INTJs - 12 Rules for Life

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[amysiebert]

For number 4, (Being an INTJ myself) I actually think that INTJ's are pretty good at dropping their former beliefs as soon as they find data to the contrary, and in fact they are happy to find data to the contrary because I feel like INTJ's like to know the truth rather than just "be right" as it may seem at times (although playing devil's advocate is extremely fun in some situations). The only reason that it may seem like INTJ's hold onto this idea that they have from their leap of intuition is because very often they are very educated and use all the data the INTJ has at hand.

[rad]

As an INTJ here are my 12 rules for life for everyone else:

1. Leave me alone.
2. Leave me alone.
3. Leave me alone.
4. Leave me alone.
5. Leave me alone.
6. Leave me alone.
7. Leave me alone.
8. Leave me alone.
9. Leave me alone.
10. Leave me alone.
11. Leave me alone.
12. No wearing hats on a Wednesday

[LarfleezeOrangestein]

As an actual INTJ, if you discredit your INTJness because you are disorganized, look at your environment first. If you live with messy people that constantly disrupt every system you try to set in place, eventually you get trained to not even try. Try living by yourself, big change youll notice.
Edit: Number 5 is difficult because people are annoying

[micahroberts]

#10: I'm an INTJ and a therapist. This is one of the better pieces of advice he could give to us INTJs. I cannot even begin to describe the enormous amount I have learned about the world and myself by asking, "What other reason could explain their behavior? What is their actual goal? What value do they have that I'm not seeing here?" Highly recommend!

[thattimestampguy]

0:18 Trust your own experience
• many will claim to be just like you

0:52 Energy Efficiency, Min-Maxing 1:43 Don’t waste your resources

1:50 Be Intentional With People
• Drained by social interaction
• investment should yield results

2:40 Ground Patterns With Data
• Check your math
• Confirm • Avoid Bias

4:04 Make Yourself Useful To Others
• Desires Independence
• Involved while maintaining Independence

4:47 Everything is A Lesson
• Detached Perspective becomes Self-Reflection
• Analyze

5:56 Leap First (Sometimes)
• Control Chaos

7:29 Style Is The Gateway To Substance
• Mastermind, Schemer
• Optical
• Don’t like being superficial
• Desire to be authentic

8:34 Avoid Isolation at all costs
• It’s about staying in contact

9:18 There Are No Stupid People
• Why is that person acting that way?
• Learning why gives insight

10:19 Avoid Sensory Indulgence (And Rage)

10:56 Prioritize Experience over Achievement (Sometimes)
• Adventure pays off

[BashaerB-hc]

#8 Style is the gateway to substance

This is a fantastic observation you made about INTJs which very few mention. I'm a female INTJ and came to this realization years ago about the importance of presenting myself in a certain way. I've always dressed deliberately to get what I want as if I'm an actor. However, I consider each individual presentation *a part* of me which links to authenticity. I'll never wear something that doesn't have my trademark because even when I'm "acting" to get what I want, I still want to have part of my self presented to the world. Plus, it may be superficial but people treat you mostly based on how you dress and this is a reality I decided to embrace instead of being stubborn and living in LA LA lolo land. It's also so much fun wearing makeup, a dress, and heels swinging my designer bag while many people think I'm a dumb bimbo while I listen to them speak. Acting initially dumb helps me filter out the toxic types that think they can manipulate me based on my looks.

[SqueakyIri]

It's interesting how similar yet different INFJs and INTJs are. Our dominant introverted intuition really colors everything we do.

[web_jar]

As a 'maturing' INTJ, this video has a lot of value and useful insights. Thank you.

[ahfty]

I have one addition. Ask more questions instead of assuming you can figure it out on your own with information you have already gathered. More information from questions will always lead to more accurate conclusions. Even if those questions are hard to ask.

[swiftmk]

This video is simultaneously the most out-of-pocket call out, and also extremely useful advice. Very enjoyable, INTJ approves

[harshitaharsh]

As an INTJ, i didn't like someone telling me my rules.

