Precarious Manhood - and the trap for men

The idea of precarious manhood has been studied now for a number of years. When we also consider the ideas of testosterone we begin to see the trap that is layed for men.

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[Seeleau]

@Men Are Good! Tom, another pure gold here. That's the thing about "fragile masculinity" that women accuse men of all too often.

[thedude]

That's some great advice !
Thanks for that, Men need more advice like that !
Keep up the good work (y)

[Slamitdownhard]

Great advice as always Tom. I think maturity plays a big role for men to learn they do not have to prove themselves. They already know because of the fact that they been able to meet life's challenges. Glad to see you are boycotting Gillette as well. :)

[castlesurfco]

such a lovely video presentation! thanks so much!! subscribed

[tylersingleton]

I just watched a mini series on Netflix called Stongland. It is about the games of strength of some of the ancient people's of the world. My favorite episode is about Scotland and the lifting stones they have that have been lifted by males who have wanted to prove their manhood to their clans and cheifs from as early as 2000 years ago.

[guusvandermeulen]

Your guidance is more useful than the APA Guidelines. You're a smart lobster. 😜🦞

[jayblomquist]

I can’t like this one enough! Thanks Tom I grew up with Bullies, humor is a relentless defense.

[spadeghostvampire]

Mine is gathered knowledge from personal experience being challenged when I know my knowledge gained is a fact in human nature by how people act versus what they say they are. When my knowledge gained is challenged, I take it personally on my gathered experience when someone insults my intellect when I know something as a fact because I tried to defuse those gathered facts multiple times just to come up with the same conclusion.

[ClassPunkOnRumbleAndSubstack]

This is a great, informative video, and I'm grateful to your youtube channel for introducing me to the concept of precarious manhood in an earlier video. But the one point I wish you would've made more directly here is that once a male hits puberty, they are a man, period, and that is scientific fact and reality. But that's my nitpicking because I feel strongly about this subject as someone who has high enough standards in dating that I've never had sex, and knowing that I would take endless criticism from all directions if I mentioned to people in real life that I've never bothered to have sex because I don't value casual relationships, even though the pleasure I've gotten from meditation in the past is probably greater.

The second most important point on precarious manhood after that, from my point of view, is that when examining precarious manhood, there has to be a separation between the science of being a man from hitting puberty, and being masculine-- or the debate over what traditional masculine traits are, because its important to humanize men, but also not fall into the modern leftist trap of believing that masculine traits don't exist, and thus gender differences don't exist. Just my two cents for what it is worth.

[headrat]

The hierarchy is buckshot and artificial. It is taught to us very young. A case in point is the game I learned in kindergarten called musical chairs. The game uses operant conditioning to teach scarcity, competition and bullying.

[drtyluver]

I will never try to prove myself to any female on earth

[rpxcyc]

women are human beings, men are human doings. a woman has value for society by being female, men only have value for society as long as they protect, provide and serve.


it's also the reason why the chance to get divorced by the wife increases drastically when a husband loses his job, the job (what we do, the service we provide to the wife and society at large) is a big part of the male identity, loss of that identity is also one of the main reasons for male suicide, hence again the spike for suicide after job loss/ divorce.

[rmd]

oh why doesn't the mental health pros know this!?

[worldlylexicon]

I don't get it. I think I was supposed to make a mental connection but it never came. What is the trap?

[miestenneuvonta]

My manhood isn't precarious at all because I don't have any manhood: I'm technically a man.

[malus]

I think this is one of the reasons why schools tend to be so bad.
You have lots of children thrown together with unclear social hierarchies at the start and no real way out for those that are not accepted into the group or the hierarchy or abused at the bottom of it.

I have to say though, as a gay guy with maybe less masculine tendencies, there are definitely parts of it which I also just do not get in the same way.
Even among men, we can be wired differently enough.