That Moment You Realize Your Relationship Is Over

We all have a unique story to tell, but some themes are universal. That Moment... you realize your parents are only human. That Moment... you know your relationship needs to end. We talked with 6 individuals who each have a story to tell about "that moment."

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[windexbottle]

i think i may be in love with these types of videos. it uncovers such personal topics in such a beautiful way. bravo.

[블랙스완-tv]

People don't realize this but in relationships you fall in and out of love with the person many times but there has to be some spark to bring you guys back to the feelings you had initially. It takes effort on both sides to develop that spark. If one person is unwilling it won't work. Being in love is a choice. Choosing to stay with your partner through thick and thin is a choice. Not everyone is meant for monogmous relationship. People who don't commit and stick it through when things get tough often have many failed relationships because there will always be something about your significant other at some point that will make you fall out of love.. but you work in the relationship when problems arise, work it through and then fall back in love. Long term relationships are hard work but its worth it in the end. Of course there are deal breakers though that no one should continue to stay in such as cheating, lying, unhealthy addictions, abuse etc. You do have to be compatible in what you value in a relationship for the relationship to work out to some extent. If you fall in love with the person for the wrong reasons you will soon realize your values don't align and the relationship will never last. I know several married couples whose personalities are very different but their relationship lasts because their core values are similar in what they want out of the relationship.

[saividhyakannan]

Sounds like she was going into depression.

[EvolutionofAviation]

What's worse?

*That moment when you realise you can't possibly be in a relationship because you can't even love yourself no matter a whole other person*

Damn, that was depressing

[girlwiththemagicpen]

When you love someone, you never 'stop loving them'. Love as we know it today is very superficial and barely skims the surface. In my opinion love is deeper, like the deepest ocean, and never runs dry.

[lovemecom]

This feeling can hurt so much but we need to accept that things doesn't turn out the way we always want it to be.

[kaylasheppard]

Love is not a feeling. You can feel great when you wake up, then feel crappy 5 min later from something minuscule. People today confuse love with "feeling" love. It is scientifically proven the "lovey dovey" feelings fade after 1 to 2 years. If that's what you call love, I feel sorry for you.

Real love is service, charity. Making your partner feel valued even when you're tired and don't feel like it. Real love is sacrifice, and commitment. Our society values "what do I want" and "I want someone to make ME feel good" we don't experience the full joy of making someone else feel wonderful. THATS where the fulfillment in love comes in, by giving our best to our partner. No one these days knows what real love is. If you're in a relationship only to "feel good" and have someone "make you feel good, " you will never be truly happy.

[kosta]

2:21 - "So I did what anyone should do when they're heartbroken. I put down all the windows in my car, stepped on the gas..."

I thought he'd gonna say that he tried to kill himself by carbon monoxide poisoning.

[thanhhiennguyen]

If you don't love someone, say it, end the relationship or don't even start it.
Love is natural, it's st that time cannot built.
And for me, as a man. I prefer a broken heart more than wasting time in a bad relationship.

[candacewilliamson]

This guy had the most amazing article and podcast on Modern Love. I knew it was his story immediatly! Loved this, SoulPancake you guys make my heart all warm and fuzzy.

[crzll]

Yesterday, I broke up with my fiance. We were together for 2 years, and he too thought that all we needed was to just work it out. But I had just fallen out of love with him, and I didn't want it to happen, and I tried to make it work, but "it" was just...gone. The timing of this video rattles me, as it's almost exactly what what happened to us. I didn't want to break his heart, or hurt him, but how do you tell someone, you just don't love them like you used to? Probably the hardest thing I've had to do, and I'm still figuring out if I made the right choice or not. But I don't think thats an answer I will ever get...

[tillwinterisgone]

Good old Billy Joel. Always there in times of need.

[GIguy]

If life has taught me one thing, is that no matter how hard you try, you can never change people, and you cannot make something that’s broken, work again.

[satnitcboy]

"She was frequently kind and then suddenly cruel, Billy. How did you know?" The power of popular song.

[jordyk]

Relationship is about give and take. Relationship is about cooperation. Relationship is about like the old days when you do the dishes, she wiped the dishes dry, the plates and the glass with dry cloth. And talk amicably in a positive and cheerful environment. Relationship is when she's in pain, you hug her tenderly, and help her and give her what she needs, healthy food or drinks or whatever necessities she needs. And vice versa for you. When you're in pain and she helps to support you. Relationship is about positive communication. Relationship takes lots of energy to make it work. Relationship is hard sometimes.

[killphaser]

So fall in love with the same person AGAIN!!!

[justyouraverageweirdo]

I'm 16 and just got out of my first relationship a few months ago.

She was one of my classmates at school, we hadn't talked much, but she was cute, and I liked her as a person. One day, when I was feeling down on myself, thinking "No one is ever gonna like me back, and I'm gonna be forever alone.", later that day, she asked me if I wanted to try dating her, after a few things happened, I said yes. I was happy, even though we couldn't talk outside of school, or even meet up because of her controlling, homo-phobic, parents who didn't let her go anywhere or have a phone. I, sadly, wasn't at school a lot, because of some personal issues, but I'd try to go and spend as much time with her as I could, without being too clingy or annoying. About a month after we had started dating, a few days before halloween, I was having a mild panic attack in class, she noticed and asked me I was okay, I tell her "I'll be fine.", a few minutes later, she asks me what I thought about cheaters, I tell her what I think. My GF then goes on to say "I think I might like someone else..." and that was it, I asked the teacher if I could use the washroom, then went to the washroom and cried. We've barely even spoken since then, and our conversations are usually short and uneventful.

[AnxiousTrap]

Aww :')
He sounds so sweet. He'll find someone better than her that truly loves him some day.

[idionisio]

You can owe all you want but I believe that if you're married you may even fall out of love but you work it out and you rediscover the person you're with, you do not abandon the other.

[bdavis]

My story's too long, but short version, we married too soon after dating. I knew she had anxieties, but believed that she would feel better as our marriage got underway. Sadly, her paranoia only increased and resulted in her physically attacking me after months of imagined scripts in her head. After a few months, I accepted her back, but the violence happened again. That one moment, I knew that there was no way to save this and it was devastating, but there was no other way. In the years since, we started talking again, and I've helped her with several things. The feelings are complex, it's hard not to be bitter about some of what happened, but I know I must forgive. She recently moved to another state and we are friends. There will always be a love there, but also always a sadness.