[theoriginalinukage]

The taking control of chaotic situations is so spot on. I really get a kick out of a problem with high stakes. And I'm super bored right now because I'm all caught up on my tasks because I have a system and it's super efficient when i Focus on completing the tasks. Tasks without stakes are the worst

[johnknight]

I thought this was very elegantly pieced together, Nathan. I think there's a certain subtlety and nuance that needs to be understood with INTJs and efficiency. We're great with efficiency *when we apply ourselves to it* but don't necessarily want to be seen as efficiency masters.
People over-emphasise the role of Te in our lives. I obviously can't speak for all INTJs, but personally, Te isn't something I hold as a core central part of my identity. Instead, it's more like a switch I turn on and off. I dare say that most of us want to live in the Ni-Fi zone, and that's our natural state of being. Te is when I put the big-boy pants on and get down to work. Quite often, I don't even like this side of myself, but it is extremely useful, and gets things done. But I love turning it off when I'm done with it.

[JT-wchr]

Number 6 is spot on….. I’ve been in situations where I’m having open, fun discussions with people my opinion offended someone and then in an attempt to ease their their mind I explained that I didn’t mean to upset them and I don’t place much value on feelings theirs or my own and that just made it much worse. In retrospect I get it, I upset them then told them I didn’t care if they were upset but I didn’t mean to sound careless I was just trying to explain how my mind actually works, my mind seeks to understand not empathize.

[Rodelaporte]

My notes
5) make others successful and you will be needed.
6) leap first. Shake things up then plan, analyse, execute. Don't get stuck
8) Style. Just be authentic.
9) Avoid isolation at all costs
10) There are no stupid people. They just have a different mental model
11) Avoid sensory indulgence and rage
12) priorities experience over achievements

[isaochy]

For ‘leaping first’ (7) I have recently read some Nietzsche who said to Live Dangerously! which basically means to be vigorous in your decisions. I have found this very useful when I get stuck in phases of indecision and need to realise that sometimes the plan and priorities are important enough to dive right even if it feels like there’s a more optimal outcome.

[MissyBelleSYD]

This video gave me a light bulb moment. I cannot stress how unusual it is for me to watch something and come to a realization that I did not previously have; well done. The point made about the pattern recognition doesn’t necessarily come to the right conclusion has finally answered the question of why we are so obsessed with heavily researching a topic. This is an insight that I didn’t previously have. The reason we’re constantly seeking out all of the information about a particular topic is to make sure that our pattern recognition has the most amount of data to connect the dots so that we come to the right answer. It’s just like artificial intelligence that requires massive amounts of data to train it to be able to accurately predict the situation. This is similar how the INTJ brain works. What am amazing insight to make. I had never thought it about it like this before. Clearly you know more when you research more, but your also optimizing the pattern recognition to see all potential future pathways and scenario outcomes with greater clarity.

[Lamp-Light_Ministries]

I have found that as a (self diagnosed) INTJ that if you appear "successful" people seem to think that you are. And that tends to lead your places. Hence the part about "looking the part" Quite often I get asked if I'm a part of something or some business just because I seem to look "professional" in my attire.

I have also been told that I have quite expensive taste in all manners of my life. Best "Bang for your buck" rings true. I've always had the mindset you might as well get the best you can get if you're going to get something and to not settle for less.

That mindset bleeds into many aspects of my life be at good or bad.

[Ayenyint]

I am an Intj, and I've got to tell you, I'm sick of myself and exhausted lol. Questioning why people do things constantly in my head and seeing past my own biases, though helpful sometimes makes it difficult for me to exist in a world of constant greys and bombardment from so many different perspectives that others strangely don't see. You understand the different sides but in the end sometimes there's just no compromise or middle ground or its just emotions vs logic between whichever stakeholders or parties it is. Many don't understand, I see it but I'm tired of seeing it. I wish I was blind, I wish I was ignorant. It's a mistake to be open and see past biases. Complicates life, and lifts the veil and I don't think a human being is able to handle this level of uncertainty because when you see it but have no good solution, that loneliness of knowing but being useless is a huge burden. I'm just tired ....

[wavesmusic]

I laughed out loud at 10. As an INTJ myself I related to a lot of what was listed. Well done