ISTDP - Shame vs Guilt | Dr Sia

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In this video I discuss the many differences between shame and guilt! People so commonly get shame confused with guilt and vice versa despite the two being so extremely different from each other, that I thought it is worth creating three videos to talk about firstly what shame is, secondly what guilt is, and thirdly how the two are extremely different from each other. Hopefully, people who watch these videos never confuse the two again! Well that is the aim at least! Let me know how you go after having watched them all! I hope the video resonates with everyone watching this!

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[priyamadappa]

When I hurt my baby nephew by mistake one day, I kept telling him sorry, while hugging him, So that is guilt I felt..
I guess, Guilt is a Guitar, which wants to play music to soothe as well as connect.

Shame, while I beat myself to behave, speak, act, choose according to the standards set by any figure/societal and comparing if I met that figures unend standards.
Shame is a spoon, which grabs on to one way punishing process, nothing to soothe, nor build a connection with..

Thank you for the definition, differentiating and naming these feelings brings clarity

[maanno]

Your videos on guilt and shame are so amazing! I would love to see videos on how avoidantly attached people experience these emotions, since they seldom will take accountability, repair and say they are sorry, but rather defend, deflect, and/or withdraw.

[marka.]

Thanks for your awsome videos Dr Sia. Looking forward the ISTDP video 😊

[paupersluck]

Thank you for sharing your knowledge 💚👍

[dro-vidproductions]

Dr Sia, I think I feel both of these at the same time. When I do something wrong, I look at ways to fix and be better but I also have thoughts that plague me about being a bad person. Are they totally distinct? Can they co-occur?