(pg.2) learning to love my 4c hair again..

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[KelsiasDiary]

i've been natural for so many years you'd think I'd be at a better place with my hair.. i'm not lol but i'm learning how to love it in its natural shrunken state, no slicked edges or nothing.. the bar for black women to upkeep their natural hair when we've just been learning how to do it in the past decade is too damn high. If you see a black girl and her hair is not "laid".. leave that damn girl alone please. I am her, she is me.

[ashleychemise]

The words of the dean, " your hair can FEEL that you hate it..." so deep, so true and so wise.

[Jasminesim]

what helped me love my 4c hair is realizing that the only reason why it seemed "hard" to take care of was because i was trying to make it fit in with society's ideal hair type (straight). if 4c hair was the standard of beauty, straight-haired people would go through the same hell that black women go through to make their hair the standard. i also stopped trying to fit in with eurocentric standards of beauty in general, since i'm black. society might not like my hair, but that doesn't mean i have to hate it either. i'm not gon lie, sometimes it's hard. but i tell myself the same thing you told yourself: i'm not gonna let white supremacy make me look down on myself and my blackness. i love this video and how vulnerable you are. i'm glad i subscribed to you. :)

I wish black men did a better job at uplifting dark skin women with type 4 hair. Y'all are legitimately Gorgeous and I hope one day we as a collective of black men can love y'all the way we're supposed to. I'm glad yall found a safe haven where y'all can uplift each other. Much love to all of you.

[_Kim_Possible]

I got rid of wigs lol. When other people with looser textures have a bad hair day they just rock it and keep it moving. I’m working on accepting myself in my natural state. I really like this video

[JennJackson]

This video is so powerful. So many of us have/are currently going through this journey of loving our hair because we were raised to see it as something that is unmanageable, difficult and unprofessional. My biggest tip - wear it. Keep wearing it. Eventually you will start to see the beauty it in.

[lilmamagc]

As a black girl with 4c, i feel like the world has told us we arent good enough. I'm sorry to say, but so many black women wear wigs and fake hair or texlax their edges. That still shows that we as a community still don't love ourselves. I wish i could see more black girls with 4c styles and not these wigs and tons of fake hair taking out their edges. We have to step up. US. No one in the media is going up step up for us

[mxshax]

“Your hair can feel that you hate it” I needed to hear every single word in this video but that struck me immediately. What a perfect video to find on my wash day. Thank you so much for this.

[sofiac]

You are not alone .. although I learned to love my 4c crown there are days I envy long straight beyond the shoulder styles …this too shall pass …stay encouraged

[lailapop]

The script, emotion, openess. Truly an admirable and refreshing way that you have composed this love!

[sipstea]

I had dreadlocks for 7 years and found the beauty in my hair only then. I didn't like the sleek look (I just felt too scalpy lol) with my locs and enjoyed how frizzy and thick it was. Fast forward to me combing them out and I have loved my hair even more. I think having locs for me gave me that realization that my hair is beautiful loose or locked in it's natural state.

[K.Lani]

It's so strange and yet comforting to find someone with the same inner monologue of what we go through on those difficult wash days and even more complicated styling days.
This was beautiful.
On my journey to love not only my hair but myself on a whole, I've been reminding myself that everything beautifully unique about myself has been pointed out in negative ways from people who are genuinely insecure and unhappy with themselves. Our haters always see the beauty in our differences before we do, you simply thank them and learn to see yourself from your own pov.

[Yonelani]

When you said what your former dean said to you I was like from the depths of my soul. I truly believe our hair feels and responds to the energy we give it. So much of the black woman experience has been about breaking us down and I think we have internalized so much of that hate and in turn projected it on the very parts of us that validate our blackness. So I speak to my hair, (I speak to my body too but that’s a whole other story) I use words that create love for myself to myself and I caress the parts of my body that were once points of self deprecation I.e my hair, tummy, thighs. You’re doing the Lord’s work sis. So rooting for you and sending you all the love and light🤎✨

[honeymonsoonsubs]

I just came on here to tell you that although I am Korean and do not share the same type of hair as you, your video and the message contained in it resonated very deeply with me. SO much POC insecurities are rooted in white supremacy, and your raw words and beautiful video really helped me on a night when I felt very insecure and not very beautiful. Thank you.

[Mcgturtle]

Getting locs is what finally made me not be so frustrated with my hair

[Paiinda]

everytime a white person tells me "Oh!! I love your hair, it look so daamn good". Im like "thank you", but I cant believe it. Like how could he/she love my hair texture ?

[innerworksnycmagazine]

Sister, I am soo much older than you, and it is your video that gave me the extra courage I needed to stop hating my natural hair and love on it for once.
What your professor said to you hit me where I needed it. I lived so long with the lie that if my hair was this way or that way, life would be kinder to me, and I would be treated as though I mattered. Thank you.

[elliebee]

One thing I did and believe helped me love my hair was completely cutting out wigs, weaves and any form of hair extensions cuz that way I felt like my hair was all I had and it really helped me love and take better care of it. Your hair is beautiful.

[levithebaddest]

As a 4c girl, I really appreciate this video. My mom put relaxers in my hair ever since I was young. Due to this, my hair was super damaged and would never grow past a certain length. It was breaking off so much everyday, and I wasn't happy with how it looked at all. Recently, I got so tired of it that I began wearing wigs and hair extensions, which I'd never done before. Truthfully, I hated it so much. It was so hot and uncomfortable wearing fake hair, and I was constantly worried about people judging me if my hair was not perfect. I was always worried about the tracks showing, or the hair looking too stiff, or the wig not sitting right, etc. It gave me a lot of anxiety and I just couldn't do it. A few months ago, I finally had enough and just cut off my hair. Up until that point, I had never seen my natural hair. I felt soo ugly at first when I saw my 4c hair. I had always admired long and straight hair, and mine was the exact opposite. I felt so many negative feelings about my hair texture, and I didn't even want to leave my house for a while. The beginning was really tough. But as time went on, my hair started growing SO MUCH MORE than it ever had before, and it was much stronger too. My hair has grown so much in just a few months, which really shocked me, and it looks really cute too! I am really starting to appreciate my natural hair. I am so glad that I took a stand against these ideas that made me feel like my hair wasn't good enough. It's time to start empowering girls with kinkier hair textures because we are cute and pretty!!! :)

[eryabolonha]

For me, I came to the realization that is not the texture, it's the length. I don't hate the texture of my hair but I wish it was longer, like long...I haven't organized all my thoughts yet, so much to unpack but, something about long hair and femininity goes together in today's society
My hair is thin so I really didn't have a hard time washing.
We learn to love our features, to love our skin and all comes down to loving our race, however I feel like the love for our hair is a conversation about our own views of femininity, not necessarily beauty standards, in the end, I'm sure it's all connected but I can't help but notice that I do find beautiful women who are black and have 4c hair but it's usually long.. I find many black women beautiful, like stunning with long or short hair, natural or relaxed, with protective styles or not.. Like I said a lot to unpack. I'm going do crochet braids now because my hair broke off