Dating with ADHD | Sorry I Missed This

Dating is a skill. And like any skill, it takes practice. ADHD can intensify dating challenges. Like, masking to be someone we’re not so the other person will like us. Or, having intense feelings quickly, and jumping into a relationship that may not be what we want in the long run.

Dating coach Amie Leadingham comes on the show this week to talk about what a dating coach does and common dating pitfalls. Host Cate Osborn addresses what these challenges can look like with ADHD on top.

Related resources
Is it love or is it dopamine?, from Tips from an ADHD Coach
A dating coach talks ADHD and super-connecting, from How’d You Get THAT Job?!

Timestamps
00:00 Intro
03:59 What does a dating coach do?
08:07 How ADHD can affect dating
09:29 ADHD and “love bombing”
12:56 What is “screening”?
14:04 Masking in dating/The “marketing trap”
17:50 How to ask good questions
19:45 What to do when you realize your relationship might not be what you want
21:37 How can people with ADHD show up to be good partners?
23:42 When do we disclose that we have ADHD?
25:21 Trouble with time perception and texting
26:20 Trouble with impulse control and dating
27:30 Amie’s question suggestions
29:00 ADHD and oversharing
20:54 Amie on a dating timeline
33:10 ADHD and kink
34:24 Where you can find Amie

[KathrynHenny]

I just kept thinking of the movie Runaway Bride when they talk about people pleasing in dating. Long term relationships require more than "people pleasing" will ever give you.

[HowdIEvenGetHere]

This was amazing. Even as a married guy, I benefited from this.

[rachaelsanders]

I noticed people pleasing comes up a lot and is the focus of most eps. What if that's not necessarily someone's present ADHD experience? Would be curious about a different perspective

[LetishaMalakootiOfficial]

You are cool and I like your video :-) 🎉