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[jerrylavalley]

John, I'm 73 years old and see friends of mine who have decided that getting old, losing your memory, getting fat, and stopping living is normal as we get older, well I'm here to say WRONG!! It always comes down to choices, and as we age and grow in wisdom, we will (hopefully) make better life decisions. Some things I have learned: 1) continue to train your mind and work it like a muscle (I started playing guitar at age 68, and still work part time, gives me purpose); 2) clean up your diet to lose and control weight (I only eat organic, no grocery dairy, no gluten, wild caught fish and grass fed beef only!); 3) exercise your body to keep toned (I do 20 minutes of yoga each morning, and walk at least 12 miles each week), 4) Eliminate Toxic, Narcissistic people from your life, and last, find your spiritual plane, whatever that means to you, oh, and LAUGH!!. Thanks for what you do, John, have a fantastic day!!

[noName-knlx]

whenever i get nostalgic or sad about not being young, i remember being broke, working crappy jobs, the dumb azz people i interacted with, the stupid things i did and said. I compare that to my wiser happier more successful self now and it puts it in perspective

[TechnoLawyer]

Here's general life advice that, as a middle aged man, I'd give to a young man:

1. Take care of your physical health. Don't eat like garbage. Don't smoke. Exercise. Don't take intoxicating substances excessively.

2. Take care of your mental health.

3. Don't spend more than you make. In fact, spend less than you make. If this means you sit at home and eat ramen noodles while your friends go out to a nice restaurant on a credit card? So be it. You'll be better off down the line than they will be.

4. Do something to obtain a gainful career. College with a major that leads to a decent career. Trade school that leads to a decent career. Apprenticeship in a trade. Don't just get a dead-end job and then do nothing to improve your situation.

5. Don't be too proud to ask for help.

6. Stand up for yourself. No, I don't mean go around starting fights. I mean don't let a manager walk all over at you at work, blame you for something, etc. Don't allow a significant other to treat you with disrespect (assuming you have a reasonable rational definition of respect). Be assertive when reasonable to be. This applies to all aspects of life.

7. Avoid toxic people. Friends, family, significant others. Cut them out of your life. But this is really back to #2.

8. Be a man of your word. You say you're going to do something, or not going to do something? Stick to it. You tell your boss the project will be done on Tuesday? Have it done on Tuesday. You tell your mom you'll come see her on Sunday? Go see her on Sunday. You tell a woman you'll call her tomorrow? Call her tomorrow. You have a kid, tell your kid you'll take him out for ice-cream on Sunday? Take him for ice-cream on Sunday. You tell a woman you're exclusive? Don't cheat on her. Being RELIABLE like this is a hugely attractive trait to employers and romantic partners.

As far as what I'd like to be remembered for, a good man who was true to his word, was kind, treated people with respect, was a good father and a good husband.

[mago]

I’m turning 43 in 3 weeks and going through a midlife crisis where I realized I’m not happy because I programmed my happiness in life to depend on a woman who’s been gone for years and has moved on and made a new life with someone else and wants nothing to do with me anymore… waiting for 15 years I finally realized she’s never coming back and it’s my own fault and it’s up to me to change my life to pick up the pieces and move on and try to start over and find my own happiness…. This week was my first therapist session ever and I realized I needed to start it 15 years ago… thanks for sharing this message, I really needed to hear it!

[paulstaples]

I lost my wife 3 years ago way too young to cancer and I totally agree with this guy. I’m living my life as well as I can and I’m going to make the most of what I have left!

[jproog]

Definite food for thought, and something I'm thinking about more as my kids go out on their own.

[frankpape]

John, I follow your channel from Germany for two years. Your speak is clearly understandable, even at 1, 5 speed, and despite my poor english skills. Thank you also for the word "cocky" I have learned today. Wish all the best to you!

[ramsay]

My buddy and I are text each other this very thing. We want to buy a rv and travel. He's 65 and I'm 62. I just sent him this. What a perfect perspective. Everyone needs to see this.

[Joepacker]

Never ever worry about what already has happened in the past, you can't change it, just move on and learn from it. Always try to look at things from some one else's point of view even if you don't agree you might understand that person better. Always be kind to others. Remove toxic people from your life even if they are family you will be better off. Laughter is the best medicine.

[Joele]

We don't have any idea when life will whack us. The guy in the video is right. I am 70. Today is precious to me, and every day after that is that more precious than the last. Make the best of what you have left.

[aqmendoza]

John, as I continually watch more of your videos, the more of its contents resonate with me and this video summarizes it all for someone like me, who, despite my age would continually want to grow and have more of a growth mindset. Yes, we may have more history behind us and only a few years ahead of us, but the future looks more exciting than ever as we try to rediscover more things about ourselves as we try new things that we ever thought possible. We can only go as far as our limiting minds allow us to but by pushing your limits, we defeat our fixed mindset. I have learned a long time ago that our happiness can only come from within and not other people. I don't need others to validate my feelings since no one knows me better than myself. Again, thank you for sharing your thoughts as we all learn from each other as we try to navigate our future together. You, sir, are a legend in your own right!

[meteor]

I’m 71 and yes way too many senior guys give up and get lazy and quit. I exercise stay fit wear clothes that fit, etc. But most don’t.

[anthonyandandreaseddon]

This was an excellent video a good reminder. I recently went through cancer treatment you never know when your time may be up. You have to own your life and do what you can to get (and give) joy from it

[darrenbeachy]

Thank you John for your honesty! Great lessons on leaving a legacy!

[andrewwetton]

Thank you John. My wife says I dress better and look much better physically since I started watching your channel months ago. I’ve totally taken on board all your comments in shoes, pants, shirts etc and have notes on my phone so when I do go looking at clothes or shoes I have my “John notes” which I follow. I think you once said that “if you follow this advice you will look much better than 90% of the man you see around you” in the street or in a bar or cafe or restaurant and it’s true. I’m appalled at the way 90% of men dress its like they just don’t care at all.
Another classic look is when I see a couple maybe on vacation heading out for the evening.
Lady is wearing a smart (black) short cocktail dress, pearl necklace, lovely leather pumps - heels, a nice handbag and looks well put together. Her male companion, cargo shorts mid calf, old t uni toned crumpled shirt, running shoes. Really ???? What ? you can’t make ANY effort at all? Then you don’t deserve her !!

[kirkdarling]

I'm 70 years old. My life lesson, which I poorly learned, was to be willing to fail. If there is one quote I'd like to be remembered by, it's this: "Failure requires maximum effort. If you didn't give it 100%, you didn't fail...you quit."

[SarcoidosisWarrior]

Oh how this resonates with me John as I don't have long left as you know - everyone please take my advice and "Live every day as if it's your last ! "

[XanderJudd]

I just finished going through 10 boxes of photos and documents I’ve collected from 68 years; many from parents and others. As I sorted, I realized most of the photos meant more to me than they will to my kids and their kids. They don’t even know a lot of people in the photos. I spent some time thinking and realized it was okay to trash the majority of the photos because I have the memories. I scanned a couple thousand that I can pass on, but I feel I’ve saved my kids a lot of burden of whether to keep the photos or not. Bonus: everything I scanned, I threw out the originals and I’m fine with that. Plus I feel accomplished having looked over everything; like cleaning out my closet. That’s a little about legacy, and maybe it will help someone else trying to do the same thing. Double bonus: I relived some of the memories and that made me happy. And it only cost me time.

[aquicktake]

Funny, I saw that same clip a couple of days ago. Really puts in perspective how much time we have left.

[alwayspooh]

The tape thing at the start is a great visual representation of your life, and how much is left! John, great choice of content to add to your already great video!!