNSTR_GRU]

It's good to see people in the industry that can focus on things like their employees experience and training

[cygnisdragon]

The wife (OP) in the second story isn't the jerk, the husband was, spending money for his selfish self when OP needed something more important because she needed the purse

[dannyramirez]

On number 2 the wife was totally in the right she get the money she choice how to spend the money.If the husband was contributing then they both get to spend money. It’s like buying a house for yourself and you cousin selling it like why.

[TammyTone]

Story #3- It's weird to me that he made the statement "5yrs L8r, &All is NOT well in my parent's marriage", then says the Mom DIED, "&" the Dad DIED, too. No iSht all is not well!😅

[susanliu]

story 4:
Why not give people the option to watch the wedding virtually? 🤣😂

[rahimis]

story 4 not a jerk. Clearly the sister is the favourite one. I wouldn't write an essay as well. Who does this. I got better things to do than to write an essay and spend money on a wedding where I have to say why I want to come.

"Mom and Dad said I have to come or I'm in big trouble" over and over again is brilliant 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[ampstudios]

Story 2: I'd talk to him after I did that stuff in case he's permanently changed for the worse/was always bad but this was the final straw. I wouldn't want him to drain our accounts and stuff like that.

[TammyTone]

1st story- What the heck is a physical therapist doing working construction, just cuz he can't get hired anywhere ELSE anymore?? That was their 1st mistake! The OP saved that guy's life, or at least saved him from getting maimed! How is he gonna immediately say it wasn't HIS fault, tho? Of course you get fired, AHole... You aren't even a nice guy who ppl would WANT to help out &keep around. Older workers need to stop looking down on younger ones, assuming they know nothing! You don't know WHAT they know.🤨🙄

[retnaningheryuanti]

For the second story the wife is not a jerk. I also have deppression that's why my husband is not allowing me to work again as to not make me tired or stressed out because of work. In return I try my best to take care the house.

I have dabbled in several hobbies to fill my time and they can cost a lot. My husband trust his monthly salary and bonuses to me and almost never asked me how I spent them because he trust me.

Nonetheles I always ask for his approval if I want to spent the money on my hobbies even though he always just said "just do it, babe. I'm working hard so I can make you happy." Those word make me feel guilty if I spent money unwisely or selfishly.

[alexrodgers]

On the second bit. The husband spending ANY money on frivolous crap AT ALL, shows his HEART. He is selfish, needs to be more humble, and should be oh so grateful he doesn’t have an entitled wife who WON’T work. Yes, we have all gotten down during the plandemic. But, our parents, and g parents suffered a lot worse in the dust bowl, the ‘Great Depression, ’ WWI, WWII. If he had ANY Cajones he would have gone and flipped burgers, even done a paper route if need be. Just contribute SOMETHING. Good grief, what a wussified man.