What to do if you're BORED in a RELATIONSHIP: the sure-fire trick that always works

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The causal agent of relationship boredom is always the same. At some point -- and for whatever reason -- the two of you stopped telling each other the truth. I guarantee that if you start telling the truth in your relationship, you won't be bored for very much longer. So why does this happen? It turns out most people don't really want to know the truth -- and that's generally not why they entered into the relationship anyway. This is because telling the truth almost always disrupts the status quo, which is often uncomfortable, inconvenient, and painful.

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Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world.

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[psychacks]

The causal agent of relationship boredom is always the same. At some point -- and for whatever reason -- the two of you stopped telling each other the truth. I guarantee that if you start telling the truth in your relationship, you won't be bored for very much longer. So why does this happen? It turns out most people don't really want to know the truth -- and that's generally not why they entered into the relationship anyway. This is because telling the truth almost always disrupts the status quo, which is often uncomfortable, inconvenient, and painful.

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Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world.

#psychology #relationship #marriage

[celestialtiger]

"People who start telling the truth are universally punished by their community."

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[Kamal_AL-Hinai]

"Men get bored adoring women who refuse to reciprocate affection. After so much effort they will simply walk away. “a cold heart leads to an empty house.”

[aripavlou]

"In order to be loved, you have to risk being known." - leaving this gem here for my reference.

[ogpirons]

Truth is accountability so over half the population wont be on board.

[etuitivemillionaire]

Men tolerate boredom so they don't lose half their stuff

[UNGGodYT]

limbo is the first cicle of hell, where nothing bad happens to you, but nothing good wont be happening, boredom is one type of hell.

[toddubois]

Plato taught us, no man is hated more than one who tells the truth

[marriagecausesdivorce]

This underlines the importance of choosing someone who is mentally and emotionally calm and stable, and who can handle the truth. It also underlines the importance of not getting married, because marriage introduces complacency and boredom into the relationship, and makes it difficult to tell the truth without getting financially punished.

[derekekoch]

Great advice. Everyone, in every relationship, from business to friendship to intimate partner, should hear this one.

[EvaVas]

This reminds me of American Beauty the charactor that was the honest one throughout the movie and suffered the most in the end. Kevin Spacey the dad his relationships daughter, wife and job. He became transparent with his truth then he just seemed like more alive working out more he was honest with everything he stood in his life. Blessings 💜

[YoYo-gtiq]

My wife and i are very honest with each other. We are not bored.

[AntiquatedApe]

Truth is only valued when it benefits. Never when it punishes.

[kaseysartor]

As a woman, I love this guy so much! I feel like he truly understands me (as he speaks on women) and it is super comforting listening to a man that understands how a woman thinks. Most men do not, you have even taught me things about myself. You are a huge asset to both men and women alike!

PS
Would also be super cool if there was a female Dr. Orion Taraban we could listen to! 😁

[RupertMcGruber]

Truer words never spoken. Truth is the lifeblood of intimacy.

[BoldStatement]

🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:

00:52 🤥 *Boredom in a relationship often stems from a lack of truth-telling; addressing the underlying causal issue is crucial.*
02:30 🔄 *Sharing personal truths can lead to significant shifts in relationships; it fosters emotional intimacy and genuine connection.*
05:35 😔 *Reliance on scripts and roles in relationships can lead to boredom and loneliness; emotional intimacy is vital to combat these feelings.*
08:19 🌧️ *Emotions are essential for the growth and renewal of relationships; boredom can be a result of stifled emotional expression.*

[passthegravy]

My wife was bored so she secretly found another man with the help of her mother.

[valdius]

A romantic partner is not there for entertain you.

As long as the intimate life is satisfying for both parties, there is no such thing as boredom in a relationship.

[watchingbrain]

lets make it more "fun": start with yourself and have an honest and well meaning chat.

[markallen]

Alice Cooper had the wisdom to sing “I may be lonely, but I’m never alone” in the song “I Never Cry” in the mid 1970s…..never fully understood the idea UNTIL I was married.