Most People DON'T Understand THIS About Narcissism | Dr. Ramani Durvasula

Dr. Ramani Durvasula is a Narcissism Expert, Clinical Psychologist, and Professor of Psychology. What it means to be a narcissist, the different types of narcissistic behavior, how to spot those relationships in your own life, and how to navigate entrepreneurship in a healthy way avoiding these toxic tendencies. Dr. Ramani expands on and explains these possible harms opening up what many people may be and have been enduring their entire lives. From the Me Too movement to an office job, to a "charming yoga expert”, to our homes… our lives seem plagued by these people. Tired of feeling used, like a pushover, or maybe even not sure how to spot if you’re dealing with a narcissist yourself? Take Dr. Ramani’s insight and see the world’s narcissists for what they truly are.

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[wwrafting]

Systems and narcissist buster, Dr. Ramani ... thank you for this interview!

[teresainillinois]

She's absolutely right about how therapists will want to direct focus back onto the patient. I experienced that as well. However, I went into therapy after already figuring out that my partner was a narcissist and I was specifically looking for help to break the cycle of abuse. The ONLY WAY to achieve this was THEN to focus on my own needs. But the key is to first understand that you're in a toxic relationship that will never get better before self focus will work - and then it's the only way out. Quite a conundrum!

[roopagupta]

Listening to you really is making me so interested in knowing more and more about this personality

[JA-bjtz]

OMG it happened to me last week. First time at a new psychologist's office. When I started talking about someone who has narc traits, she said that she would like to keep it about me not about the other person, meaning what do I feel etc. Thanks God I know what I know, because this could cause me a lot of guilt !.

[NB-igzi]

Wow at about 12min in she explains how Narcissism was avoided in clinical settings, by never addressing issues about 'the other person'. It is so obvious even the clinical profession is geared up to validate, benefit and hide the narcs. I find the entire world is geared up in this way. And in every facet we must break up that invisible narc set up just like Dr R has been doing in her field.

[Kyshalise]

I unfortunately had the narcissist as a first love that is the 2/3rds of wanting a sure things relationship but then taking me for granted and treating me like an old sock.

[jasminetambunga]

Wow! What a powerful way to spend an hour. Thank you Dr Ramani!

[sandracaezza]

I first saw this person as shy . When he started feeling more comfortable with family etc he had won us all over.
When my father was in a nursing home, my father who loved him,
the narc stopped visiting him totally.
The narc HAD such supply with my family. He is the worst drug addict &
Narcissistic.

[rosefernandes]

Dr. Ramani is THE BEST in this Industry. I've been following her for over 5 yrs. I started with her first book and jumped into her videos from her very first video. Thank you Dr. Ramani, God love and Bless you always
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[Aanframe]

The narcissist can also present him/herself as a quiet, reserved, easygoing person. He/she can even don't share whatsoever on his/her social media, like selfies, showing a disgust towards people that do that. They have a very well put social image. They reveal themselves in intimate relationships. This idea of narcissist = grandiose show off is a small part of the issue

[wwrafting]

Given the limitations of many therapists - acknowleged by Dr. Ramani as well ... therapy is clearly not the only way of doing a deep dive into oneself ...

[hyberkonawa]

Wait... being too sensitive is also narcissism????

I'm quite sensitive sometimes but does that one makes me an narcissist???

I want to proof that I am but... I still doing my best to listen others and always being on people shoes

but a lot of times I always get Gaslighted by people, telling me that I'm being toxic and etc for things I say

Or how do I interpreted.


Sorry for my bad Grammar I'm Dyslexic.

[lydiadevries]

This is so true the rules are written by the nacissits. Ik has over the years of bullying at work become my saying thar they write the policy’s so they know how to circumsise it.

[ellieramseyer]

I blame social media for the narcissism pandemic.

[joedriver]

It all depends on what one is looking for. If a person wants to live in pollyanna land, then all the wooing is fine, but they shouldn't expect something genuine. You get what you ask for. If I feel a women needs and/or expects these things from me I will attempt to speak with her about it. If she doesn't allow that conversation to happen, then I just won't see her again. If I catch myself trying to woo a woman, I know something is right and I will attempt to speak with her about it. I did this a few times in my late teens and realized I was setting myself up for disappointment. Now when I date a woman, I like to see how she responds to the silences and/or long pauses in our conversations. A woman who is not comfortable being with me in silence, means we are not a good match. Doing things like buying flowers and/or using terms of endearment so early into a relationship is not authentic. Having real feelings of endearment takes time. It goes both ways. If I feel that a woman is trying to woo me, I will tell her directly that she doesn't need to woo or try to impress me.

[mynutsinhd]

well its only convenient in some aspects lol so all the negative are vaild but the parts that make it a illness and not their fault no not at all actually its okay psychos and social paths she actually speaks very lightly about those people but narsisism she is 100% b about it c:

[yvonneflanagan]

Love you Dr R, but honestly this interviewer is so poor! She hasn’t a clue and hasn’t done proper research… snd then going oh wow…. ! Timing so off!

[joedriver]

When someone says "kind of or sort of" I tune out. "I kind of this, it sort of that, . When a person uses those expressions, it's a form of sugar coating. Why not just say what it is? If someone is rude, just say they are rude. Don't tell them that they are kind of being rude or it was sort of rude of them to.... If they're rude, just fucking say it. Saying something is "kind of or sort of" is a form of sugar coating. When someone uses that form of expressing I lose all interest in what they are saying. They lose all credibility. How would you feel if your boyfriend told you he sort of love you? There is no sort of or kind of. Shit is either is or it isn't. A woman doesn't get sort of pregnant. One of the things I like about New Yorkers, in general, is that they don't sugar coat shit. At least not the people I know from New York. Maybe Jen has been living in LA too long. Own shit Jen, and please stop saying kind of and/or sort of.