How Negative Thinking Ruined My Life

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[akaErma]

I was also "overly sensitive" as a child, and as I got older it became clear no one was interested in understanding *why* I was so emotional, and I started anesthetizing my emotions for the sake of others. To no one's surprise, this attracted other cynical, detached people into my life. Since realizing I probably have ADHD I realized that the emotional suppression was a survival mechanism, both psychological and social, and I've been actively working on unlearning my avoidant tendencies. This has led to some conflicts with people in my life who are not still not interested in understanding my emotions, or their own, but I can say unequivocally that every day I allow myself to be sincere and expressive is better than the last.

[martinvansanten]

It is kinda scary how similar we are. It is like you're telling my whole life. Anyway, I missed you haha, I'm glad you're all better now :)

[stagehand]

I completely relate to this though i dont believe lone wolves suffer from personality disorders. We are what we are. At the end of the day I dont want people around. Though again this video showed up just as Ive been reflecting on how my adhd chaos/condition makes people tend to not engage. Ive got a lot to work on. Its all new to me at 57. Thank You

[MykaGhostt]

Setbacks always heavily discourage me. I've always had a hard time with acceptance of things I can't control or change. My partner often tells me I need to change my attitude and also accept things more. It isn't easy, but the baby steps I've been making are making a difference. Being cynical used to be a survival mechanism for me, but I don't need it anymore, and it's hard to let go of. Learning to live and not just survive is probably the hardest thing for me personally

[Shadow-yqvp]

"It's a habit that you built up" Very true, and sometimes you get so used to negative thinking it just sticks with you, but there are ways to get rid of that kind of thinking.

[HannahSquats]

You're right, vulnerability with a person you love is worth it.

[liammcaulay]

The amount of jobs or courses I talked myself out of in the past because of negative thinking and ruminating is unreal. You’re very brave to bring it up many others would benefit from watching this video!

[virtualjonathan]

Sounds like you are describing me! I work every waking second to be less judgemental, more vulnerable and meet the BS with kindness and compassion. It is exhausting and sucks balls most of the time BUT I'm seeing people are kinder and more compassionate with me.

[yusufhabib]

I can relate to everything you said, I am 17 years old, I suffer from negative thinking after every experience I have of socialising

[johnnyrayh]

Happy I found your channel, I relate with your experience and growth so much. Thank you

[muslimahsharing]

This cynical bastard part is so heart breaking to me, as the mother of an adhd teen son.

Like all of my life, my love, my effort, my strugle, my whole hours and days, moths, years trying to understand him, to help him, boils down to nothing. He can't see me.

I'm just an ill intention mom, whose trying to get him off from having fun. That's how much i mean to him.

I am so tired and drained, and my heart shattered. Like nothing i do matters.

[diannedow]

Thanks Stuart. I recently heard a good illustration about controlling negative thinking. If we accidentally got on a train going to the wrong destination what would we do? We would get off at the next stop and get on the right train. If we find ourselves going in the wrong direction with our thoughts we need to get off the negative “train” and go in the right direction.

[MasterMind-]

Been in therapy and on meds a month now. Honestly would not have made the decision without you and a few other people with adhd sharing your advice & journey. I've been diagnosed with adhd my whole life but I suffer from it pretty severely. I thought I was alone. Thank you for sharing.

[heavenlycute]

I so relate to this! Up to my teenage years, I was very outgoing, optimistic and *loved* performing. At 14, I started showing signs of depression and ever since, I have been very sceptical of people. I was wary of everyone thinking I was weird, pretty much believing that no one would like me.

I hope you are well. Thank you so much for making this video and keeping this channel going, you do so much for all of us watching.

[calvincustard]

Love the direction you're taking the channel Stuart! Definitely relate to suffering from high expectations of the world, but gradually improving!

[zeppie]

Wow now I think about it I can't remember when I have been positive about something. I also am someone who doesn't like people due to past experience. I've always been negative about basically everything either if it's about me and my capabilities or someone else. Everytime I think I would really like to try or do something instantly my thoughts are theres no way you can do that or theres no way they will like you. Also if anyone ever says anything positive about me I'm afraid to take that on because I think that eventually there minds will change or they will get fed up of me. Thank you so much for your videos they are always so great and make me think that if someone else felt the same and can try and change why can't I.

[ipkickss]

I feel you. To be honest I have been trying to be different, but it is hard. Sometimes a feel that is hard to achieve it since some people is hard to manage, some people try to provoke me, others are hard to argue because they are fools. It's really complicated and it's even harder when that ppl are part of your family.

[sbai]

Cheers from Australia Stuart. Photography has been a great therapy for me!

[yellowledbutter]

Thanks for sharing. I’ve recently started doing a few mins of gratitude reflection and it definitely helps centre me

[AdEvolution]

Always enjoy watching videos that are a mirror of my life 😂 😁Completely agree with you that you get back what you send out.
I find I struggle with the reverse of that too, how the world is and how messed up the UK is right now really seems to make me emotional in a way that I just want to quit. I literally cannot understand how (as an "intelligent" species) we are where we are and how many people are suffering. I could go on forever about things I literally don't understand why we are like we are but the point is, why do I want to be part of a world that is so cruel and turning out to be worse?