My Husband Left Me His Kids To Raise 🥺💔 Reddit Stories

[watrebel]

At least she admitted she didnt want to be the evil stepmother, that takes guts

[jvlovesk]

The summary of the update: She decides not to take the twins and focus on her own 2 daughters who are suffering from the betrayal and death of their father.

[stirrednotshaken]

I just love when the family isn't willing to raise babies their family members had because of an affair but are more than willing to pressure the betrayed spouse to do it! If you, as family, won't do it then don't expect their jilted one to do it.

[gene]

Tough situation. If no family is willing to help and you truly don’t want to raise them, tell social services you want to place them up for adoption and will foster them until they are taken in.

[piratekit]

Who would want a living reminder your husband was a dumpster fire? The kids deserve a loving home, not to traumatize someone with their existence.

[caragarcia]

It doesn't sound like the twins are very old. A family would be willing to adopt them. She's probably close to 50 as well. It would be really hard to raise twins by herself. I don't know if they could pick the couple. Then at least they would know where they are going and stay in the same religion if that's impossible to the family. I also feel a solid couple would be better for the children than a single woman around 50.

[nikkisharma]

Why do people expect a wife to raise an affair child, this is not right for the kid or the wife

[harrisonnelson]

Twin boys should probably be easy to adopt out. Lots of people out there are desperate to adopt. She's not the A.H.

[adrianalva]

This is going to piss people off, though i'm not sure why: THIS is why there is a "system", horribly flawed though it may be.
If the best those kids can expect is neglect, resentment, and an absence of love, they deserve the chance for "random strangers" to take them on.
OP has NO obligation to these kids. Financially, morally, , or emotionally. The rest of the family, ACTUAL family, doesn't want them, OP is free to step away.

[Josh-]

It's terribly tragic, but if you don't want to raise the children and won't love them, you are NOT obligated to. You also can't put it on the woman who wants to remain childfree, because that's her choice as well.

If they are babies they are 100% likely to get adopted. Get help from the State... NOW.

[nessat]

If they're very young, don't even worry about it!!! They'll get adopted by a family that definitely wants them and will absolutely love them. The younger the children are, the better they do in the... "ward of the state" system - it's a sad fact, but it's true!

[fistyyyy]

Damn. The most sad part about this is that nobody wins in this situation

[stariecaylor]

Before I heard about the money, I was already willing to take them in. My husband and I have 2 kids already and we'd be more than happy to help raise them. She could keep her money too.

[quinishaharley]

And you shouldn't have too. Set up a trust fund for them and keep it pushing.

[olmecsunshine]

The fact that the in laws are disregarding her feelings and pressuring her to take them in when they (who are biologically related to the twins) are not able to or flat out refuse😢

[trolletuva]

This is just sad for everyone. The twin babies became orphans and the wife became a widow. And it's just peculiar that anyone expect her to take in two babies at her age (probably around 45-50) and raise them by herself. Especially when they will constantly remind her of the cheating husband.

[Nightshade]

then put them up for adoption.... so that they can have a chance to have a nice family

[Panwere]

What is very wrong is so many thinking the OP should raise the children of infidelity.

[sandrasausville]

I'm sorry but I couldn't or wouldn't raise them. It's not your responsibility

[deborahhanna]

Private adoption is best: there will be a line waiting to take 2 healthy male infants! She can interview couples to stipulate the twins stay together and keep the money in a trust until they hit majority- so it doesn't get 'misplaced'. She can also stioulate that the daughters get to spend time with the boys when they are older.