Recasting: Marriage ft. Dil Dhadakne Do

This week, The Swaddle team explores how 'Dil Dhadakne Do' questions the myth of the happy marriage.

'Recasting' is The Swaddle’s video series where we analyse movies that defy the stereotypes of Indian cinema.

Edit and Motion Graphics: Pranav Ratra
Art Director: Neha Shekhawat
Scriptwriter, Voiceover: Anahita Sachdev
Visual Researcher: Akanksha Mishra
Creative Director: Shrishti Malhotra
Executive Producer: Karla Bookman

[PokhrajRoy.]

‘Dil Dhadakne Do’ taught us that Patriarchy is not just men looking down on women, but about men who try to challenge the status quo and women who enable a flawed system.

[zoyi]

My mom is a financial, secure independent woman who was able to raise two kids alone but is still scared to leave her abusive husband.

[JIYASINGH]

Dil dhadakne do is such an underrated movie I cannot even people think it's boring and long but the message it gives is not talked about! The hypocratic and double faced people shown here, hits directly on the heart. my extended relatives are actually like this and I feel these emotions that are shown in the movie. It shows the strength, problems, issues of a family and also the sad truth of most hope it gets the fame it deserves🤞

[incognitouser]

Anyone Expected this film to come by❤️❤️
The bro-sis relationship in this film too is the most authentic neither melodramatic or too much rivalry unlike most films

[PokhrajRoy.]

Neelam Mehra saying “Acting kyun kar rahe ho? Koi nahi dekh raha.” was actually quite hilarious actually.

[sunainabehera]

The movies also showed us that being rich and wealthy won't be the solutions to the problems.

[sidharthapatra]

First and foremost, never let marriage and children be a "society imposed" thing . They have to be

1- a choice
2- well planned
3- honestly committed

[yashi]

The common stereotype is that a baby can solve every issue in the


Reality - no, a child cannot solve the issues in marriage because if two people r not compatible with each other then wt a child can do in this? The child will also develop a negative mindset toward marriage and relationships because of his/her parent's toxic marriage so in short a toxic marriage will destroy the mindset of a new life also...

[moonlitskyes]

I love Zoya Akhtar's filmography with a passion that scares even me and DDD is my favourite project of the lot. Funny, heartfelt and just brilliantly directed/acted, it's a constant rewatch gem for me. Yeah, I truly hope that if I ever got married, we don't end up like some of the couples in the movie, but damn is it fun to watch the drama unfold. Excellent content as usual, Swaddle Team.

[pizza]

It really is a good movie something i watch when I'm feeling low for all the patriarchal stuff i find comfort in this movie
It tells it's ok to fall in love
It's ok to get a divorce if your unhappy
It's ok talk out our problems
It's not ok to bring a child into a marriage to make the marriage work
It's not ok to 'allow' women to work
It's not ok to only consider a son as a heir
They might actually have different ambitions too
It's not their duty to run to his father's company just cuz he is a man
It's not ok to do things we don't want to do because of social pressure
As said in the movie ppl will talk no matter what you do the talking will never stop

[meeranagtilak]

5:19 :"Something which should be a well thought out choice, rather than a social imposition".
Wish more people get this.

[anupamaMall]

Both Farhan and Zoya are wonderful directors and writers. People troll them for having rich characters but anyone can relate to the problems faced by them.

[shrishtimalhotra]

This is such an underappreciated movie.

[iampigoinkoink]

Well there are too many examples around me of these kind of marriages ..where women have no choice but to tolerate ..and it is easy to say why not just break such marriages but it's harder ...way harder than we think .. people will kill that women blaming her for ruining her family and making their kids lives miserable .. obviously kids suffer in these kind of marriages but when those kids grow
-up watching all this ..they are already ruined .. it's a viscous cycle ...my Massi is in such a bad place in her marriage now but she can't divorce her husband .. Even though she is financially independent .. even her own parents won't support her ..they always ask her to stay quiet for her kids and family .but I see their kids are suffering as much as she is ...she is the one who provides for her family ..her husband is always spending without thinking .. Even if he has to take loans to maintain his life style ...well he just bought a new car and guess who is going to pay for car loan ?? ...she is the one paying those loans always...when I see her suffering and pretending in front of this world to be happy ... it's gonna be harder for me to believe in marriage in future too ..I have him abusing her verbally ..I know he beats her too but she is still trying to save this so called marriage ...🙄 I used to ask my parents why she is so weak ?? Why can't she just leave him ..now I am all grown up and I can see it's almost impossible for her to come out of this hell ....

[salonigulati]

Omg swaddle....you guys have been doing such fantastic especially this recasting dhakane do is so freaking underrated

[ggg-cssf]

My Mom is a financial independent women but not so as my moms whole salary is taken by my father in her service of 10 years she had not taken her salary in these years

[sweetysingh]

i could not agree more with your last sentence that marriage should not be a social imposition but a well thought decision on both part.

[starfish]

Yes completely agree with you. Perfect marriage is a myth.

[nandini]

This movie is reality, I can relate, bad marriage is suffocating

[abhishekkanush]

Marriage is the spiritual matter but society (people) molded it according to its needs...