Triangular relationships with ghosts of the past

Do you ever wonder if your partner regrets choosing you, and is yearning for a past lover? When your partner doesn't respond to you reaching out for connection and affection, are you filled with anxiety that you aren't good enough in the eyes of your partner when compared to past lovers? Perhaps you think that your partner is withdrawing from you because the 'ghost of a past lover' is coming between you.

Often triangular relationships are formed when 'ghosts of the past' put a wedge between a couple that makes one partner feel rejected and the other fearful of being swallowed up. This triangle is common in relationships where one partner wants more from the other than the second is comfortable giving, causing tension and crisis. This video gives you a description of one couple whose marriage was constantly threatened by ghosts of the pasts triangulating their relationship and destabilizing it, until they came to couples counseling and understood each other's early traumas that made them insecure.

[lisalee]

I'm curious what you think about men and women having opposite sex friends and in a committed relationship? I have felt in my earlier days I kept my male friends because it made me feel safe. Kind of like back up. Now since I have grown I dont feel that necessity. My partner and our relationship is most important. When I see men holding on to ex girlfriends and females I do see it as an insecurity. Thank you for these 😄😄😄